How should I handle it???

Question

Okay here is the thing… about a year ago I had an affair with my best friends husband… I know I was completely and totally wrong for what I did! I admit to that… however about a month ago accusations were made that I was trying to contact her husband again. However I know that I wasn’t… he is the last person I want to talk to… it was a really messy situation after the fact… to let you know briefly he told so many lies on me that it wasn’t funny… and then told people that he never did care about me that all he wanted was sex! Okay well anyways when I was confronted about the phone calls I was honest and told everyone that no it wasn’t me… nothing has been said about since then, but then last night this little girl that I know who is only 15 came up to me and told me she had been talking to the wife of the guy and she said to tell me that she knows that I was the one that was calling her husband and that she wasn’t stupid that she knew that still wanted him but I needed to move on and

leave them alone because he never did care about me and that he realized that he was stupid for what he did and if I didn’t leave them alone then she would call the police on me. I got so mad… it really bothered me that she had to hide behind a 15 year old and couldn’t say it to my face I really want to tell her off… but I just don’t know what to do… I know that I am not the one that has been trying to contact her husband… what do I do??? I just want to forget it all… but I can’t when they keep throwing it up in my face! Help????

Answer 1

Leave well enough alone. Sound like she's in enough hell as it is. A cheating husband she can't trust. What are the cops going to do to you? Tell you to stay way from her, which your doing! If possible, have absolutely no contact with any of them. If the fifteen year old approaches you again, tell her you don't what to know what the Mrs. said and walk away. If she tries to continue let her know that if the Mrs. wants to talk, have her come to you. You will not accept her as a messenger. The thing to not let her get out what she has to say. Or do not react at all to what she says. Two things will happen;
1) The fifteen year old maybe stirring up trouble to watch what will happen between the two of you. I know several people who will stirr the pot to watch it boil over, so to speak. If you show her that you are not interested and will not react to what she has to say, you'll take the fun out of it and will look else where for amusement.
2)The fifteen year old will take the message back to the Mrs. and she will either confront you or find someone else to accuse.

Most of all - remain self confident, calm, and keep away from all of them. You made a mistake, learned from it, apologized and moved on. Eventually, so should they. If she continues you can go to the police because she is now harassing you.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

Well, i'd say you really shouldn't worry about it at all. The guy's wife obviously doesn't want to admit that her husband sleeps around with "several" other women. And obviously she's messed up in the head trying to figure out why she's so unnattractive, or horrible in bed, or just so horrible that her husband would want to go out and find other women. So of course she's going to blame the one person that was found out originally, because the more numbers you add to his total, the more she's going to lose it. If she really does call the police, there's no charges you can be filed under. And the whole sending a 15 year old over to relay a message, it just shows that she doesn't want to face you and realize the truth. If she came and talked to you about it, she would realize that there is more than one other woman, so she sends someone else. Then again the husband could be saying its you too...who knows? Sounds like a soap opera.

Answer 3

You know unfortunately alot of people have been hurt here. Maybe he is once agian using someone for sex and hiding you may be the scapegoat. As long as you have changed and know you are doing nothing wrong. Try to forget it. It will be hard . Everytime you walk into a store you will wonder is everyone talking about me. If you are doing nothing wrong hold your head up high sleep at night and in time all this will go away. If you feed on this it will grow. Some people love to live in turmoil. No matter how hard it gets just know that you are doing whats right for you.

Answer 4

So this man is still with her? I think that you should just ignore this all together! You have admitted to your mistake! If she is still with her husband but is still wanting to stir up trouble with you over him then she is being totally stupid & immature,and you should just stay out of it! Her using a 15yr old to bring you the message should have let you know that she is being childish and she wants you to also be childish as well! What you should do is put the past behind you and let it go! Yes you made a mistake being with that man, but you don't have to pay for it the rest of your life! She is the one that needs to get her **** together! I'll bet this mans EGO is Big Enough Already! If you start to let her stupidity get to you, and you cuss her out and tell her what you think, You Will Only Be Making His EGO Even Bigger, And More Problems With Her!!!!! I think that this man has alot to do with the way that she is treating you!!!!! You said that he has told many lies on you before, maybe he is still doing it now!
Her husband has already showed her that he is untrustworthy and not worth being with! It sounds to me that she is hiding from the truth about him!!!!
Good Luck!!!!

Answer 5

sometimes after past events and things you have done and messed up in the past will repeatedly come back to haunt you. if they dont believe that you arent the one that they think is being a 'homewrecker' then you should suggest them blocking your number or tracing the calls, if they do that then there wont be a way for them to repeatedly make accusations of your improveable wrong doings and if thay refuse to put either of your suggestions then let them call the cops. you are innoncent and the cops can trace the call and will find the true person being the phone

Answer 6

just let it go... its already over and done with...the truth is that she will always have that insecurity there... just the fact that her husband went to another woman, has damaged her completely yeah you did wrong but you are not doing it any more...so therefore you can move on with a clean conscience as for her until she finds out who's he's messing around with now she will keep blaming you just cause it gives her some piece of mind that atleast its one other woman and not a whole lot of women....does that make sense to you?

Answer 7

Well yeah u f_ucked up big time!!! So to be frank, ur always gnna be known as a h_oe and their always gonna talk s_hit about you. But if you say tha ur not messing wit him no more, than at leat ur conscious knows that. So just let be. Don't dwell on the past. Justtry to avoid them people and keep moving on with ur life. Oh, and quit messing wit married men!!!

Answer 8

call her and make a lunch date. tell her that you made a mistake and you know that and that your sorry. tell her that you knew it was a mistake and that you have not tried to contact him since. after that put it behind you never to be talked about again. life is to short ....find someone that only has eyes for you and enjoy. good luck

Answer 9

Sack up and take your punishment! You did something wrong and now you must take a hit for it. Just keep telling the truth your not trying to get back with that piece o crap!

Answer 10

life's like that.

this is one of the unfortunate that happens in life.

life has another outstanding thing.

in the end things do staighten out.

have a hearty life now(i already here u laughing) and every time u r in this situation again.