I met a guy on holiday which lasted 3 weeks. I came back 2 days ago And cant stop thinking about him. I, myself am 16 he is 24. Its hard because in the western world, age means everything, but elsewhere its simply a figure. We had an amazing time while I was there. He's just my type and I think he feels the same about me. At the end of the season he's going into the army for 15 months because he missed his opening a while ago. He has invited me back there before he leaves to say goodbye. I know what he meant by what he's asked me, but I just dont know if it is SENSIBLE to feel like this about him. Do you think it could work?
2006-08-09 23:23:49 · 16 answers · asked by rosie_obrien123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, its stupid.. now wake up and concentrate on something else!!!
2006-08-09 23:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow Rosie, you're quite intelligent for 16, most girls would go running to him (including me) in your situation. I think you should go meet him to say goodbye to him and then leave it, ye had fun on holidays as most summer flings go but what if at home the two of you are totally different around each other, everyone changes slightly when they go on holiday. My suggestion is to keep him as a nice summer memory and not get into something to deep, it'll be difficult if he lives far away and is going out every weekend and you start getting paranoid about what he's up to, just small things like that can make you hate him, so I'd say just stay friends, and this has nothing to do with the age, I went out with a 25 yr old when I was 17 for a yr and a half and it didn't end well! Good luck x
2006-08-09 23:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. it wll not work or sensible. This is just a holiday fling.
Your defences go down on holiday as you relax away from the pressures of school/home/work etc. He is just after one thing after all.
If he is really interested in you then both of you will be able to wait the 15 months to see how you feel afterwards. If he won't wait then it would have never lasted anyway.
2006-08-09 23:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by T C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holiday romances are often just that, talk to the people that went with you. what do they think?
It is really hard to sustain a relationship with someone in the military, even more so if they are in a foreign country.
I hope that you get what you want. In the meantime, enjoy the rest of the summer!
2006-08-09 23:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by sarah_roo03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 19 f lost my haert 2 a male 28 i still love him we broke up cause he left me 4 my best friend 5 min ago he told me he still loves me the thing is hes leaving 4 afgaistan soon i know what u feel but let me ask u this everytime u hear his voice do u get shivers down ur spine does ur haert beat faster and when u think of him leaving does ur haert break in a million pieces hunny thats love
2006-08-09 23:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by sweetlily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your very young this man will be married to the military you won't be able to handle not spending time with him. Y dont you keep him as a friend as he will need friends to write him letters keep him informed of whats going on if he has to go away to fight. You dont want to goi there accidently get pregnant your still a kid and if he was away you wouldnt have his support. You can have fun and build a beautiful friendship.
2006-08-09 23:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he's the one for you. I'm sure you feel very passionate about him and you may well be in love but that doesn't mean it's right even though it might feel right.
there are too many problems here. Your feelings will pass and you will love someone else. Give it six months, you'll see.
2006-08-09 23:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Im 21 now and Ive been through all these holiday romances you will probelry go away next year and find someone else you 'love' its all part of going up, you will soon forget about him and find someone else...dont worry xx
2006-08-09 23:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats love my, that is how it starts. You meet someone first, then you feel something for that person then life goes on and the missing part also comes in and there is nothing stupid about that.
2006-08-09 23:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry babs youd better let him go i know its hard but simple truth is youve answered it yourself it wont work too many outside influences stopping it from working and end of day if you went back its only for one thing only he wants and you deserve better than that x
2006-08-09 23:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by ward1703 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, after a few weeks and time apart, it will fade...and throw in all the other distant complications, your age and what not...no
2006-08-09 23:30:17 · answer #11 · answered by littlestarr02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋