I have been going out with this for a little over a month now. School will be starting soon, and she is going to a different high school than me. I don't like her the same as I did when we were first going out, and now I want to break up with her. How should I do it and what should I say?
2006-08-10 03:05:08 · 46 answers · asked by zbbasktbal82092 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sit her down and let her know. You could use the old "it's me not you" routine....... then again it is you that wants out so it's true.
2006-08-10 03:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your in highschool going to different schools and only been dating a month. If you continue to date your both going to have trust issues in the relationship, different schools never really works out for anybody. Just tell her you don't see you guys working out, its not like you're in love or anything special so it shouldn't hurt her that much.
That and no matter what you say or how you do it, know one thing. When any relationship ends, it doesn't even matter if the girl was cheating on you, the guy always ends up being the jerk, so don't worry about trying to be nice about it, because she'll think you're a jerk in the end either way
2006-08-10 03:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by micktobi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really don't want to date her anymore, then tell her that you'd rather be friends. And since you're going to different highschools, you think it would be good to see new people. If she doesn't feel the same way, then tell her that even if you were going to stay together, the different schools would be a barrier and might ruin your relationship anyway. Instead of her liking another boy at her highschool and instead of you liking another girl at yours, and instead of you both liking someone but not being able to go out with them...it's better to just break up while you're still friends. You should never break up while fighting. It will ruin your relationship for sure! I hope this helps!
2006-08-10 03:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look man just ignore some of the responses these people say, now you should actually tell her the truth but if she is very sensitive you could tell her that you are trying to concentrate on school right now, if you feel like that wont work either, you should do this: continue going out with her, just dont call her as much, say you cant go out because of too much homework, on weekends say there are projects, and when yall do go out dont show so much affection like you used too, she will realize on her own (if she knows better) that this relationship is going down, and who knows she will probably end up breaking up with you, good luck!!!! :o)'
2006-08-10 03:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just explain gently that going to different schools will put a strain on your relationship and that you think its more fair to her to allow her the opportunity to meet people in her own school. If that doesn't work, then simply break up. It might sting for a little bit, but honesty is far less painful than stringing someone along and then cheating on them.
2006-08-10 03:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by Emm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that with you guys going to different schools that you won't be able to spend as much time together as you should and that you wouldn't want to hold her back if she meets someone else there if you want to sugarcoat it. Otherwise just say hey, let's break up cause it's not working out.
She's probably going to take it hard anyway, so does it really matter? It's going to be the whole "you're seeing someone else" thing.
2006-08-10 03:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by banshee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very important not to lead her on. You need to make sure that you explain to her that you just don't feel the way you used to and that you would be lieing if you pretended like you did. Tell her that it is not her and that you just feel different in your heart about being that close to someone. Don't part on bad terms..Tell her that you want to remain friends and if she cries then hug her so that she knows that you are not just being a jerk and that you care for her as a friend and a person. Good luck
2006-08-10 03:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by Amy A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is a great time to bring up the subject because you both are going to be in a different environment.
Say to her that you had a great time, but it would be hard to maintain your relationship with her because of the distance.
Tell her that there will be high chance of both of you meeting new people, and it would be better for both of you.
She might be very upset, but I think that's goting to be the truth.
2006-08-10 03:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth about how you feel that's all you can do. It's going to hurt her but at least you won't be leading her on and having her really be hurt if you get with some other chick behind her back. If she's a smart girl she will have mad respect for you for having balls and telling her the truth.
2006-08-10 03:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with her. Sit her down and have a serious chat. Tell her you have had a great time with her, but you feel things have changed between you. Tell her you still love her as a friend, but you feel the relationship will no longer work. Tell her you would like to keep in touch if she would like.
2006-08-10 03:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to be nice. Let her know that with school starting you won't have so much time to spend with her. And that would be unfair to her,to hold her back from her friends and things she would like to do. That you would be busy too. Let her know you have enjoyed the time you shared with her. Give her a kiss and walk away.
2006-08-10 03:13:58 · answer #11 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋