2006-08-10 04:14:18 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Where do i begin?
I used to be the girl who never made the first move. Then I heard guys like it, etc. So i would make the first moves.
Big mistake.
It makes a girl seem too out there, in your face. In theory its nice for guys but in real life its overwhelming for guys.
The first move is scary, for fear of rejection. But the very very first move.. i think its ok for the girl to make. But after that let the guy carry on.
I just ended a relationship in which I was not afraid to make the first moves, and 2 days ago (when it ended) you know wat the guy said?
he said everythign was my fault cuz i was the one who wanted it and pushed it on him.
If you dont ever wnat to hear that from a guy (cuz it hurts) then dont make the first moves.
2006-08-10 04:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way historically it has for the most part been socially unacceptable for a woman to make the first move. If she did she would be branded a tramp or some thing else that would put a stain on family honor. sure we as a civilization have evolved by leaps and bounds since the wild west and time b4 that. However stereotypes like that are a real bear to break
2006-08-10 04:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by lonly_male4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we are scared just like you guys. But I made the first move on my guy I'm dating. He was too shy and I knew that I wanted to taste thoughs sweet lips so i went in and landed me one. But I think both sexes are hesitate it's just known that the man should do everything first. It's an old fashion thing.
2006-08-10 04:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys want you to. I know with my fiance I did let him know I found him attractive because I knew he thought I was and he was shy and he did not know what I thought of him, and he is the one that asked me out on the first date, but as far as who made the first move...well, verbally, I DID, If you get technical but it was obvious to his friends and mine that what he thought of me so I had nothing to lose! But, he was the one who made that into a more serious gesture.
Still, I learned this from him: most guys (yes, MOST guys, not all) like a challenge and , so how much challenge would you give a man if you made the first move, all the time, every time throughout the whole relationship? It's a bad precedent to start off with: the overly-aggressive gal thing, and I don't think it's becoming on a female to pursue a guy without a thought to his feelings or how he might want to be "handled" as not every guy finds that attractive, and it could come off as psycho/stalker-ish.
2006-08-10 04:25:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because society has taught girls from the onset that they are not the ones who are supposed to make the first move it has since changed in that there are some women who make the first move but sometimes guys are turned off when a girl makes the first move he gets the impression that she wants to take charge and may think that she will be controlling whereas other guys love when the girl makes the first move
2006-08-10 04:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on the persons in touch would not it? it rather is frightening for a woman to make the 1st pass. The stress and concern of having rejected makes us hesitate, while for a boy it rather is extra hardship-unfastened for them to make the 1st pass, so there is far less stress approximately getting rejected. I'vee in no way made the 1st pass, yet whilst i presumed that he enjoyed me, I enjoyed him and that i ought to be sure an outstanding relationship with him then i don't ideas making the 1st pass. i'm gentle with myself and assured, i'm confident if he rejected me i could stay to tell the story.
2016-10-01 21:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm old fashion. I don't think a girl should make the first move. They can make any move after that but not the first one.
2006-08-10 04:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by liljomo1234 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my newest relationship I have been real hesitant... and I have no idea why!! I think I am really afraid of rejection and intimidated by him.. I want to and I think about it all the time, but when it comes time to do.. I get freaked out and stop myself.. and this goes for everything, from holding his hand to initiating anything else.. sucks.
2006-08-10 04:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by C-BIZZLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because most males go off and fill your friends in on everything that the girl done if she makes the first move and make out like the girl wants the fella so bad and also we are more shy....
2006-08-10 04:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by laura m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we are just to shy to make the first move. Then again some of us was taught that the guy is to make the move first.
2006-08-10 04:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by baby2hot4you2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋