What on earth would make a mother leave.......?

Question

her 3 young children and never see them again, have no contact what-so-ever throughout their lives?

The mother has never tried to find her children - she walked away and trying to find her is very difficult as her name is nowhere to be found.

The children would have been easy to find because they have a unique name - also the family lived in the same area for many many years.

Answer 1

dont judge me but did for about 4 months i was not on drugs me and their dad was having problems i could not support them and i refused to put them at risk .sometimes people do not think before they make babies and babies become another problem instead of risking them harm it is better to leave them in a safe place. i have been home for a year now and i would never do it agian.

Answer 2

I left my Step daughter at age 6. From the age of 1, she was the light of my life, and not a day goes by when I don't think about her.

I have not seen her since the day I left and it kills me.
I had to go.
I couldn't take her with me.

Leaving any child is the hardest thing a mother can do... BUT
DO NOT JUDGE THESE WOMEN.
They have their reasons, some of which may be more terrible than you could ever imagine.
I hope that the children have been left with someone who can try to understand that.

Mental Health is a very complex thing, and can make some people behave in the strangest of ways.
She may feel that if she'd taken the children with her, she wouldn't of been able to care for them properly, so her actions have been selfless and not selfish. In her mind she has done what's best for the children.

If they are old enough, try to explain this, never tell them that their mother doesn't love them - that would be heartbreaking. Show them photos, ask past friends and family to talk to them about her, she does after all exist, like that or not.
If you try to tell them what a terrible mum she is, they will feel terrible and think it's their fault. They may even doubt their own parenting abilities.

Do what you know to be right.

Answer 3

It could be a number of things, for in-stints;
Depression
Drugs
Feel like an unfit mother
Guilt
Regrets
Helplessness
And the list goes no, no-one knows besides the mother herself. We can not judge her as we don't know what she is going through at the time. She might think at the time it was the best thing to do but now finds it hard to go back as she might get rejected herself. She must feel bad now after doing it but she must have needed help is some way. People have their reasons, so if it has happened to you or some one you know just let the mother explain her side. All stories have two sides to them. My friend has gone through this so I know a little about this situation. Good luck

Answer 4

Men leave their children all the time and never see them again so I don't know why people think it's so wrong when a women does it.

Also, men are equally capable of bringing children up as women are.

The question you should be asking is why any parent would leave their children, not just mothers.

Answer 5

Wow so many negative answers from such a cruel world.Maybe she did have a problem with drugs,depression,men,so what!!!She at least wanted better for her children.Most mothers make their children stay with them and watch their every mistake.I wish my mother would have run off and left me.She instead stayed around long enough to ruin my life then took off.So maybe as a blessing to you or your siblings,life is better for you than it could have been.Painful to not know the truth but maybe the truth would be heartbreaking too.Good luck God bless:O)

Answer 6

there could be several reasons none of which may be good. Sometimes women get overwhelmed by children and feel that is better to give them to someone who can care for them. If the mother is on drugs maybe it is better that she has no contact so that the children will not be affected.

Answer 7

You must be talking about my boyfriends ex-wife. He's had full custody of his 2 kids for almost 2 years now and she never sees her first child she had when she was a teenager. To sum it up in my opinion, a father or mother who has nothing to do with their childrens lives, are deadbeats. The kids you are talking about are probably better off with whoever is raising them. It's probably also better for the kids that they don't see their mom instead of the once in awhile visits with no phone calls inbetween.

Answer 8

My first thought would be some type of mental illness.
Or maybe an inability to properly care for the children and left them thinking she was doing what was best for them in the long run.

Anything is possible... no one person can tell you the reasons behind anothers actions. Only the person who did the action can shed light on the whys.

Answer 9

She may have been pushed so far she felt she would go over the edge so she had to get out of the situation. Maybe she was mentally abused and was told that her kids would be better off without her! A mother does not do this likely so she obviously had a very good viable reason, not go back, well maybe she couldn't stand their Dad or was scared of him!

Answer 10

Mad would have to be some sort of mental issues or maybe just needing space to clear her head. Maybe once she has walked out its harder to come back. I am sure that any mother who walks out of there child life lives to regret it and i am sure that they dont stop thinking about the children the rest of there lives.
Another reason for a women walking out could be the husband ???

Answer 11

You don't give enough information about the circumstances to offer a use response. Did she leave them because of a crack addiction? Perhaps she decided the children would be better off without her. Is this a personal experience? Perhaps you are not being objective.