Asking for myself. In the verge of divorce with my wife. She cheated on me a few times. Keep wanting her back for the kids. But this time, I think to myself, enough is enough! But do you think any1 will be attracted to a man who is 30 and have 2 kids(5 & 4). Or they want to cheat me cause I am very vulnerable..Do you think life still exist for someone like me?
2006-08-09 23:48:04 · 24 answers · asked by Grace is a liar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not a woman but I have been there. Yep, there is hope. I am 32 with 2 kids. I have them most of the time. It will be hard either way. It will be hard to date someone that has no kids. It will also be hard to date someone with kids but may be alittle easier. My soon to be wife has 2 kids her self and at times it is very hard b/c the kids fight. Just b/c the want to be the better person. But thats only the older kids. The younger kids do pretty well with one another. Ages are 8,7,6 and 5. Just need to find someone that enjoys the same as you and remember no matter what you do for the kids make sure you do the same for ALL. If not they will feel left out. Even if your kids or her kids are not around and you do something with the other kids, they will feel left out. So becareful in what you do. Just make sure the kids are put first in everything. You can make it work but it wlll take time. Dont bring the kids in to fast into the relationship. Wait a few months to make sure the person you find is going to stick around for awhile. I have been doing this for about 6 months and the kids still fight some what. They like to compete with each other. Most of the time it is over something stupid or thats what we think anyway. Just keep your head up high. Just try to be a good father for them. If you need more info just drop me aline and I will help were I can. Good luck bro.
I know how you feel bro, My ex cheated on me and I been damn if I gave her another chance. Dont go there. Get out and you will see that there is alot of women out there to respect you. Life is short. It will be hard at first on trusting people but it will come. Stand up for what you think is right. Get out. Kick her to the curb
2006-08-10 00:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I am so sorry you are going through this rough time. Yes, there is love and life after this hardship! And yes, there are plenty of females out there who will be interested in you. By the way 30 is still very young! A little advice...when you start to date make sure you let them know that you have 2 children but timing is everything. Let the woman get to know you first. Talk, laugh, and when the topic does come up which it most likely will during the first meeting, be a proud father claiming your kids. Personally I think that is attractive when a man brags about his children. Lets me know he is a good caring loving father. Now there are females who won't want to deal with that aspect and hopefully they are women enough to say that. But there might be a girl out there in the same boat as you. You will meet the right woman. It may take time but be patient and honest and remmeber the kids are going through a rough time too. Never introduce them to a female friend unless it is serious. Kids get attached easily and they don't quite understand this break up stuff so be sensitive to their needs too. Good luck, friend!
2006-08-10 06:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
If you find someone who feels true love for you, she will not mind although you were already married. After all it's your past and you are not to be blame. I think that you have taken the right decision in leaving your wife. If she was not a good wife, she would not have been a good mother as well. I hope that you find the right person as soon as possible. But do make sure that the girl you choose is willing to accept your two kids as they are still quite young. Otherwise it might be a bit difficult for your two kids to accept this fact. This might also have a very bad effect on them. Don't ever make the mistake of leaving your kids for a girl. Am sure your kids badly need you. You are both their mum & dad. If a girl is not willing to accept your kids then there is no guarantee that she will treat them nicely. And she might also leave you a day for someone else. I wish you all the best. Hope that success comes to you very soon.
2006-08-10 07:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by mehnaazishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 29 years old and if I'm absolutely honest, I'd probably have difficulties falling for a man who has already been divorced and has kids. It's definitely easier to fall for someone who hasn't been married and doesn't have this kind of responsibility. However, that shouldn't stop you from getting a divorce if things are not working out between you and your wife anymore. Life definitely still exists! You're young, and there are plenty of good women out there.
2006-08-10 06:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by Adrienne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because yr 30 and yr divorced and you have 2 kids do u so think that you cannot start anew?. No way my friend, any intelligent women who sees that you hav picked up the peices of your heart, learnt from your mistakes ( it takes 2 hands to clap) and are emotionally strong, and able to cope with having her in yr life plus the 2 kids, will sooooooooooo fall fr you. So get up, no regets, dotn hold on to the past, take life one step at a time, adn move on.God Bless.
2006-08-10 06:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by haboba13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. Of course women are attracted to men with kids. Some women don't want to bare children but still love them. Alot of women will see you as a good loving person that's loyal and a good man because you take care of your kids. Good luck. There's someone out there for everyone.
2006-08-10 06:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by lovemykalli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going through a rough time right now so naturally you feel down. Yes, there is hope for you LOL. I had a girlfriend who married a divorced guy with five children he had custody of. The five were all boys and she is happy as a lark. They have been married almost 20 yrs. Life does still exist for you. Hang in there.
2006-08-10 06:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT on the scrap-heap!! The fact that a man has children from a previous relationship is no longer a problem these days. If your next partner is young, she may find it difficult to cope with, but a mature woman rarely cares. In fact, it can be a bonus, because it shows to her that you are capable of commitment!!
Problems can arise if your ex intrudes on your next relationship. I was engaged to a man with 2 children...they were great. The main problem was, he always put them well before me and broke plans we had without telling me etc, so we broke up because he didn't think about how rejected i felt about things.
You will find someone EASY!!
2006-08-10 06:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by medium_of_dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course some woman would still be attracted to you even tho u already have 2 kids but sorry to say the numbers would be limited hehe
2006-08-10 06:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by sexi_suzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a twice divorced woman with 3 kids and I finally found the man of my dreams. Just to let you know that there is hope.
2006-08-10 06:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by kyeann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋