we have been together for 2 years and weve done every thing together. she moved in like right when we started dating. so were really use to each other. and i think that is the problem. she likes to get high and hang out with friend, i like to ride bmx, computers, games and doing stuff outside. now she wants to be apart for some reason. i don't wanna loose her so i tring really hard to do stuff with her but i can never get ahold of her. she allways with her friends.
2006-08-09 23:25:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well are you giving her any space? Maybe you should try hanging out with her friends too...I mean if she agrees. Probably your gf is pretty tired of you if she is really like that. Try to socialise with her friends and also tell her your feelings nicely...
2006-08-09 23:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by yewny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably feels that your interests are different from hers...nothing wrong with that actually because many couples share the same experience as you. When your girlfriend wants to spend time on her own, it doesn't mean she has stopped loving you. She probably feels that the both of you have taken a pace too fast from the beginning of this relationship and it's time to slow down.
Sometimes it is good to spend quality time on your own...life can get really mundane when couples spend toooo much time together. You must let a woman, especially someone like your girlfriend, her personal space. So whenever the both of you meet, there are more stuff to talk about.
I also get this feeling that you don't fully trust her. Relationships can only be sustained by an element of mutual respect and trust. So what if she likes to get high and hang out with friends? Has she ever cheated on you? If not, she deserves trust from you. If she has cheated on you previously and yet you still can't bear to lose her, then it shows you really love her.
Let your true feelings be known to her, that you can't bear to lose her and your fears about her getting high and hanging out with friends. At the end of the day, clear communication is extremely important to maintain a relationship.
2006-08-09 23:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 19:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by plumb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, the best way of not losing the person is to let the person feel comfortable with what she enjoys.
Since she want to stay apart, let her have some space of privacy. Maybe she is seriously thinking about the relationship.
Being accomodating may not be the best choice. You might end up losing yourself, which she might feel that you are no longer the same person whom she loves.
Give her some time to sort her thoughts, then look for her again in a week times to talk.
2006-08-09 23:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Asia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. I can only answer for myself and not for your girl, but when I start doing this in a relationship, it's usually because I'm not quite as interested as i once was, or because my man has become more of a friend rather than my main attraction. It doesn't necessarily mean i want a new guy or that I want to split from my man....just not so wrapped up in him.
2006-08-09 23:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by medium_of_dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same posistion and actually I am into the same things. She said pretty much the same things to me and I strait out told her either she wants to be apart or she wants to be with me. If she is not answering calls and such. Dump her because mroe than likley she isnt just with her friends.
2006-08-10 03:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by trl_666 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her go sweetie. The best thing you can do is give her space like she has requested and hopefully she will start to miss you and come back. If you continue to call and search her out she will feel trapped and when one feels trapped they can't help but want to escape. Get it?
2006-08-09 23:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by Twinkerbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 2 seems like a "match made in heaven".......Eeee Gads....getting high and into electronics.....brother! Back off......let her get high and you go ride the BMX. Stop being so clingly!
2006-08-09 23:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doesn't want a serious relationship. Maybe she doesn't want to be tied down. Maybe she just wants to be friends with you. Maybe she's not the one you're supposed to be with.
You both sound really young. How old are both of you?
e-mail if you want to =)
2006-08-09 23:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on your growing apart
2006-08-09 23:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋