Do you think things like porn and sex toys are good for a relationship, or bad? What if one partner likes that stuff a bit too much? Is it ok that when me and my man watch it together, it makes me feel like he's a pig, after all, he's getting off on these nasty sluts... I am having a hard time with it. Why does he need it so bad, and why do I think its so dirty? Am I alone?
2006-08-10 02:16:38 · 19 answers · asked by nat_00420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont have issues, I just feel nasty watching it with him, I actually like watching it alone... I just dont like watching him, watch it...
2006-08-10 02:42:50 · update #1
If both partners are open to experimenting, then whatever you decide to do is good. If you see your man as a pig when he watches porn then you need to tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. If he watches it excessively and can only get busy with you after he watches it then there might be a problem here.
2006-08-10 02:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think porn and sex toys can keep things spiced up a bit and add variety so things don't get boring. Watching porn together seems fine. What do you mean he's getting off on the nasty sluts? Masturbating? If so, that's not good but if he's only watching to get turned on and then gets it on with you, that's great. He probably doesn't need to watch it real bad but wants a change and maybe it helps him get turned on. Most women do think it's dirty. I don't see the big deal unless he's masturbating to it. Ps Toys can be fun, get something you will enjoy.
2006-08-10 09:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with enjoying toys and porn with your partner, I highly recommend it in fact. But any activity should be something BOTH people enjoy, not just one. It sounds to me that the porn isn't working for you. Do you enjoy watching porn alone, or is it something you don't enjoy either way?
Perhaps you should try some female-centric porn. I'm not real familiar with any titles is particular, but http://www.goodvibes.com/ is a great website with a good selection of specialty porn, especially porn made with females in mind. They have customer reviews and ratings for every movie as well. They also have a superb collection of toys if you are looking for that kind of action.
If you just can't get into porn at all, tell your partner that it's something you don't enjoy doing with him for the reasons you stated and he should understand since you have tried to be open. But you can't tell him not to watch it by himself, so try not to think about that too much.
2006-08-10 09:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by rachelinjapan24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For anyone to give you advice that will help you, they would have to know at which level you do not like the situation. In all relationships it's about likes and dislikes and should have been brought up in the dating period of your getting to know each other.
This is a perfect example of not knowing your mate well enough to form a perfect or near perfect bond. Which brings us to acceptance. He likes it and you do not. No one says you have to like it but the same works for the other side.
Yes your a couple so sit down and talk about it. Don't judge him just tell him how it makes you feel. But do so with respect for what he likes. Do not make him feel bad for watching it using guilt trip tactics. After all your the one who has issues.
2006-08-10 09:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think porn is ok, because most of it is all fantasy. Sex toys are great for a relationship. So is dressing up/costumes. I think every relationship should have a little bit of kinkiness in it.
2006-08-10 09:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Green-Eyed Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watching porn my not be your thing but I think all couples should break out the toys at times and have a great time
2006-08-10 09:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are normal. its kind of an instinctive possessive thing that women have. what girl likes their man watching other girls naked? if you dont like watching the porn, try a "sneak attack" when the toys and videos are conveniently not around. like do it in the kitchen or smthng thats exciting and surprising and fun. see? you can still be kinky without making yourself feel bad.
2006-08-10 09:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by mervelash 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not alone. A lot of people feel that way. Things like that aren't for everyone. Have you explained to your man how you feel about these things? Have you thought about why you don't like them? The most important thing to remember, is that you two need to talk about it. Maybe you could find a solution that works for both of you.
2006-08-10 09:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is NOTHING wrong with guys or girls enjoying porn!!!!! Guys are visually stimulated so it doesn't matter if you've got a hot girl, your still gonna want to see some porn. It doesn't mean your unhappy or want to replace your mate. I personally use it to give me ideas on what to do with my girlfriend (when I have one) Just try to enjoy it with him and don't worry about it. In other words lighten up!
2006-08-10 09:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong about you not liking it. If he likes the porn and it bothers you (the fact that he likes the porn, not the porn itself) then you should discuss it with him. If he likes kinky and you don't, your relationship is going to suffer.
2006-08-10 09:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by Magina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋