how s the best way for me to go up to a woman and ask her out when im shy and god knows why iam scared to do it how can i get over being this way?
2006-08-10 02:47:46 · 12 answers · asked by jamescoffman1978 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No reason to be shy. You're very handsome. You probably fear rejection, as do I. Just go up and talk to her in a nice, gentlemen way. Don't go up to her and pull out some tacky pick-up line or anything like that. Just be yourself. And if she doesn't respond, oh well!! That's her loss, not yours.
2006-08-10 02:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by gapeach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take a deep breath and try and start a conversation with her about something that you may both like...if you don't know anything compliment her and be sincere, not like just trying to pick a hook-up, if that works then go on from there, and try not to be too shy but not too full of confidence either...if you try it, you may get shot down but it might work as well depending on the lady.
2006-08-10 09:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by Tell.Me.Sweetly. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well. you are shy and that is part of who you are and you wont be able to change that. but with most shy people after being around a person for a quite a while then you get used to them and come out of your shell so maybe you need to try to start a conversation with them and get more comfortable with the person before asking them out, so you'll know them a bit better and it will make you more at ease when you ask them out on a date.
2006-08-10 09:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by jul324 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make it out as if you are going over to her just to ask her out. Just go over just to have a general chat. Keep chatting on several occasions until you feel comfortable around her and just kind of slip it into the conversation like "so i'll see you later then. How about we meet up for a coffee sometime?"
2006-08-10 09:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just start talking to women without having any pre-conceived ideas about what you want to happen from it. Even better if you can talk to her and see her a few times before asking her out. Don't be afraid of rejection and try not to take it personally if she turns you down. Just remember ...the reason you're not asking is because of fear, but what is it exactly you're afraid of?
2006-08-10 09:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to know until you ask her. What is the worse thing that's going to happen. Rejection? You can handle a bit of rejection. Is that what your afraid of? She's not going to go on a ramp page I'm sure it's just going to be a short no. So what are you afraid of? Go for it!
2006-08-10 09:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're gonna have to get over it or you'll be going out alone the rest of you life. If you really can't face her, send her an email. Just do it!
2006-08-10 09:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Dave 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her for a cup of coffee. After coffee and talking, ask her for dinner and a movie. Take small steps! Good luck
2006-08-10 09:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go and ask her the time, and then her name, and the to go out for coffee with u. one step at a time
2006-08-10 09:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by deina1981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women practice dismissal, fear, and preoccupation. You need an opening line, small talk vs fear, and you need to close with getting her telephone # or a date vs preoccupation.
2006-08-10 09:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋