my wife says it hurts her feelings that i can have fun without her their.
2006-08-10 02:55:58 · 10 answers · asked by MrWrongallthetime 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Divorce her man! It's never gonna get better....I hate how woman think that when they get married everything before thier marriage has to end. My friends wife did that to him for about a month...and guess what...he divorced her. Its a combination of Insecurity and Control. Go out and have fun with your friends if she doesn't trust you then she shouldnt have married you. Tell her that. marriage is about trust and understanding. There is no reason you can't go out with your friends as long as you don't do anything bad. And you should encourage her to do the same..and if she doesn't have any friends then maybe she should spend her free time doing that.
2006-08-10 03:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she's insecure, and has a problem with immaturity. I myself don't have a lot of patience with girls who think they need to be stapled at the hip to their man. So many girls are programmed by their mothers and friends to have hysterics if their man so much as breathes wrong. To me that is childish in the extreme. My man goes out and I don't mind a bit, and I go out with my girlfriends. Nobody gets into trouble, we have time off from each other, and the time we spend together, which is most of the time, is even better because of it.
Then again, do you go out without her a lot? More than once a week, say? That would try my patience.
But I have to say, the "It hurts me that you can have fun without me" nonsense makes me want to slap her. What did you do before you and she met? Perhaps sitting down and talking to her will help, and spend a little extra time with her, not just once but regularly.
Good luck, pal. Sounds like you need it.
2006-08-10 10:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is insecure in your relationship and isn't sure where she stands with you. Not being sexist here but men tend to think that their love is understood and it does not always need to be stated or shown. Women on the other hand are more emotional in the sense that they believe in expressing their emotions through words and actions.
Try telling her how you feel about her, making sure she knows how much you love her and how important your relationship is to you. Or a big hug and a kiss for no reason at all. I bet if you did that more often and she wouldn't have a problem with you going out without her.
2006-08-10 10:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Kaoss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like shes slightly insecure. Does she have many friends to go out with on her own? That's generally where feelings like that come from. Of course it also depends on how often you go out with the guys. If you spend every night out then I guess she has a reason to be annoyed but if it's only once or twice a week and it's not interupting anything special then try talking to her about it.
2006-08-10 10:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jake S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's insecure, that's why. She needs to know you love her, and she thinks that you being with her all the time proves that somehow. It doesn't, of course, but that's probably what she's thinking.
Tell her that you need some "me" time (like she probably gets), and plan something nice for her in return for letting you go out with the guys - like go out on a date and watch a movie she wants to see (that maybe you don't). Do a little exchange of some kind regularly, and you'll get your time with the guys.
And tell her that you love her - often. She might know that, but women like to hear it, and never ever get tired of it.
2006-08-10 10:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by Cassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it's just the guys, some tequilia and a bunch of Mexican strippers, what could happen?
Do you allow your wife to go out with the "girls"?
2006-08-10 10:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends was out with "the boys" one Friday night and stayed out until very late.
Her returned home to find his wife waiting by the door with a broom in her hand.
He asked "Honey, is that for cleaning or for flying?"
May he Rest In peace.
(This is a joke)
2006-08-10 10:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by FortyLoveTX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she trust you? Have you given her a reason not to. Or she's probably so use to being with you all the time that she hates to be away from you. It sounds like she's a real jealous person and she wants you all to herself.
2006-08-10 10:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by jersey girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must not be very secure in her marriage...Marriage is basted on trust...One must learn to trust the other in order for a happy marriage...A little growing will help her attitude towards trust...Give her time...Good luck!
2006-08-10 10:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to keep you all to herself. It's also possible that she's lonely without you.
2006-08-10 10:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by crispy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋