My bf & I were set up on a blind date 11mos ago. Neither one of us were looking for a relationship, but we had great chemistry from the start...attraction, conversation, the works. We kept it casual for awhile, giving ea/o space & I decided to let him make the next move. He continued to come around pretty consistently. Always sweet...even flowers but ALWAYS cool. He would never spill his guts about how he felt or what he thought about me/us. 5mos into things, I couldnt take it anymore and told him how crazy I was about him, how attractive he was to me & how much I like spending time w/him. He smiled and said, "me too". We always have fun when were together but I always feel like a close second to a round of golf. Ive mentioned to him that it feels like he is not that into me...& he gets very offensive & insists that he is "with me" He has since mustered up an I love you... but still, 9 times out of 10, I will get an elbow in the ribs before a kiss of hte cheek. Am I being too needy?
2006-08-09 22:11:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop pushing him. Either he is not that into you or he is not demonstrative. Talk to him. Ask him if he wants you to see other people. You need to find out where you stand. Maybe he just wants you as a casual thing and is not that into you.
You need to understand how he feels so you can make some decisions. Talk to him. Don't ask questions like "Do you love me?" Let him know that you need to know where you stand and where your relationship is going. Maybe he doesn't want to be committed right now. Talk to him and find out.
2006-08-09 22:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not feel as though this man is making you a priority in his life, then you are not being that needy and he may not be as into you as you would like him to be. However, if he is still young, it could just be a fear of commitment. He might also not have a lot of experience being in a serious relationship. Only you know the answer to those ones. If you are happy with the way things are, then let it go. If not, then you may want to think about moving on.
2006-08-10 05:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Erin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're rushing things some guys need space they don't want to feel cornered why not try taking things a day at a time. It's been 11 mnths l'm sure he likes you just allow him space to gradually take things to the next level. If you rush him you risk pushing him away.
2006-08-10 05:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by blacksugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
typical guy thing. give him his little bit of space. more on dating love and relationships on this site
2006-08-10 05:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say it with me please........he is not that into you.
2006-08-10 05:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by KP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋