I have been with my gf for about a year now and she has lied to me more times than I can count. Literally. She also cheated on me twice early in our relationship. She says she loves me and wants to stop lying. I keep forgiving and she keeps lying. I feel like an idiot. I love her so I keep giving her chances. She says she has a problem and just needs help. I obviously dont believe anything she say to me anymore. Should I continue to try to help her and stay with her, or should I finally pull my head out of my *** and leave her and move on with my life?
2006-08-10 00:18:50 · 14 answers · asked by Chris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that all of the people that answered this question have never been in that situation nor have they actually thought about the other side, maybe they all have never been in love before. If asked the question if people can change, they would all probably say yes to some extent. I know that we all have faults, but she is asking you for help. She has probably done a lot of things that she is not proud of and has been a bad person. People do change. Are all these people saying that stupid people can't be smart? Once a cheater always a cheater right? Are they saying that if you are poor you can't make money? If you are fat, you can't be skinny? Born fat, always fat. Born poor, always poor. God forbid if you open a book and read to try to boost your intelligence! You can't do that, because the person will always be stupid according to these people. If you love her, then be with her and help her change her ways. She hasn't cheated on you since, she has cut everyone out of her life so you would be the only one she knows, she has tried...all because she truly does love you. On the flip side, she has made you the happiest man in the world, she has shown you love that you didn't know existed. She is not all bad, she needs some work. She needs to forgive herself, know that she can stop lying, and know that you love her. I have shared everything with you. We have shared so many deep secrets and know that they will never leave us. I know that you love me. And I do want to be with you! I want all of these people that replied to you to know that they are wrong and thank them for their opinion. I have been horrible and you don't deserve this abuse. I know you can't believe me, please then, let me show you. It's been a rough year and our present location is not helping either. You said so yourself. But that is no excuse for what I have done. It's all my fault and I take the blame wholeheartedly. But I would like to correct my ways. I wasn't born a liar, and I don't have to die one. I do want it bad enough Chris and I do love you.
2006-08-10 05:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by Chris'_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get the Dunce Cap for the day. You should have dumped her the first time she cheated. By taking her back she knows you can be used and abused, and come back for more. Wake up Kiddo, step back and ask yourself, what advise would I give a friend in the same situation?
2006-08-10 00:25:56 · answer #2 · answered by LadyotheLakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just staying with this girl cause you love her and are worried you will never find anyone better- you will!! There a million fish in the sea and they are a dime a dozen. Cut the b**** loose and find someone who will love you back and not lie or cheat. She ain't worth your time.
2006-08-10 00:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey yeah id say leave her, thats ridiculous! cheating and lying are not cool- obviously not the best relationship and if you can't trust her then its pointless! Move on!
2006-08-10 00:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu really can't trust someone like that everyone lies but all the time about little and big things, my answer to you is hell no dump her and move on to someone who will be honest to you.
2006-08-10 00:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, from my point of view as a female...Leave her...She got her chances and enough of chances that you gave her...She should treasure and respect you more than everyone else, but she abuse your kind heart...so dump her...If she wanted to change for good, she would have change long ago...
2006-08-10 00:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by barelyahrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you deserve better!!! you should move on! you are the one that will end up being hurt. I'm sure you have a loooong waiting list...lol
you dint have subject yourself to the lies and deceit
2006-08-10 00:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by buttercup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you have to think of yourself!! its your life and you make the decisions to be happy! dont let this girl drag you down, get rid of her you will be much better off and happier on your own!!
2006-08-10 00:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet_Miss_Toni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is #1 in a relationship. she obviously can't be trusted. she's cheated on you already. she's prolly going to cheat again and again. tell your g/f "peace out!"
There's an old saying.
"fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me."
2006-08-10 00:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by snafu1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absoluetely wat r u waiting 4? waiting 4 her 2 dump u in the bin?
a liar is always a liar rem dat !! u should get rid of her as soon as possible n heres wishing u luck in doin so 1
2006-08-10 00:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by crazy bt cute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋