Our maid/nanny is always late and really doesn't seem to care about being on time. She was supposed to be here today at 11:00. 12:30 rolled around and she still wasn't here, so I called her. She told me that she was getting her hair done! This isn't the first incident and there are no more chances. She also stole some items. What's the best way to tell her that her services are no longer needed and that we don't want any further contact?
For all of you who just love to write obnoxious answers, skip it. I'll report you!
2006-08-09 22:31:35 · 9 answers · asked by Answers to Nurse 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You all have such great answers! I appreciate your time and efforts. I will take some from each of your responses and make it the perfect 'canning' :)
It's going to be impossible to pick a best answer....
2006-08-10 14:19:33 · update #1
the best way to let someone go is with a final check in hand and write final payment on check, tell her you no longer need her services, thank her and get the key or property that she is possession of before giving her the check.if she asks why please do not explain the reason, she can sue you if you give her a reason ..........if you are nervous about telling her it will be a good idea to have a family member or friend with you for support and if any children are around, best for them to be in other room so they dont hear any problems that may arrive. good luck if she asks you for a letter of reference, tell her to have employers to contact her. [dont write out a letter and give to her ] when and if someone contacts you for a reference, i would not tell them anything negative. what you can tell them is she worked from [date of hire to date of her leaving..] and the salary you paid her.
you can also state that she is not rehireable.] that will tell them what they need to know and saves you headaches and possible lawsuit.[some maids can be tricky and ask friends to call so be careful. the caller might want to know if the maid was good with the kids and knowlegeable of the job she was doing and a honest answer is ok hope this helps
2006-08-09 22:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't write her a letter tell her in person. I've had to fire many ppl and its rarely an easy thing to do. i always start off with your "punctuality" has been an issue for some time now and this is not the first time we have spoken about this issue. I have informed you of what the consequences would be if this continued and as a result your services are no longer needed. DONT ask if they have any questions, you have already answered all pertinent questions with the above statement. Tell her to go ahead and gather her things and she can leave. If she becomes irrational or simply to loud inform her that the police will be called (you usually don't have to call them the threat will make most ppl leave).
Hopefully you will have better luck with your next nanny
2006-08-10 09:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kristina T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a former maid/nanny, I know the importance of punctuality, honesty, and dependability. Trust is a key factor in the role as well. If you cannot trust or depend on someone who is in charge of keeping your house and watching your children, then there is really no need in having her around.
When you must dismiss a maid or nanny, you must inform them straight away that you are not happy with their service.
"I'm sorry,(name), but lately I have lost all confidence in you and doubt your ability to watch my home and children. Sad to say I am very disappointed in your service."
Make it very clear that you had trusted her with the treasures in your life, your children and your home. Maybe this will help her realize that she cannot coast through life and do what she pleases when she has a responsibility and may help her down the road.
I reccomend using this phrase for those who wish to be less harsh in dismissing help.
"While I am disappointed in your lack of consideration of your duties, I can't help but feel that this job is not right for you. I think it best that you find something...more suitable for your tastes and lifestyle." Be sure to use a tone that indicates that you don't need her and whatever lifestyle she has in your home.
If those two suggestions aren't for you, then you could always call her and say. "I don't need you here today, or tomorrow, or any other day in fact. You're dismissed." then hang up. Hope that she gets the message and then you can search for a new maid/nanny.
2006-08-10 07:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by juannabanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You have no other alternative but to fire her, without recommendation. Call her the night before, so that she does not come to your home the next day. Worse scenario, it could get ugly.
2. (Acting Role) Be polite, regretful, but you have to let her go, because your mother (anyone) is coming to live there & wants to help out with domestic work in exchange for room & board. Thanks & goodbye.
3. If she was sent to you by an agency, notify them of the problems you have had to endure with this individual. Find another agency. Better Business Bureau can be contacted if you have an agency in mind. Run it by them.
4. Confronting her with her misdeeds will be fruitless. She already steals, and so will deny it & make excuses for her tardiness. She's clearly irresponsible & a thief.
5. You do not want her bringing in any of her contacts in your absence, for they may rob the whole place. If you've given her a key, you may have to change the locks, as well as secure other parts of your home from easy entry. Remember, she knows the layout of the house.
Good luck. Warm regards.
2006-08-10 16:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your circumstance. She's not a professional, clearly. I'd keep your letter concise, descriptive, and short. I've enclosed some samples that may need some alteration due to your situation. This is not always an easy thing to do without making it personal. Remember that this is about an employee who is not acting as a professional. Best of luck.
2006-08-10 05:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by magnamamma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if there is a miscommunication between the 2 of you. Then tell her your disappointed about the situation.
You opened your home to her- albeit as help- but you also entrusted your kids with her. She should have respected you & your family enough to keep you in the loop about her schedule and time conflicts.
2006-08-10 05:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by autie_808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you really don't like the way she's working and you don't need her services anymore. If you've got proof that she stole your stuff, report her! Just keep the dismissal speech short and straight to the point. and remember...you don't have to justify yourself. She's the one who's getting fired not you!
Have fun!
2006-08-10 07:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by Stiggs! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write the letter in ENGLISH, then tell her it's a reference for her next job interview.
P.S. report this :)
2006-08-10 21:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by ilikkaladapous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear (name)
We have to let you go as you are unreliable, a poor staff member and frequently late. You have not shown that you are capable of doing the job to my standard and you also have shown yourself to be disinterested and in the position. Please collect your possessions and go.
Yours.............
2006-08-10 06:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by bullatpool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋