ok, so i was engaged to my now ex-fiance, i broke it off, because i thought we were still both kind of young and we had both just turned 21, and he started going through a really bad phase of leaving me at home every night to take care of our baby. after awhile i got fed up and said that i needed some space and we both moved into different places, that was three months ago, and he is now dating someone else, and i have been getting this strong urges to want him back and to beat the crap out of his girlfriend(i would never do that, just thought about it LOL) anyway my question is...
is it normal for me to be completely jealous of her and could i just want him back because now someone else has him? to be quite honest i wasn't really happy in the relationship we had, but now all of a sudden i just want to be with him, i still don't want to be married, but i want him. am i a bad person for feeling this way or has someone else been there before too? please help, sorry this is so long.
2006-08-10 01:24:50 · 11 answers · asked by puppy love 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jealousy is a normal reaction but what you have to understand is that you made the choice to let him go. The biggest mistake you made was allowing yourself to believe that he would always be there if you wanted him back. I am sure he was hurt and he decided to find companionship with someone else to ease the hurt and feelings of unworthiness. If you ever want to keep things calm with him for the sake of the baby then you had better not let this get the best of you. Jealousy is a monster and it is known to drive people crazy. Focus on you and your child for now and show him that you are doing well without him, that way he may want to come back to you and make things right. If you hurt the girl he is with now, then you could end up with assault charges and go to jail when your baby needs you at home. Also he may never want anything to do with you again and that would be worse. God Bless and good luck
2006-08-10 01:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by Amy A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not wrong for feeling this way. This is normal when you have a child with someone and you break up an they hook up with someone else of course your going to be jealous (i've been there) but you have to Move on juat like he did. You want him back because he is with someone else and he is the father of your baby. You are not a bad person for feeling this way you still feelings for him put they'll soon go away trust me.
2006-08-10 01:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by lasondraperry-graham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Jealousy is normal and your feeling of wanting to crush her head in is normal as well. Its temporary though because you see your ex-fiancee dating someone else you naturally have the urge to get him back. But its a temporary feeling and if you werent happy with him before you probably will still be unhappy with him if he got back together with you. This is just a phase let it pass.
2006-08-10 01:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by omsuperhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, though not healthy. You were unhappy in the relationship and if that other woman weren't in the picture, you wouldn't have wanted him back. Just try to keep that in mind when you're feeling a bit jealous.
Sometimes it's just hard to see people we've loved be happy without us! As you move on with your own life, those feelings will fade.
2006-08-10 01:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so normal, we don't really know what we have until we give it out yeah i think in your case you just needed space but you didn't want him to go into someone else's arms i think you love him and if he also does you guys can work things out. talk things over with him and tell him you love and that you're jealous abt his new relationship so you want him back for the baby, don't be too proud say them and i believe it will work cos two wrong does not make right...........
2006-08-10 01:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by Prisca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really long.. it's normal to b jealous but it depends how much.probably it's because he actually left u(as u asked) and u feel that he's going on with his life without u. by the way..21 and baby and breaking it off, and wanting independence?sthg went wrong in this story,u must realize that. get over him and take care of yr baby + self.
2006-08-10 01:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by disco ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Chivalry says, "Jealousy is a normal emotion. There is a fine line though. I believe jealousy shows that you care. If a person was nonchalant about someone pushing on a person's lover, then it kinda looks like the person doesn't care at all."
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-10 04:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything your asking is natural to feel. Especially when you've been with someone for a long time, and you see them with someone else. I know exactly how you feel. It just means your not completely over him yet.
2006-08-10 01:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by shizzy0117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a case of" I don't want him but I don't want anyone else to have him either." My advise is to start dating someone else. If you weren't happy with him before, move on.
2006-08-10 01:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by bookfreak2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told him you wanted space and He gave you it,you need to move on.also if you weren't happy with him why would you want him back.
2006-08-10 01:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by Nails 4 breakfast,tacks 4 snacks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋