she drives me crazy outside. She always starts crying before i even enter a place. she starts saying i want candy or something. I dont give in to her or anything . I would tell her if she stays good until I am done she would get something but if u start crying then she could forget about it. But she still keeps crying even if I dont give her anything any suggestions.
2006-08-10 00:34:15 · 6 answers · asked by motherof3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Before you go anywhere, review what might and might not happen. Role play with her how she could behave properly given different situations. She is still at the age where she is not sure of which choices to make in terms of behavior. So she is crying to let you know she is feeling scared and insecure.
You might also start to work with her about words for feelings. She might need some direct instruction about different ways to feel in certain situations. It's okay to feel scared and upset, and this is what we do when we feel this way.
Good luck. It takes time and patience. BTW: always do this instruction when you're both calm and in a good mood.
2006-08-10 00:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by lrad1952 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably crying for a reason; next time this happens, stop and ask her if she is scared. If she says that she is, ask why, and reassure her that mommy is right there. Tell her that she is safe, and that you won't let anything happen to her. Sometimes all kids need is a little reassurance!
If she's just crying to be a nuisance, tell her that she is a big girl now, not a baby anymore, and that she is too old to be crying for no reason. Try going to places just for her sometimes, so that she doesn't feel like you are just dragging her along when you go on errands. Places she would enjoy could be: toy store, book store, candy store, etc.
But your errands don't have to be a drag for her! Make an effort to have her enjoy it, because errands have to be done anyways, so she might as well have a good time doing them. For example, if you were going grocery shopping, tell her ahead of time where you're going, so she knows what to expect. Have a list of what you need at hand. Ask her to help you get things off the lower shelves, and have her put them in the cart herself. When you're finished with the list, if she behaved herself, tell her she was a good girl, and that she can choose something to get, like a choco. bar or ice cream. The reward system works every time!
2006-08-10 13:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by q&a_08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bribery won't get you very far. Make sure she's rested before you go on an outing. She's always crying before you go in somewhere because you're always reacting to it. Let her cry and ignore her. Mirroring her actions back at her might help, too. I've heard that recommended. Stay as far away from the toy aisles as possible. If she gets way out of hand, keep your composure, pick her up and take her home. By way out of hand I mean shrieking bloody murder, whilst kicking her feet and slamming her head on the floor.
Make shopping a fun and more interactive experience. Have her help you plan out what you're going to get and let her help you put things in the cart (very handy at the grocery). Know what you're going shopping for and keep the looking around time short.
Praise good behavior and ignore bad behavior unless life or limb is in danger.
2006-08-10 08:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by auld mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you go somewhere, be prepared to leave. My son is a monster in a store. Sometimes he behaves, most times he doesn't. Everytime I go into a store with him, I prepare to leave without having bought anything.
ex: I went grocery shopping with him, his baby brother and my husband. He started screaming for a treat. I told him if he could be a good boy until we were done, that I would get him a treat. He continued to misbehave. So..... I left the cart of groceries, gathered up his brother, and we left the store.
Make her know you mean business.
2006-08-10 07:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by Imani 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her at home for a while.(with supervision)
And when she wants to go..tell her you are embarassed by her whining when you take her so she can stay home until she can make a better choice...and follow through! Don't take her a few times then casually take her some place without making a big deal about the "if you do...then..." and if she starts then leave and take her home..."I am sorry you are not ready to go to___, maybe next time." and walk away.
2006-08-10 12:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My little girl had the same problem. I got her a little treat bag that she filled up with toys,snacks, and books. It was small enough for her to hold and she occupied herself with the contents. when she threw fits it took her bag from her. Good luck.
2006-08-10 10:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by maeknits 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋