WHo THINKS THAT LITTLE KIDS STINK?

Question

Children will be children is the wrong response. I went to a kids movie with my children. The people sitting behind us allowed their BRATS to hold onto the backs of our chairs, which pulled our hair, hum into their straws, which were directly behind my head, fight with each other, kick the chair and talk for the ENTIRE movie. All the parents said was "now Shaaaawwwwn...." with a little "please tone" which did NOTHING to resolve the situation. People- have your children behave or get a sitter. Period. We go out to eat to enjoy ourselves. My kids would have ONE chance to behave this way- and they would NEVER go out again. Going to dinner is a luxury, not a given for some people. Leave the brats at home. Screaming, yelling, running, throwings fits or food- NOT CUTE. I don't want to be seated in smoking OR WHINING. Go to chuck e. cheese with all the other ill behaved monsters. I ALSO THINK ITS STUPID WHEN THEY SING STUPID LITTLE SONGS TO THEMSELFS!

Answer 1

I know what you mean!! We were out eating dinner the other night and this family one table away was letting their child climb up on and stand on the window ledge next to their table! All I could do is stare at them in disbelief and disgust. I honestly could not understand why any adult would allow a child to do this. When they saw me staring all they said to the child was "Be careful" in that tone that has absolutely no authority or firmness and that the child knows isn't worth crap. My 4 year old saw the boy and said to him, "You need to get down, we don't act like that." I could not have been more proud of her! She knows how to behave in public, she has her moments don't get me wrong, but we have shown her what we expect of her since she was very small. Unfortunately it is the parents' fault when the kids misbehave. They fail to teach their children respect for themselves as well as others and it's truly a sad commentary for young people. And for all of you who are getting offended or angry at this question, you either don't have kids or you don't discipline your kids, so get over it. It's the rest of us that have to deal with bratty kids and it's not right. But, I do love it when my daughter sings to herself! Sorry, it's cute, lighten up a little and you might enjoy it, too.

Answer 2

That situation is entirely the parent's fault. It sounds like the kids are running the show in that family unit. You should have complained to the manager of the movie theatre - you would have either gotten a refund or the people behind you would have been spoken to. Why didn't you just change seats if it bothered you so much? But I will have you know that when my 2 year old sings a song, it's like the best music in the world and she can't even carry a tune! But look at it this way, you can use this as a learning experience for your own children (who's ages you didn't mention). Tell them that if they ever behave the same way as those other children, then that would be the LAST time they ever go to the movies until they're 18.

Answer 3

I tend to agree to a certain extent - parents let kids get away with murder ... from running around uncontrolled to screaming to behaving like complete heathens.
But the key here to remember is THE PARENTS ALLOW IT. If you have a beef with the situation, blame the parents, not the kids. Kids only do as they are taught and behave as they are allowed to behave.

However, there is something you can do in nearly every situation to minimize YOUR personal discomfort.
The movie for example: You could have turned around and said very loudly, "Do you MIND?? We are trying to watch the movie!" 9 times out of 10, the parents will put a clamp on the kids; or you could have simply gotten up and moved away, or worst case, contacted an usher or the manager and the people would have been removed or spoken to.
In a restaurant, you have a right to a peaceful meal. If there's something bothering you, contact your host or hostess immediately. Again, worst case, you ask to move to another table. There's no reason to sit and stew over other peoples' poor behavior. Kids, by the way WILL be a little nutty because they're young! There's no way around that. They're obviously too young to have learned all the social niceties that go along with dining, and in any event, kids have a VERY short attention span. Again, it's the parents who are at fault, not the kids.

I do believe however that when you have children of your own - if you do your job right as a parent - your kids won't be ones that are complained about. In addition, your perspectives may change just a tad.

Kids WILL be kids, but parents (and adults in general) MUST be parents, guardians, teachers, role-models, and good people in general.

Answer 4

It's not the kids who stink; it's the parents who have no control and think that kids should do whatever moves them. They don't think that a kid needs to learn the difference between home and the movies or the restaurant. They use the excuse that "kids will be kids" but the truth is they don't discipline because it's hard! They are doing a disservice to these children and I believe as many do, including Dr. Phil and Oprah, that it's child neglect if not abuse. Those kids will get into school and do the same thing and when they are then disciplined the parents will insist there's something wrong with the teacher, every year. It's soooo sad! Don't blame the child, how is it supposed to know it's doing something wrong when mommy and daddy won't teach them that it is unacceptable?

Answer 5

I TOTALLY AGREE if my 4 children ever behaved like that when we were out somewhere they would be grounded for at least 1 month.
There is no reason that their parents could not have done a better job of controlling their children.
i also have had an incident like this happen when me and a few of my girlfriends had gone to see a movie with our children and the kids that were right behind us kept misbehaving and i ended up going out the get one of the employees and the kids were removed from that movie and there parents were called. when the movie was over one of the kids mothers was waiting for me since she thought her son had done nothing wrong and when i told her different she got very upset and then apologized for her sons behaviour and then tried to compensate us. I did not take it but in future if that ever happens to you just go and tell and employee of the theatre that you are in and it is there job to do something about it
GOOD LUCK AND HAPPY MOVIE GOING

Answer 6

well, you have to remember that different parents have different ways of raising children. also remember that you were a kid once too, and that is the way young children behave. i agree, that if my children acted like the ones you are describing, i would not allow them to go out to places such as movies. i would use the movie as a reward for good behavior, and if they began acting up, leave, go home, and make them go to bed. but you shouldnt' sterotype all children simply because of bad experiences. ill behaved monsters is a very rude term for you to use. i know a 5 year old who acts more mature than lots of adults! and the songs are not stupid, it helps them learn, gives them language skills, i think it is great to hear a little kid sing, it shows that they are creative and not going to be too shy. you dont' want your kids to be shy.
it sounds to me like you should never have children, at least not until you understand what it is like and what you go through, they are a blessing, not a curse.

Answer 7

I feel sorry for your kids. You probably have them like littie soldiers, and they probably think your boring. Kids are Kids, My 2 year old is well behaved, and shes never done anything like that in public, but when I see kids acting like that i don't think they stupid or anything, i know kids are kids and parents sometimes just give up and breath for a sec, and say Oh what the heck, You more, should understand being that you have children. Don't sit her and say that your "Angels" are perfect kids.

Answer 8

first of all, just because you encounter one misbehaving family, does not mean that all kids are spoiled undisciplined brats.

there are plenty of great, well behaved, polite kids out there. you just dont notice them because they dont attract attention.

next, i am willing to bet that you sang silly little songs to yourself when you were a toddler.

and if you really expect little children to behave like perfect angels, or you expect their parents to keep them in perfect order all the time, you are either not a parent, or completly delusionsal.

finally, this is yahoo answers. you ask questions about things you need help with, like: "what is the best way to make a custom computer" or "how many glasses of milk should i drink per day". even complex questions or silly questions are infinatly better than your little anti children rant. please, get a life, and stop bothering the yahoo answers community.

Answer 9

I agree that parents shouldn't let their kids disturb other people in the movies that's just rude if children can't behave in the movie they should be taken out! Now for the last section that's just mean children have imaginations and they are just playing out on they're imagination and creativity when singing songs.

Answer 10

i agree that children need to behave. but, if the parent is not going to teach them, then who is really to blame for the misbehavior??
the last statement you made about them singing "stupid little songs to themselves" is a little scary though!
whoa! i cant imagine the type of house You are running!

sounds like there are some personnel issues here, did you ever consider anger management?? just an idea :)