should i tell her?

Question

so,i'ts like this;i share a flat with my aunt and her b.f.They've bin' seeing each other 4 a couple of years now.The guy is cheating on her,he goes onto these internet sex sites and then goes out to meet these 'swingers',God knows what they get up to.N-way the reason y i know this is cuz sometimes he 4gets to sign out of his mailbox,and when i come to use the computer i c the stuff.He has cheated on her b4 with a gal from work,i told my aunt but she went on and got engaged to this piece of ****.I really love my aunt,so i don't know if i shld tell her or just stay out of it.I know if i do,he's probably gon' deny everytjing and make me look like a total *****.So if he does,i'll just show my aunt his mailbox and all the filthy **** he's been gettin'up to.Serious answers please no pervy stuff!

Answer 1

Don't need to tell her, just sit down and forward all the perv messages to your aunt's email.

She'll see it all for herself and then let the guy try to deny it... it's all right there!

Answer 2

Yes You Should Tell Your Aunt But Be Aware That They Sometimes Shoot The Messenger,
Your Aunt May Not Believe You But Get Some Evidence So She Can See For Herself, If You Don't Tell Her And She Finds Out You Knew, She Will Not Like You Very Much At All,
As I Say Blood Is Thicker Than Water And You Should Look Out For Your Own.
Good Luck

Answer 3

OK this is a hard one cause your aunt seems to love this guy, but whats hes doing isn't right. If it was just on-line sex then I would say don't worry about it, but as he is going out and sleeping with other people this isn't´t good, for a few reasons the first is obvious and the 2nd well he could catch something anything and pass this on to your aunt, which is very dangerous.
I think she should be told because I would want to know.
You should be very care full if you do tell her because even though you are her blood most people allot of people "shoot the messenger" as they say.
So be prepared for the worse.
I would like to say she will thank you for it but I cant 1 cause I don't know her and 2 cause she could blame you for them breaking up.
On the other hand (you may not want to hear this but) she could be into it to, you will never really know someone no matter how close you are to them.
Well I hope that helps a little and good luck in what ever you decide to do.
REDZ

Answer 4

If you really love ur Aunt u should show her proof that her bf is cheating!..That man is an inconsiderate jerk, he would only hurt ur Aunt more if she stays with him...I think that man is old enough and knows what's right from wrong..and besides men who cheats will never change! As long as girls come their way, they will always take the chance of hooking other girls! Once a cheat always a cheat! Ur Aunt's bf probably thinks that he's very gorgeous and loveable because of those swingers..bullshit! What will happen to your Aunt when they get married and have kids..ur Aunt's life would surely be miserable with him..think of her future if u love her..It's better that she knows the real score this time..trust me..been in that situation..

Answer 5

If I can translate what you are saying correctly... I would advise causing your Aunt a bit of grief now rather then a LOT later.

Just make sure you do it the right way, are supportive afterwards and if you can prove it, all the better.

Be prepared for a backlash though, either from an Aunt who may not want to hear the truth or from a very angry ex.

A toughy... all the best with it.

Answer 6

If you love her like you say you do then you definately dont want her to get her heart broken. You need to tell her. Tell her why you care so much and tell her how you feel. Show her the proof. What he's doing is not right. If she still refuses to do anything about it then that means she has to learn the hard way. Sometimes no matter how much you love the person you have to just let them make their own mistakes. She'll learn in the end. At least you'll know you did the right thing.

~Rickeisha

Answer 7

This is a dilemma indeed. Why not have a word with this bloke and tell him that you know and that if he doesn't sort himself out then you will tell your aunt. If he doesn't agree or take you seriously then you've go to tell her everything. I personally don't think it's something i could stay out of cos after all, it's family and thats the most important thing.
Don't blackmail him though and remeber that you're aunt is going to be hurt from this so try and be tactful and supportive.
Hope i've been of help.

Answer 8

If it's a SWINGERS club thing, then your Aunt is probably involved, too! That's what swingers do- swap wives and husbands and stuff! Not many guys can join these clubs without a willing partner!
If it has swingers written anywhere it might be that! So ask your aunt, cheerfully, so, are you a swinger? and go from there on to tell her about how you spied on your uncle. Tape it if you can, too! You could make a fortune with its comedy!

Answer 9

Well, you could take a screen shot of the screen next time he leaves it logged in (press "Print screen" on you keyboard and past the content into Word or somewhere) and let her see for herself and judge. You don't deserve an Uncle like that and she doesn't deserve to be cheated on and he doesn't deserve her!

To cheat on you partner ONCE is for the couple to decide what to do about it. Frequent cheating even if it is "just swinging" needs to be dealt with. If everything is not being found inside a relationship, it must be explored and be laid bare.

Answer 10

By all means, tell her but don't expect her to just up and leave him. She deserves to know what she's involved with and make decisions on whether to remain in the relationship while holding all the cards.

My perspective: When I was younger, I was dating a fella that was screwing around. Everyone else seemed to know except for me and they never said anything until after we had broken up (when I found that his "roommate" was something more. I felt like a complete moron that this had been going on under my nose and everyone else knew what he was and what he was about. I wish someone had let me in, but they didn't want to upset me.

Let your aunt know, but do it gently, with tact and have proof (print-outs of emails, etc.)

Answer 11

I know shes your aunt BUT......dont tell her. She will find out in her own time as he will mess up one way or another. Next time you go to log on just make a note of his user ID, when everything comes to a halt you will have this as proof - your aunt could log in under his name and see what filth hes been up to.

I suppose you could tell her but she might think you are stirring and only want to break them up - as she has ignored your advice before.