locked the door, took off his pull up and hid to play w/ him self? I know children explore them selves but he has been doing it alot lately. I don't want to scold him for it. What should I do to control it?
2006-08-10 04:15:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It is normal. It is sometimes used to comfort themselves, and mostly, it just plain feels good! You are right not to scold him for it... it is natural. Making him feel bad for doing it will only put a negative on something that feels so good to him and cause him to feel shame. For now, as long as he goes to his room to do this, let it be. If you see him start to do it when he is somewhere else in the house or when you are on an errand, calmly, in a low voice, tell him that he may do that in his room. Don't attach a feeling of shame or guilt to it, just say that that is something he needs to do in his room. He's realized this is a great way to feel good! The only time you need to worry about "sexual" type behaviours is if he is doing something completely inappropriate for his age (such as "going down" on other children) or using objects to insert in himself or on his dolls. Then, I would be concerned that he is learning this type of behaviour from an adult or adult-content-containing videos. For now, don't make a big deal out of the masturbation... if you don't make it a big deal, he won't feel as if he is doing something "wrong" and feel negatively about it. As long as it doesn't appear to be taking up all his free time or have an inappropriate feel to it, he is doing what comes naturally!
2006-08-10 04:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son is also 3 yrs and does the same thing. It is a phase all little boys go through. They are curious about their body parts. maybe a talk with a male figure in the little man's life would be beneficial. He needs to know that is okay what he is doing, but he needs to be discreet about it. Just be thankful he does it behind closed doors and not out in public or in the family room. You shouldn't scold him for something that is natural. Good Luck
2006-08-10 04:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by worried_mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little boys at the stage of life will explore themselves. It's perfectly normal behavior. The locked door is an indications that he's not comfortable sharing his thoughts or feelings with others at this point in his life. To scold him; would produce alienation, false guilt, and condemnation. Let him be for the time being. This sort of behavior will pass and he'll learn that his body parts are normal and grow to be healthy.
2006-08-10 04:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, he probably shouldn't have a lock on his door until he's old enough to need it; when he's eight, maybe? It's dangerous for preschoolers to have locks because they could get into something dangerous. It's okay for him to play with himself sometimes, but explain that it's not something he should do when there are people other than his parents around.
2006-08-10 05:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal . They have the same anatomy as adult and get the same pleasure that an adult would get. My 2 year does it too. we tell her to stop touching her self, it's not nice to do it all the time and she might hurt herself. But hay at least he's doing it in his room and in privacy, You right don;t scold him just talk to him and tell him to give it a rest that it told you it need to sleep for a few days, see if he listens .. try to make it funny (kids respond better to funny things and games)
2006-08-10 06:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by manda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty normal. But, be sure to tell him that it is not ok for other people to touch him there. Sexual Abuse is easier when kids are more familiar with their bodies and their parents forget to tell them about dangers of other people. If a potential abuser sees your son doing that, they will see an oppertunity.
Tell him that he should talk to you right away if someone else is touching him there.
2006-08-10 05:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by candyandcaleb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal.
Kids do it alot, actually. It's exploring, etc. Just be happy he goes in his room. I know some kids that have done it right out in the living room!
2006-08-10 04:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by Justin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is normal for the age but have you looked lately to see if he has a rash and needs to scratch? Little dude may have chiggers or something else equally irritating
2006-08-10 05:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal, all little boys do it, you just need to be careful that he's not getting in other kids space. sometimes little boys get too interested in body parts, even girl parts, and they don't know about the "personal bubble" don't mention it unless it comes up, but if it does, you definitely need to talk.
2006-08-10 06:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just making sure it is still there. LOL It is nothing to be concerned about. All guys start to have intrest in thier lil thingys from 2-death LOL
2006-08-10 04:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋