Met this girl in college, I knew she was the one from the moment I saw her, everything around her was blurry except for her, she was crystal clear, I've never seen real beauty until her. She was recently dumped after a year relationship and was really hurt from it due to this guy cheating on her. I helped her through the break, and i've expressed to her how I feel, how much I care and want to be with her, kissed her once after the year break-up, but nothing came out of it cause she needed time. Now she is currently with someone and its been a little over a month, we hang out, go to dinner, watch movies and its great to spend time with her.
A part of me wants to walk away, but I have too much respect and care about her too much to do that, that burning fire I have for her keeps me trying to get her. I don't know what else to do, words cannot describe how I feel about her or the beautiful person she is. She is perfection to me in everyway. Now i'm a mess about this situation. Any help?
2006-08-10 02:41:06 · 11 answers · asked by dollface 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah my friend, you have made a painful mistake. You have long since entered "good friend-ville", and I'm not sure if you realize it. She knows how you feel about her, you helped her through the hard times, opened the feelings of your heart to her, and now she's strong enough to go after someone else.
It's not that anything is wrong with you, its more likely that you've become too valuable an asset to her. She sees you as the male equivalent of a girl-friend. If you like hanging out with her and can still without going crazy, start transitioning yourself to being her friend.
Even if you "get" her it'll only be on borrowed time, she had the opportunity to hook up you, and its obvious she enjoys your company, but still looked in other directions. Start looking for someone that sees you the same way you see them.
-good luck.
2006-08-10 03:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by cookiemnster73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say let her know how you feel, but not in the professing your love type of manner. Yeah, some girls like it when a guy professes their love to them, but the truth is most don't, most women find it tacky. I had the same thing with a girl at my school, just out of a long relationship, kissed her, she needed time too. Eventually she came around, and we dated, but then things changed, she didn't feel the same way about me that i felt about her. Now that we're done and over, we don't talk anymore, and that great friendship we had is gone. But then again you're not really a friend because you want her as more than a friend, if you keep that a secret, especially with the way you feel about her, then your just going to screw yourself up even more. Let it out, tell her how you feel, but don't dump it on her all at once, and don't do it on one of her bad days. You'll know the perfect time to do it if you really know her that well.
2006-08-10 09:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by micktobi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try talking to her about your feelings again? She has had time and obviously is ready to move on with someone new. Don't let her play mind games with you by hanging out with all the time while you are hoping to get together with her. If she just wants you as a friend, then you will have to accept that and move on.
2006-08-10 09:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one good-looking woman for every 200-1000 men and 200-1000 ugly, obese women. Also, they can make money doing the same activities found in a normal relationship.
2006-08-10 09:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't give up. If you care about her, be sure to let her know how much. If she's in a relationship, wait it out and just be there for her. My husband was a good friend of mine. And he waited for me to get over my breakup. Now were married! So go for it.!
2006-08-10 09:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you really love her, don't give up. Let her know ,how much you love and want to be with her.
2006-08-10 10:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by FiveFive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell she is not attracted to you .she likes you as a good friend because all the things you do for her .
if you want her to be attract to you you gotta work on you self how to attract women search the net HOW TO ATRECT WOMEN there is good site's for it
good luck
2006-08-10 09:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by salsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up. Learn when your feeling are one sided and MOVE ON
2006-08-10 09:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by osunumberonefan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You write alot! That means you care about him! Go for it!
2006-08-10 09:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jerdy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weLL,, Love is sacrifice rite? get over her,, move on. she's not into u.
2006-08-10 09:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by mariana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋