My friend just told me she has Cancer and has had it since October..?

Question

IT's stomach cancer and she's only 30. I looked it up and it doesn't sound like a good one to have (only 18.8% of people live at least five years). Also, most people don't find out about it until it's in later stages.

My question is: How should I help her deal with this? There's a possibility its spread to her liver and now she's hearing voices telling her to kill herself.

I don't know what to do. Help!?!?!?!

Answer 1

I am so sorry to hear that. It is an awful cancer - my grandfather had it. Killing herself is not the answer she needs to live life to the full right now - help her fulfill all her goals and max out her credit card together. Encourage positive thinking and look for holistic therapies as well as traditional medical ones. Hope this helps so sorry again.

Answer 2

Sorry to say, but my dad died from this. All you can do is be supportive. She needs you now More than ever and you're being there for comfort will be a great help. They remove 1/3 of my dad's stomach in the hopes it would work, but it didn't. Unless it is caught in time, I don't think there is anything that can be done for her medically. Pray for her. I know I will. I want to cry just hearing this. It breaks my heart to hear this. Be her friend and never abandoned her which I'm sure you won't. God bless you, You are a true friend.

Answer 3

I know someone who was told 9 or 10 years ago that he had cancer connecting all of his bodily organs (quite a mess) and he had roughly 6 months to live. He was probly right around 30 also at the time. He was a smoker but quite athletic and other than the cancer very healthy. At first he was hospitalized, he took his I.V. for laps around the floor his room was on, stayed positive. They did surgery to remove what they could. And guess who is still alive today. Very important for your friend to stay positive and if they aren't athletic become athletic, perhaps you can volunteer to start up something like tennis or racquet ball with your friend this will make him or her feel good, they won't be alone and it will be a good vent of frustration. While going threw treatment, muscle mass will diminish and it may be hard for your friend to keep weight on, look for high callorie foods, my friend had found some kind of bread (punpkin or banana don't remember which) that was sold per slice and had like 1000 callories in it. he forced himself to eat as much as he could. keep stuff like this in mind. Good luck.

Answer 4

I really feel baddddddd about this..I am not a doctor,neither am i the perfect person to let u know what to do.But i`l try tel u to help u.
Spend time with her.But don`t make her feel that u are being good to her because of what she is suffering.Its better if someone doesn`t know that she is going to die!!Its a pathetic feeling isn`t it?Now that she knows,make sure that she sticks to all medical advices strictly.This will of course reduce the pain she might have to suffer otherwise..
I`l just say that do something so that she lives happily,let her know that she is loved.Every moment SHE FORGETS THE FEAR and enjoys is worth 4 her and her dear ones.Remember if she keeps on thinking about this all the time,it will just deteriorate her health more and its just a no no
She is lucky to have a friend like u..make her enjoy life..But it SHOULDN`T BE TOO MUCH INTERFERENCE WITH HER NORMAL LIFE.
(thought of suicide?As others have said counseling will help i suppose.Its obviously tough time for her.Help her with positive feelings.)Be with her.

Answer 5

Sorry for your friend. Any cancer, no matter what type is bad to have. The only thing I can tell you is, to be strong, don't back away, or let it scare you. Right now your friend needs as much support as she can get. Just stand by her, and help her all you can. It will not be easy at all. I know it is extremely hard to watch someone deteriorate. But hold your own, and don't let her see you cry.

Answer 6

I'm sorry that you are going through this. And I'm sorry your friend is going through this.
It sounds like she is a very private person if she just told you about it and she may have avoided telling you. My mom is the same way. She doesn't want people to treat her differently. She says it feels like there's a sign on her that says "hey I have cancer".
One of the things I do with my mom is NOT talk about it. She needs to talk to someone that WON'T KEEP reminding her that she has this.
My mom battles her depression about this all the time too. She sways back & forth between fighting to live and letting herself die.

So, my suggestion is to do things with your friend that you've always enjoyed doing, like nothing has ever happened. And if she wants to talk about it, let her talk about it. She has to lead the way, otherwise you will be pushing her away.

Answer 7

My dad got pancreatic cancer which is the same way...no symptoms till in the later stages. It was very hard for me. But I was the only child (I was 45 then) with 3 grown children & 1 still in college...plus I was working. So I got online & researched all I could to learn about the disease...what the symptoms were, what he felt like...what he should eat, ect. It helped me a lot to understand what that cancer was doing to him. He only lasted 5 months after he was diagnosed & it was a very trying time but I loved him so much I did all I could to make him comfortable & just allow him to do what he wanted...as well as comfort my mom. I think thats all we can do, is be there with total support & allow them to live thier end of life with dignity & love. His last 2 weeks were spent in a coma like state & he lost so much weight...but I took comfort knowing he was a christian & that he would soon be in heaven with his grandson (my son that died at age 3 mos.) It is a very emotional time for everyone but we have to be thier strength & comfort. Just allow her to be herself. And there may be times she gets angry, my dad did, but we have to see it through thier eyes & understand.
Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 8

you just need to stick by her, theres nothing really that can be done- but be there when she needs you and hold her when she wants/needs to be held. i had a couple of relatives that died of different cancer.its too hard at the end that you just want to relieve their pain. whats worse is standing there watching their soul leave their body-but they go knowing they where loved and they had the support they needed.
goodluck

Answer 9

Hello,

She could be part of the 18.8% that lives, if she commits suicide she'll never know what if ????

tell her to have faith, what happened to her isn't fair, just have some faith

does she have a religion?????????

Answer 10

Encourage her to get counseling. Cancer is survivable, but depression is common. She needs professional help.