What ever happened to young men (21-30) being gentlemen?

Question

i went to a club the other day, and there weren't any chairs left for our group(there were 6 of us, i was the only female,) so everyone was looking for a chair at least for me because we had to perform and i was already tired. my bf asked this guy if he wouldn't mind getting up for about 10 mins to let me sit. the guy then asks my bf why didn't he ask the ladies that were sitting next to us. i am not upset because that was his choice, i just wanna know where have all the gentlemen gone? i carry myself as a lady by the way, just in case someone has something smart to say.

for the men answering who are saying i can't have my cake and eat it too and all that jazz, i am a lady, i know my plae, i don't want to be treated like a man, but yes if i do the same job, i should get paid the same. learly you all are not gentlemen either. thanks for proving my point.

on the other hand, i will bet you would expect your wife to have a hot meal when you get home if you were married. double standards are men's excuses for not being real men...remember that

Answer 1

What a cop out it is for some of the men to say "feminism"! Sorry. I am older. I think what has happened is that the "men" in that age group have not grown up. No reason to, I guess. They are still living at home, playing with their X-Box. There are few rites of passage anymore and the fathers have desserted the homes. No role models. My father taught me to respect ladies and to be courteous to them.

I have taught my daughter to watch how a young man talks about and treats his mother as an indication of how he will eventually treat her. Pretty good indication.

Answer 2

You can thank women's lib for this. It's NOT their job to give up their chair for you. Women's lib says men and women are equal, therefore there's no reason you should have their chair.

We women drove the gentlemen away. I remember a time when Women's lib was even more popular and ladies would fuss at a guy who opened a car door or held a door.

I personally would give up some of the modern woman's life to go back to a little traditional roles & values. Besides women STILL don't get paid the same as men for the same jobs, so that never worked right anyway.

Answer 3

Inhymon,

There are a variety of reasons, why men don't bother with the Code of Chivalry anymore. At the top of the list, is the feminist movement. Because of the new mindset of a lot of women, they are actually offended by such small courtesies as holding doors open, allowing a lady to enter first, and so forth. I have actually been insulted on more that one occasion, for daring to hold a door open for a woman. Also, our culture, has simply gotten extremely self centered. Because of the music we listen to, and a general rejection of the values of previous generations. The young people of this latest generation, place a premium on rudeness. They insist that you respect them, and are willing to kill over it, while telling you where to shove it. Frankly, I think we have gone down the slippery slope too far. I will miss the days of Ladies, Gentlemen, and manners.

Answer 4

Be alarmed, gentlemen are an endangered species....but its all goes to the way you have been brought up, did you see an example of your father respecting your mother? Do you feel that women should be offered seats? Does your culture dictate that you be a macho man and let the woman fend for herself? In some communities in developing countries, women sit on the ground, and dont see anything wrong with that. So it also depends on your socialization....Shame on that guy though! he lost an opportunity. Be a gentleman today, dont knock down a lady in your haste to enter the lift!

Sunshine

Answer 5

I have been saying this for quite some time now. I nearly get knocked down the other day when a young man wanted to enter the resturant before me, I was closest to the door by the way. He didn't even hold the door open for me. I have a habit of saying "I know your mother raised you better than that" when young men are rude to ladies. At least it makes me feel better and maybe he will think twice next time.

Answer 6

I guess it kind of went out with the feminist movement, when some women considered it insulting when someone opened a door for them, paid for the meal, got out of their seats when a woman entered the room, or even gave up a seat on a bus or train. I guess they felt that men were "trying to put them in their place" or being condescending to them if they acted this way.

If it is encouraged, it will revive, because Lord knows guys will do anything if they think that they have a chance to get laid for doing it...

Answer 7

Most guys are inconsiderate and lack the common courtesy to do something nice when asked. Other guys think that since men and women are both equal now, that women should be able to bear a loss such as that and not complain, but i myself would have let you sit down.

Answer 8

first of all you probably not going to find a gentlemen in a club setting, there are some out there, and then you were the only female out of the group then that explains it! Now if would have been all females then you probably would have gotten a seat!

Answer 9

That's true. Few men hold the door open for women or help them down from high places, etc. Whenever the rare man helps me from the top of a snowbank or holds the door for me and other women instead of shoving by - I am surprised. I think manners and decency are highly underrated and a big turn-on. Something for those of you men who are making fun of the asker to consider.

Answer 10

The Real Problem with you ladies is that on one hand u want to compete with men and show the world that you are equal to men and on the other hand you expect this kinds of courtesy from us.
1st decide yourself what you are and then let us know so that we can decide in which way we should treat you.