first of all, he does need to have the desire to lose weight, but you can also encourage him.
encourage him to join weight watchers or another such group. they often have classes for males only. tell him you really would love to have him healthy , so that you do not need to be widowed young, and that it is not just for vanity's sake to lose the weight
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you sound quite sensible and genuine about helping him. perhaps speak to his friends and tell them how important it is and that they are welcome to his company , but not to pressurise him into eating foods and having too many drinks which are off limits.
let him know that you are not going to be his jail keeper, and that you understand that the wheels will fall off some times, and that most importantly you will not be judging him for that. take it one day at a time.
if he is a bit shy about joining a group , then buy the odd magazine which has inspirational stories in, which may help him.
if he knows why he has gotten so large, he should work on any outstanding issues,so that he can move forward.
if you live together , try to eat the same healthy foods as him ,and don't be taunting him with your snacks.make sure you have some alternatives which are better for his work in progress.
there are so many diets for the overweight out there, that it can be very confusing. do some research, but try to follow one that is a way of life that he can follow long term and hopefully permanently.
wish you well.
2006-08-10 01:13:05
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answered by saywot? 5
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First,Have him go to a dietitian they show you the healthy way to loose weight and how he will not be deprived and eat what he likes. When you can eat that chocolate or drink beer and still loose weight and not feel denied it is easy you don't even know it is a diet because it becomes a life style change.
Second, going to the gym is great but you need to be an example also! Yep you need to get rid of anything unhealthy in the house and only eat healthy.
Third when temptation is there is is 100 times worse. Stay away from things that make him week like BB Q's, nights out with the guys, birthday parties. You add them back in when you meet your goals because you are stronger then.
Good luck 2 u both
2006-08-10 01:06:53
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answered by Anonymous
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Exercise and dieting helps a lot. Suggest getting rid of some things like cheese that just add calories to a meal. For exercise suggest not just running and cardio, but also light weight training, where he does a lot of reps on lower weight to get toned. A) it works and b) its less tiring and usually appeals more to people that don't really want to work out. Another thing that helps is drinking enough water. The average person should drink about 60 oz of water i believe (check into that), and getting enough water can actually boost your metabolism. That's a fact.
2006-08-10 01:24:39
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answered by bored_at_work 3
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Probably the best thing to do is to make sure that, when the two of you are eating together, you have a sensible, well-balanced, low fat meal. Try just going for walks instead of the gym - the exercise is just as good. If he REALLY wants to lose weight he'll cut down on the drinking and curries - the alcohol is more dangerous than his weight!
Don't nag and don't try to force him to do anything - if he wants to, he will.
Good luck to both of you and I'm sure you'll get there in the end.
2006-08-10 01:02:02
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answered by The Findleys 3
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As someone who has battled weight for over 20 years, positive support is always best.
Remember that gyms bulk you up, especially males.
If he is obese (25 pounds or more over ideal weight), one should first get medical attention.
I was hypnotized 3 weeks ago for weight loss, $40 cash money back guarantee, lifetime. The hypnotist puts positive suggestions like eat only foods good for you, drink water with each meal, exercise, etc.
It has been great for me. But, each person is different so he should see a Doctor and you should encourage that.
2006-08-10 01:02:59
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answered by Anonymous
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He needs to want to lose weight, if he really does, he will get into the frame of mind, and cut out the so called Friends that encourage the bad habits of curries and beer!
Visit the GP and get a proper health check done before you begin any diet and exercises, the GP will be able to advise on the best methods, but the only real way is determination and self discipline
2006-08-10 01:00:40
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answered by SunnyDays 5
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He needs motivation before he can do anything - give him reasons as to why he should lose weight - and make them reasons HE wants to lose weight - i/e health reasons, to be fitter, to be more attractive (for himself - again) - when he's been convinced, you can look to the method - join a gym, get a PT, do a sport he enjoys - maybe you can go/do things with him? - to give him more motivation,
then there's diet - but that's a whole new ballgame and revolves around him changing his attitude to food/ and therefore his lifestyle and habits - good luck!
oh! and get him to let his friends know of his plans - then they can be supportive and maybe help - if they're not, he needs new friends!..
2006-08-10 01:05:04
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answered by Frankie 4
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He has to want to do it himself, unless you are with him all day and physically stopping him from eating junk then there is nothing you can do. just be supportive but tell him your worried about his health.
good luck.
and I know a lot of people will knock it but the Atkins diet really worked for me...found it easy to stick to and lost 3 1/2 stone in 2 months. Felt loads more energetic so wanted to do lots of walking etc.People will say it's not healthy but neither is being obese so if he can't stick to a low fat diet maybe this is an option.
2006-08-10 01:01:29
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answered by Gypsie 5
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you can not help anyone lose weight. the person has to want to. i used to be overweight i made excuses why i couldn't lose weight until one day i made up my mind on my own. the more you talk about it especially around them it will become more of a challenge. remember why you fell in love with this person. i am sure you saw through their outward appearance and saw their heart.
2006-08-10 01:11:34
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answered by Jennifer B 2
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A diabetic diet, whether or not you have the disease is, in my opinion, the best diet. Watching carbs and fat are the most critical things to look for. Don't listen to the calorie counters...I know it is important to limit calories too, BUT, you can burn them off with exercise. It is the fat that sticks to you and carbs are nothing but sugar.
From my own experience in dieting, cutting carbonated beverages from my daily intake has decreased my stomach considerably. I also drink lots of water.
Unless your fiance is determined, no matter what people are doing around him, nothing will work. You have to have the will power to succeed in any venture.
2006-08-10 01:09:57
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answered by pipi08_2000 7
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