my bf and i come from differ countries. he from usa i from asia so sometims we will have communication problems and he is my first bf. i like share everyting with him if he aks, i always will tell him but i don't understand. why he doesn't like share with me at all. ex: when i ask who is this after he finshed on a phone he always say " just one of my friend" if i want get more detail he will say " it's not important or someone you don't know" ever tell me who. and he never introduce he friends to me. sometimes i feel that he is ashamed of me. i know he loves me and i trust him. he will not cheating on me. BUT can you tell me what should i do let him can share with me or it is not big deal !boys always do that????
ps: when i wanted to read his sms he always says' it's nothing on it' and we started argue then he show me. yeah it's nothing on it but if nothing on it why don't show me? why why why i don't understand?????
2006-08-10 02:42:08 · 46 answers · asked by one book=$10 * 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Babe... Not sure how it is in your country... But that usually means he is CHEATING ON YOU!!! Dump him. A real man would share everything about himself, and would have no reason to not tell you something. Good luck.
2006-08-10 02:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is because you are hawking him too much. No one likes their privacy and space to always be invaded by someone. Why do you always feel that you have to ask him who is on the phone anyway? If you trust him like you say you do and every time when he shows you there is nothing on his sms, maybe you should back off just a little bit. You are showing that you are insecure and you really don't trust him. If he is cheating on you, you will find out regardless and even if you are on his back and if he wants to cheat on you, he will find a way regardless. I would trust him until I know otherwise. Also, I was wondering did he introduce you to his parents? If not, that would be the number one people that I would be concerned about not meeting then it would really confirm there is a problem with your relationship. If he did introduce you and took you home to meet his parents, then I would ask him that why is it not hard to introduce me to your parents but find it so hard to introduce me to your friends? Hear his response and you should take it from there. Good luck and I hope everything works out.
2006-08-10 02:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is:
Don't let him get to you - you should feel special. If he doesn't show you off it could be because of your hard time with communication. You say the two of you have a hard time talking to each other because of being from different countries. Maybe he thinks he is protecting you by keeping you from meeting his friends because they may have a harder time understanding you. Don't let that get to you. I were you I would ask him WHY (just so you know for sure)? Does he know you feel he is ashamed of you? You say you love each other but you need to be able to talk about everything - even if it is hard. Don't accuse him of cheating and when he talks - LISTEN - but he needs to do the same - no cutting each other off. If I were you I would plan a dinner so you can sit and talk - NO interruptions. I hope this helped - Good Luck!
2006-08-10 03:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you have soooo much to learn. Yes he is more than likely cheating on you thats the reason for all the secrets. And he dont want you to meet his freinds because his girlfriend is in with them freinds. Hello do to others as they would do to you. Go get another boyfreind and play the cheating one the way hes playing you for a while. Keep secrets from him dont tell him nothing dont show him your phone or numbers on it. Make it evident that you are keeping secrets from him and it concerns another guy. Do this to him for two or three weeks and then just dump him outta the blue. Oh yea and while your keeping these secrets act like you really love him alot and you think the world of him. And dump his wanna be playin a$$. And be sure that you let him know youve had another boyfreind for a while and that he isnt good enough for you. Trust in this will smash his little ego trip hes on.
2006-08-10 02:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by 420girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a good thing you recognise that you're from different countries. And different countries have different ways of doing things.
The americans are very much into privacy so therefore what your boyfriend is doing is in accordance with his culture.
He does NOT have to show or tell you what's on his phone. Its his right not to, even if you're his girlfriend. I am not saying that that's the case all the time but most americans will not tell you who they've been talking with on the phone, much less tell you what SMSs they get. Its their right not to tell you and its their own business. So if you can explain to him and respect him (in that matter), then it should be fine for you. I am sure there are things you wouldn't share with your bf as well, and that's the same with him too.
2006-08-10 02:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by michael2003c2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in the same situation .i am from Greece and i had an American boyfriend. what he does shows that he wants to keep you secret, make him introduce u to his friends. tell him u ll break up with him if he doesnt. it s very important to know his friends, guys always present their girls to their friends to show off. so if he doesnt this means that he s really ashamed of u. make him take u out with his friends. thats important. the thing with his cell phone is not that important, if u want to be sure take his cell phone when he s in the bathroom or sleeping and read his text messages. but meet his friends NOW thats important
2006-08-10 02:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by deina1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't trust him because he doesn't show u his phone or tells u who it was.when he asks u show it to him right? when u ask he doesn't. so it means he is hiding something its not that u will loos his trust.its not fair. he asks u show, u ask he shows this is how it must be no hidings from each other.
and no not all guys r like this. if he had some dirty things on his mob he should tell u that or tell u not to go there because its something u wouldn't like.where the trust in him? i don't see u should find some one who is more open. good luck its Ur fist bf u will find more of this so be careful. good luck
2006-08-10 02:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Edvard F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hiding something. Tell him that you need more assurance that he is faithful and wants to be with YOU and only you. If he gets mad or refuses, it either proves that he is hiding something, or he is not the right guy for you since he is not willing to share with you. You will find another guy that has the same willingness to be open and share as you do. Don't settle!!
2006-08-10 02:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by Nemo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, there's enough WHY WHY WHY written there to make me think you are quite the nag. I would guess that your bf thinks you don't trust him, and that's a turn off. I also get the impression that since your bf doesn't introduce you to his friends, he's not really that interested in you for the long term.
You both need to sit down and calmly discuss your relationship. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-10 02:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he either has another gf or just likes privacy....i guess sum guys are like that....but i talked to a guy and lots of times when id call he wouldnt answer and he said he was with a friend and didnt want to be rude..well come on i never said anything but it pissed me off cuz if he was just with a "friend" then i dont see any reason that he couldnt answer and at least say hey im hangin out with a friend i'll call you in a lil while or sumthin...but anywayz
2006-08-10 02:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋