He will be mad if he knows I looked through his stuff.
2006-08-09 23:40:09 · 21 answers · asked by sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi.
Don't make a big issue out of this. But i would advice you to have a talk with your boyfriend on this matter. Tell him the truth. If he really loves you he won't be angry with you for having gone through his stuffs. After all in love there should be trust, understanding, sincerity and most of all honesty. When you truly love someone, you should never hide anything from the latter. It may also be that he lie to the girl for no specific reasons. Lots of guys do that. This doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. But he should also be frank with you. Have a serious conversation with him as soon as possible. Hope that everything goes on well. Wish you all the best.
2006-08-09 23:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by mehnaazishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should end it now because you are being disrespected. There is a huge difference between making friends and flirting with people online to meet up with them. If he is filling things out that he is single and lonely maybe that is how he feels-which by the way has nothing to do with you. People with low-self esteem sabotage themselves. They also lash out at people that actually care about them because they never think they are worth loving. I have a friend that is like this and he sabotages himself all the time. He tries to justify his manipulation, lying, cheating etc on his own set of rules that make absolutely no sense. He tries to make these girls think they are the crazy ones. Its very abusive. So don't walk, run away. The funny part is that when you break up, he will chase you because he is a collector. The more girls that show interest in him the better he feels. He wants everyone to do what he wants and suffer none of the consequences. The sad part is that you seem like a loving girl and he is too absorbed in his own feelings to notice. So find some other things to fill your time, join a meet-up group in your area, do something that interests you. Also he seems like the type that wants you to be around but then keeps a part of himself closed off that leads you to never trusting him. Good-luck.
2016-03-27 06:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first of all...you can do 1 of 2 things. Tell him straight out. Yeah I looked through your stuff and the only reason you are mad is because you hide things from me that you don't want me to know like telling a girl your single. I wouldn't have to look through your things if I trusted you and I don't trust you and you have given me no reason to trust you. You are disrespecting me and I don't appreciate it! So you wanna be single, wanna date other people, fine. So do I. Infact my other boyfriend is waiting for me right now so tootles! And leave his lying a*s*s! Or you can spare the argument, spare your feelings and let it go. Do the same thing he is doing and if he finds out and gets mad then bring it up. Good luck!
2006-08-09 23:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not confront him directly about what you read. You should not be reading his personal archive. You should accept that he may be THINKING ABOUT meeting other girls. Perhaps he is just flirting or perhaps he is tired of his relationship with you and is looking for someone "better". Obviously, there is reason for you to be concerned. I suppose you could just ask him how he feels about his relationship with you and whether he is completely happy having you as his girlfriend. If you are very daring, you could also ask him directly whether he has ever chatted with other girls or tried to meet other girls since he started dating you. If he lies to you, beware - he cannot be trusted - and find a new boyfriend, if you want to avoid being hurt.
2006-08-09 23:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Perplexed Music Lover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont. And you dont go through peoples private things. Would you like it if he snooped through yours? Because he is your boyfreind does not mean you own him, or have the right to meddle in his personal affairs. If he wants to go see other women it is his right. He does have the moral abligation to let you know though. If he doesnt then you dump him if you cant accept it, or if you can then try to be a more interesting person. Instead of putting your energy in finding out what he does in his life put your energy in making him happy and not wanting to see other women.
tresspassing in his personal affairs can only encourage that.
Sorry for being harsh and good luck with your relationship
remember this:
Honesty, Respect and Tolerance are the pillars of Love
make these your core values, it does not guarantee that your partner will be good, but it will make you.
2006-08-09 23:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sibbano 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call. You violated his trust by checking his online archive, he violated your trust by telling some girl online that he's single.
There is no way you can confront him without him getting pissed off. I would be furious if my girlfriend went behind my back to spy on me, which is essentially what you did.
But if you do confront him, which I would reccomend anyway, he should switch from angry to apologetic. If he did have any kind of intention behind it, he will probably get defensive and accusatory and try to turn it around to be your fault for spying on him.
If it was an innocent mistake, he'll apologize for it, explain himself, and while he may still be angry with you for spying on him, he'll be alot more forgiving.
2006-08-09 23:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that obviously you had reason to look through his files. If he weren't hiding anything from you which is considered a type of lie, then he wouldn't have to get angry. Move on girl! I think you have enough indication that he is playing you. Respect yourself, and best of luck! Sorry that you have to go through this. It feels terrible, but there's always something better around the corner.
2006-08-09 23:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, clearly you can see that he doesn't really care for you that much. Maybe it's time you two take a small break. Or talk things through. Admit you were looking through his stuff, but ask him why he said he's single...talk to him.
2006-08-09 23:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
U could casually ask him if he talks to other women online and see what he says first. Then if he is honest and says yes, ask him if he ever tells them he is single. If he lies about any of this then u really shouldnt be with him to begin with. If he asks u why, just tell him the truth(no point in lying about it now) Tell him it hurts u to know he tells people u are single. I think u will be able to tell alot about ur relationship by this conversation. Good luck!
2006-08-09 23:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by scorpio2644865 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just write a letter to an imaginary hottie stating that u r single and would love to get together with him and leave it [ by mistake of course ;) ]at a place where ur Bf is sure to see it when he comes and screams at you scream right back about knowing wat he is upto. He cant even get mad about you looking thru his stuff cos he did the same.
Hope u catch him and give him a piece of ur mind.
2006-08-09 23:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by agonychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋