I was a senior and my boyfriend was a junior. This summer he broke up with me but now we are kinda back together. All of a sudden we hang out a lot and are together a lot, just like how things were when we were dating. It's like we're together, but it hasn't been said yet. Now, I am getting ready to go off to school and I want to know if we are something or not. I don't want to wait around for him while I am at school if he isn't doing the same for me. How do I ask him what we are without ruining things if we really aren't together? Also, how do I tell him that if he needs a date to homecoming, not to be afraid to ask me, without making him feel obligated to ask me?
2006-08-10 03:44:56 · 20 answers · asked by tinkerbell 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say you just sit him down in the cut. Ask him just like this " I know we've been spending a lot of time together lately, but I want to know are we just frineds or more than that b'cuz i don't want to sit around waiting for something that ain't there. tell me how it went. E-mail me at krump_ladyluva0714@yahoo.com
2006-08-10 03:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by krump_ladyluva0714 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may have broke it off because he is a little worried about will happen when you go away to school. He still cares for you that is obvious by the way he still makes time for you. I just think he is worried about the long distance relationship thing. There is really no way that you can ask him without some risk. You can fish a little by asking what he is going to be doing next year while your away at school. But you probably won't get the answer unless you just ask. Even if he says it is not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship you can find if it is the distance that is scaring him. After you find out the status of your relationship it will be easier to tell about homecoming.
2006-08-10 03:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well be clear in your intentions, if you want to be boyfriend/girlfriend again just kiss him and smile and ask calmly what you are to him and what he expects from said status. Then evaluate it and see if it is something you are happy with. If he says he is your boyfriend then making future plans to say homecoming shouldn't be off limits. The summer is comming to a close, don't leave this unresolved you don't need anything distracting you from school if it is just a waste of time. Good luck:)
2006-08-10 03:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think you guys should be friends and nothing more. You're going away for college and he's still in high school. Move on and find someone in college who you can see every day. You'll be changing believe it or not. Your first year in college will be one of the best years of your life. Trust me!!! You don't need an attachment to a boyfriend at home.
2006-08-10 03:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take one step at a time. homecoming isn't right now.....
As for finding out what you are, just ask. Be honest, say you are a little confused as to where and what you are, say it makes you a little frustrated and insecure not knowing for sure. Make sure to give the impression that whatever the answer, it is ok as long as you know how it is.
2006-08-10 03:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by dk_angel2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out with it. If you are "together" things will remain the same if not no loss. Find someone when you go off to school.
2006-08-10 03:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by K C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set the mood and make love to him not just sex. You know what I'm talking about. A nice dinner for two, candle light, hot bath, a little wine, sexy dress not too reveling, then a nice quiet talk afterwords, if this is not what he wants then he will leave.
2006-08-10 04:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by big T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask being that it is your business. But im warning you he might say no, and the reason he is acting like ur bf is because he wants friends with benefits and really doesnt want a relationship. He may just be trying to use you, so im just warning u b4 u ask him. But yes u should really ask him.
2006-08-10 03:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mind that smarty slacks age doesn't matter its just a number.... Just say to him no pressure but just wondering are we boyfriend and girlfriend or is this an open relationship and if he asks you what you want you make him answer and if your happy with his answer just go along with it if not go your seperate ways no point dwelling on what ifs. good luck let me know how you get on('',)
2006-08-10 03:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by rainbow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him, just say " I want to know whats going on between us? Whatever your answer is, its cool with me and I promise not to be angry. Just be honest and know that I will always be there for you, no matter what" that is if you dont mind him saying you're only friends with benefits or only friends or something other than more than friends.If he says its just a fling or whatever, then dont get upset.If you only want to hear "more than friends" then ,damn, I dont know.
2006-08-10 03:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋