I'm currently in Italy but family is home in America. Unfortunately I cannot go home right now to the US. My grandfather has only a few more days to live. I have to call him but I don't know what to say! How do you say a last good-bye?
2006-08-10 01:35:59 · 36 answers · asked by Erica 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Some suggestions - just tell him that you love him and talk about a past event that the 2 of you shared. It could be one that has special meaning for you or him, or a funny incident that will make him smile. Tell him about something you've done while in Italy.
Really, the hard part is picking up the phone and dialing. Once you start talking to him your heart will take over and you'll know what to say.
My condolences to you.
2006-08-10 01:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really say goodbye. You spend as much time as possible with him (I know it will be difficult if it is over the phone) maybe recalling times you spent together. Memories of good times, happier days. When you need to end the call/conversation, just tell him you love him, you may find that the words will come to you. He knows that he is dying so he may help you find the words you are looking for. Sometimes, just a hug and an "I love you" will be enough for both of you.
I wish you luck, it is very hard to let go of a loved one, but you are lucky to have the opportunity to say "goodbye". It is much harder to deal with the emotions afterward when you aren't given the chance.
2006-08-10 01:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by cheryl16k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must feel horrible, I am so sorry that you are so far away and cannot be there for him personally. He understands, remember that. When you do call, reminence about all the good times you both have had together and as a family. Remind him of how much you love him and how you will definitely see him on the other side. The more up-lifted you are with him the better because it will give him a sense of closure and comfort. My prayers are with you and your family.
2006-08-10 01:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by KatheeVonE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the person you love them and have always loved them. Tell them you will always remember the good times that you had together. Tell them that they will always be remembered and their contribution to your life, the world and the family will always be remembered and cherished. Tell them you are grateful to them for everything they have ever done. Thank the person for making your existence possible. Make the person feel that their life has not gone by in vain. Tell them they will live on in the memories and in the lives of everyone who loves them. Tell the person you have forgiven them for any past transgressions or arguments. Tell them you will miss them every day for the rest of your life and that you will strive to make the most of yourself and live your life in a way that will make them proud. IF you are religious tell them you will pray and that they will be in a better place and that you will see them again.
I feel empathy for you and wish you and yours strength for what is a difficult and trying time.
Your grandfather's passing has even touched my life and I have never met him.
Condolences from Moscow.
I am sorry if my answer sounds "generic".
Someone once said, "I am diminished by the passing of any human being" as we all are..
2006-08-10 01:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by JAR2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a friend to hook up a video chat. Tell your grandfather how much you love him and hope the best for him. Don't see this as a negative thing. The fact that you know his time is ending is a chance to say goodbye and tell him how much he means to you. Be glad for that.
2006-08-10 01:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry for the loss you and your family are about to suffer. All you can do is tell your grandfather how much you love him, how much you enjoyed spending time with him and that you'll see him again on the other side.
2006-08-10 01:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing. that is my biggest fear, not being able to get to family in time of death, all you can do is call and maybe send a letter or a care package.
these are ways of sending your love, as far as saying goodbye, be subltle and just remind your grampa that no matter wht happens that you love him very much and wish that you could get back home.and remind him of all the great times you had together.
2006-08-10 01:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Pussycat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you wish you could spend some time with him but you are with him in spirit if not in body. Ask if he is comfortable and tell him your thoughts are with him. At the end of your conversation don't say goodbye say, "see ya" because someday you probably will.
I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather. :(
2006-08-10 01:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well dear i think good bye is not the right thing to say coz as PPL believe in Jesus christ then after all we all will meet in heaven so tell him see u soon and say hi to Jesus for us coz that where he will be in Jesus's hands
♥
2006-08-10 02:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by Clark794 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is alert & competent, I would remind him of something he
has taught you. I'd remind him of a joke he told you. I'd inform
him of my lifestyle & important affairs. I'd ask him if there was
something he'd like to pass on to me. I'd like to let him know just
how valuable his life has meant to me.I'd tell him I was aware of
his impending demise & I want to make it a memorable milestone. I wouldn't grovel or worry about being politically correct,as much as saving myself the grief of shoulda/coulda
after he passes & you wish you could said this or that. And it'll
be tooooooooo late.
2006-08-10 01:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by anitababy.brainwash 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋