how does a parent get the child to enjoy school again after being degraded by the teachers?

Answer 1

This happened to a young boy that we know. He is being raised by his grandparents. The teachers were abusive to him for at least 2 years. The family tried changing teachers and schools. It did NOT help. The boy began getting into trouble every day. He has an high IQ and was bored in the classroom. The books he was required to read were garbage.

The best advice I can give you is TAKE THE CHILD OUT OF THE CESSPOOL. Spend a couple of weeks or even a couple of months "decompressing". Become reacquainted by playing together. Take field-trips, bake cookies, dig holes, build with lego blocks.... Read great books together. HAVE FUN!!!!! Once the trauma of being degraded has diminished and self-worth is restored you can begin academics with a fresh new start.

Our friends did this and then began using the Robinson Curriculum. The boy is thriving. He read 40 high quality books during his academic hours in just a few months! His math skills improved in leaps and bounds after only a couple of weeks.

Now, he interacts with other people in a whole new way. He no longer fears adults but shows them respect and is happy about it. He used to slink away from friends and strangers -- now when he is introduced to anyone of any age he holds his head up, looks them in the eye, smiles and shakes their hand! He loves to come up to me and give me reports about the books he is reading and how he is getting 100% math scores!!!

It took only ONE week of using the Robinson Curriculum in his new home-school for his grandmother to report wonderful results. She keeps a close watch on his self-studies and one day had to go into another room to work on laundry. She realized that time had gotten away from her and things were tooooo quiet. She went into the room to tell her two students that it was time to stop school and go play. The answer???? "Not yet Gramma, I'm not done with my book!" Previous to this the boy had not read an entire book in 2 years!!! Now, the boy no longer gets into fights with the neighbor children ---- he enjoys their company and on top of that, the neighbors all want the Grandmother to homeschool their kids!!!!

In public school this boy was being turned into a social outcast. Now he is well liked, well behaved, AND proving his academic abilities and social skills.

Home-school can be the best thing you ever do for your child. Do the research --- check it out by finding everything you can about how to make it work ---- don't listen to the ignorant masses that don't know the truth. Then make your decision. It is up to YOU and not up to me or anyone else ---- Give your child the best chance while you still have time. Every child deserves to have a fighting-chance to be the best that he/she can be! Not every child will be able to work at McDonald's -- the labor pool is huge for that level of job. We need more high-end scientists, doctors, engineers...... Start now by giving your children the edge to learn the most that they can while they are with you. Not many jobs require the skill of "social butterfly"...... A good living will require a job with substance --- academics hold the key!

Do it for your children -- not for the village.

Barb

Answer 2

I also went through this problem with my oldest son. He was in 4th grade (back in 1998), and the teachers were just cruel and he wasn't learning what we felt he should be learning. We decided to pull him from the Public Schools and Homeschool him. In the first weeks of Homeschooling, it was amazing the confidence he was building! He was enjoying his studies and was retaining everything.
Will your child be staying in school? I would go meet the prospective teachers. It's a very hard situation because you child will have a hard time trusting any future teachers. That inevitably is going to affect what/how he learns.
In response to "banshee" "they dont know the difference between hyper and bored" I AGREE COMPLETELY!!! All the public schools wanted to do was put my Son on Ritalin!! He was BORED out of his mind in class!!!! My son never has had a problem with any kind of Hyper activity, but to often it's the Public Schools answer so the teacher will have to do less. They will medicate any student if they have the chance to.

Answer 3

There needs to be something else about the school environment that appeals to him and makes him want to attend. Find a reason he would want to go. Make sure to look at your child's academic record to see if the former teacher has written negative comments.

He has to want to interact with peers in his classroom, have a sport or club activity that he enjoys being involved with, or have an adult there he trusts that he interacts with regularly besides his classroom teacher.

A younger child will benefit if you volunteer there, you allow them to select a gift for teacher, you invite classmates over to play outside the classroom so the child can bond with other kids and build a sense of community.
You have to be very positive about this as a parent because your own attitude will affect whether or not he goes in there the first day looking forward to it or not.

Don't project your fears onto him. Open communication lines with the staff before the year starts, get in there and talk to the principal. Document everything. If you choose to homeschool, your child needs to see it as a positive step - a choice- not like they have failed at public school or their self esteem will be down the tubes too.

Answer 4

first off i wouldn't be letting a teacher degrade my child i would be going in that class while the teacher is teaching and putting a stop to it real quick i would degrade the teacher in front of the whole class and see how he or she likes that. just get your child into a class that has a real good teacher and that will change every thing my daughter hated school in first grade and kindergarten but in second grade she had a young energetic teacher that really cared about the kids and that was all it took she is looking forward to going back to school next week

Answer 5

Tough one. Let the child tell you what their qualities are. Then you start doing the same thing, add to the list, then ask siblings, grandma and grandpa, maybe a nice neighbor, to say what good qualities your child has.
Depending on the age of the child and the type of degradation, you should discuss why people say mean things, (usually to make themselves feel better, regardless WHO they say it to) so that you can teach them it is not necessarily PERSONAL.
Sometimes we say mean things and regret them. SO explain this, and go over this "good" list with them over and over, until they understand that those qualities did not disappear because someone said something lame.

Beyond that... I would either have a SERIOUS talk with the teacher in question or I would take my child out of that school ASAP! Seek a better school! Homeschool! Un-School! Parochial school! Anything!

Answer 6

Send them to a different school. My son was degraded by the teachers at his last school (they couldn't figure out the difference between hyper and bored). We ended up moving and putting him in a different school where no one knew him. It made a huge difference, this is the first year he has come home every day wanting to tell me about his day, his new friends, his teachers, etc... Our school started Aug 4, and he was really nervous after his last problems with school, but is doing incredible, which makes me so happy.

Answer 7

Encourage the child to study his butt off. What's the teacher going to say when he earns straight A's? She'll either have to put her foot in her mouth or admit she was wrong. Teachers should never degrade students, unless it is for really poor and distracting behavior (bullying, pranks, etc.).

Answer 8

You have to make sure that the child gets a teacher that is suitable. I changed my son's teacher in 2nd grade and told the Principal that he would change teachers until I found one that was up to my standards.

It took a while for him to like and trust teachers.

Answer 9

Teach your child to be strong and emotionally rational. Stay cool-headed, and teach your child to excel in spite of someone's comment. If you are a loser this will be especially hard because you treat everything as if it's everyone else's fault. Be like Martin Luther King Jr., he says that your character says more about how you act in times of adversity.

Answer 10

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