My ex recently told me that he knew he couldn't live without me, that he tried that once but he was miserable. Actually he used the terms "we tried that once and we were miserable." Yes, I was miserable for awhile, I will admit that, but as much as I love him I can't make myself sit around and wait on him. He tells me that he believes we will eventually be together, that fate will put us together in the end. While it sounds great and we are best friends, I almost feel cheated just waiting on fate to "re-join" us. Sometimes I wonder if he just makes himself miserable and won't give in to what will make him happy...namely me. Am I stupid if I just don't want to play these games anymore. I want to see things in life, and if we are together in the end then so be it, but right now I want a life. Am I being stupid and unfair?
2006-08-10 04:09:03 · 62 answers · asked by GoodJob 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never ever call yourself stupid!! You already answered your question, you don't want to get back with him. He is controlling , making you doubt your own common sense, and lowering your self-esteem. Don't be around him, he is just a familiar presence which you define as comfortable in your own mind. Let yourself be just you for awhile, then when you feel confident,then start dating if you want to. Do something for yourself now, don't try to please other people. Good luck!! You sound like a very sensible person.
2006-08-18 02:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by hollyltstarfleet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy you two can still be best friends after dating, living together, and things not working out. I'd be grateful for the friendship alone. You don't need to "wait" for anyone. Maybe fate will bring you together ONE DAY, but until then, you can't/won't wait for anyone. You have a life too, so you must move on and live it. Date other people and have a good time. Life is way too short, and if you guys still have a tight bond, you should both move on and if it's meant to be, it'll be...
2006-08-10 04:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not stupid it's some of the smartest thinking I have seen on this site.
you want stupid I have you beat. I told some that didn't have the same feeling that I had that I had fallen in love with her even though I knew she could never feel the same way because there was a big age diffence and now she hates me and I deserve it.
Don't play games you have to do what makes you happy and that is best for YOUR future
2006-08-10 04:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being stupid to want a life, and you are not being unfair. Tell him that if he wants to wait on fate to ultimately bring you back together then that's fine but you need a life and you love him but you are tired of games and you are ready to move on until he gets his **** together.
2006-08-18 02:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you didn't clarify what, exactly, is going on, so I don't entirely understand the situation. Why aren't you two together? Why is he waiting for fate to 'rejoin" you? But no, you're not wrong for wanting to live your life. You're not married and although you love him, you shouldn't have to put your life on hold just because he wants to sit around and do nothing. You have a right to live your life.
2006-08-10 04:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you are being stupid or unfair. I think it's crazy to say you're going to wait on fate to re-join you, when the two of you are in contact and can be together if you choose to. I think he's just stringing you along, waiting to see if something better comes along. If so, he already has his excuse in the ready.
2006-08-17 04:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by SpittinThaReal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no! What it sounds like he wants is to date whomever he pleases, with you waiting patiently in the background. You need to move on with your life, and if fate throws the two of you together somewhere down the line, you can applaude him then with the fact that he was right. Until then however... live your life for you!
2006-08-10 04:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by xiannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't being stupid or unfair. Until "fate" brings you two together, get out! live! enjoy life! with or without him with you.
Once he sees you are doing things and appearing to be having fun in your life without him, he may come around to helping the fates to rejoin you sooner than later.
2006-08-10 04:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Big-Sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok he sounds like a sap. Sometimes guys say stuff and play games because he doesn't know what he really wants. And maybe he doesn't want anyone else to have you. He's wasting your time. It may hurt him, but if you can't sit around and wait on him, go live the life you want to live.
2006-08-10 04:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋