Here's my problem: I struggle with verbal abuse. And I emailed my ex-girlfriend. Allow me to explain:
I had a relationship with a girl that just ended. It was awesome in the beginning for about three months. I mean -- incredible. But at the time -- I didn't have that much invested.
But then -- time after time we had the most wonderful nights and days and weekends. We fell deeply and quickly in love. It was amazing.
But then -- something went wrong. I don't know what. I started caring -- perhaps worrying would be a better word -- about her fidelity. She was trustworthy and loved me completely, but I couldn't imagine that someone as wild and crazy and fun as she was with me could possibly not cheat.
Anyway -- I started to accuse her of setting herself up to cheat. She thought I was verbally abusive. Then, one night, drunk, I emailed my an ex. And this girl -- my new ex -- found the email.
We've broken up. She can't stand the jealousy/verbal abuse. What can I do?
2006-08-09 22:47:25 · 5 answers · asked by Pauls T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anger management. Therapy. And accept that she might never have anything to do with you ever again.
2006-08-09 22:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be ashamed of yourself for accusing someone for something that you are not sure about. Why not tell her you're sorry and that you still love her? Promise to change and keep that promise. Trust is the foundation of relationship. Without this, it will be better if you guys just go separate ways, for you might end up hurting each other even more.
2006-08-10 05:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by shelly_cute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say my friend that you may have PERMANENTLY ****** this up....
So for the moment try to see why it happened, isolating the reasons that led you to change your attitude towards your girl.
If it is indeed, as you say, your fear that someone so nice could not possibly not stay with you then....you should talk to someone, a professional (counseling or psychotherapy). I find it is the only way that will, more or less, guarantee you not repeating the same behavior over and over again.
Good luck!
2006-08-10 05:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Murg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would first say that if you want to get her back you need to put you worries aside and stop being so jealous. Maybe you have been hurt in the past and now that is having some part in the way you are seeing her intentions but in order to not have trust between someone they need to betray your trust in some way and if she hasn't then you must put all things aside and see where things go. Don't think about getting hurt think about recapuring love.
2006-08-10 05:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by christina J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she is too good for you - give it up - move on to ugly boring chicks. This way your jealousy will stay in check and you should have no need for the abuse.
2006-08-10 05:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by drewwers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋