Last night this guy I am seeing came over.. we were just hanging out watching tv and everything was cool. He got some phone calls, was on the phone for a little while, and then came back and sat next to me. Then we went to bed..I thought he was a little bit in a bad mood and he thought I was upset cause of his phone calls or whatever. Plus he was really hot, but can't sleep with a fan and I knew we were both tired.
So, we are laying in bed not really touching each other (cause he was hot) and we didn't even kiss (cause we both thought we were upset). Then I thought we both fell asleep, but really I guess I just did (he was too hot). Before I knew it I was being woken up by my roommates telling me he just left cause "I seemed really irratated". I called him and asked him why he left me and he just seemed annoyed.. then we texted a while and kind of talked about it.
how is it going to be next time we hang out?? I don't want to screw this one up.. I really like him...
2006-08-10 03:15:02 · 27 answers · asked by C-BIZZLE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just sounds like a misunderstanding to me.. stop blaming urself.. a relationship consists of 2 people not one.. communicate clearly and u should be fine...
2006-08-10 03:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would know much better than anyone here how it will go, so listen to your instincts, girl! I'd say though that the key on your part will be to be yourself and communicate honestly with him. That's the only way to build a solid relationship. If it's still bothering you, talk to him about it and try to resolve it, but then let it drop. No need to blow it out of proportion and create a bunch of lasting drama. Guys are usually pretty laid back about things like that and chances are good he's already over it. Explain this to him just as you have here and try to relax a little. No relationship is going to be all happy and lovey all the time. If you get all worked up over something small like this, you'll never be able to tackle bigger obstacles. Good luck!
2006-08-10 03:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off get a AC cause men hate to be hot. If the two of you are really into each other I'm more than sure the two of you will be just fine the next time you get together. Although if you haven't already just clear the air with him about what went on that night and just start over from there.
2006-08-10 03:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really should figure out that if you fall asleep youre not that upset. He could have talked to before you did sleep. Apparently he didn't volunteer info about the call which he could have and you're not a mind reader. Just ask what is wrong right out when he calls you. Honesty is the best.
2006-08-10 03:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do when something like that happens is to apologize. It is a skill guys have to learn early to keep any girl. Tell him you are sorry for what happened, and tell him you really wanted him to stay and you are sorry that you appeared irritated. Stand close to him when you say this and try to hold his hand in yours. He will forgive you.
Just remember, when you apologize you have to do two things: be humble and be vulnerable.
PS. I'm not saying you did anything wrong, but if he interpreted it that way, only apology, not reason will work.
2006-08-10 03:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is an example of one of the biggest problems in relationships of any sort. Lack of communication. You kept giving examples: "I though he.... He thought I...". You should NEVER ASSUME what another person is thinking. ASK HIM! Plus, when dating, please don't just "hang out" watching TV. That is for married folk. Find things you can do together that will let each of you learn things about the other. They don't have to cost money.
2006-08-10 03:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when you said u text messaged each other do u mean u worked it out maybe he was just having a bad day i'm sure it'll be better p.s he wasn't mad at u was he because he probaby was just mad and taking the blame out on u hope i helped pick me 4 best answer
2006-08-10 03:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by joelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to communicate with this one a little better. If you think he is mad ask him what his deal is. Same goes for him. Life does not have to be a guessing game. No offense but he kind of sounds cocky to me.
2006-08-10 03:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by Blondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Word of advice, if you're not married, he has no business being in the same bed as you. He is frustrated because you're not putting out, sorry. Don't lower yourself to that level. Respect yourself, as he should.
2006-08-10 03:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has issues and they don't concern you. He made it seem like it was your fault he left when he wanted to leave! I would think REAL strong about dumping him before he hurts you more than that!@
2006-08-10 03:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by nswblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋