Two years ago my dad was found to be dying of cancer. he was living in france with his new wife.myself and all my family flew over to be with him.when the hospital told us that the cancer was to agrresive. we took him back home to die.my dad was a big man not only in size but in personality and a character you would never forget once you had met him.to see him reduced to the size of a stick thin skelleton was heartbreaking.the nurse would come each day and give him morphine to help his pain.she told us that this could go on for weeks.to see him slowly lose his dignity each day was unbearable.after a long chat with my grandfather i got everyone to say goodbye to my dad and then had five minutes alone with him telling him how i loved him etc.then i gave him a lethal dose of morphine and he slowly slipped away.My dad would have done the same for me.I just cant stop thinking about this.
2006-08-09 22:09:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, I understand.
2006-08-09 22:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though you hate to see your father suffer and thought that it would be the right thing to end his misery. Well there is no right and wrong about it as you did what you felt best at the moment. The reason why you cant stop thinking about it is because you are feeling guilty about what you did. Don't as it was the right thing. Rather let the person go than to see that person suffer for a long time. The only way you can get through this is too analyse why did it and you should be fine after that. Best of luck amigo and keep in contact as I would like to know how you are doing.
2006-08-10 05:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats completly understandalbe that you cant stop thinking about it in a normal case of loseing some one it takes a vary long time to stop thinking about that person but with the desion you had to make it is going to be extreamly hard for you you know my grandfather had a blood clot in his brain the doctor told my family that they could do surgery but that the odds where only 50/50 that he would make it out alive and if he did he would be brain dead not able to talk or move any part of his body that he would have to gethis nutirents from a iv i helped the family decide not doto the surgery he dies four hours later i know it can be hard but it will get easier it's been four years for me and every once in a while i still need to just sit down and cry for him you'l get through it you did the right thing it was only for his best
2006-08-10 05:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ralina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it as a lesson from life. Dust to dust, ashes to ashes.
Te important thing is not what the others can think or say, but who you really feel about what happened. You're the only one who knows the situation from inside, and that makes you the only one to judge if it was the right thing to do. I personally agree with your decision, but I repeat: it doesn't matter what I think. You have to make peace with yourself.
It was not an easy thing to go through, but hang on.
Good luck.
2006-08-10 05:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't stop thinking about it. You should take a moment every day to think about it and congratulate yourself for having done a brave and loving thing. You should stop every day and say: "I'm a hero. I went out on a limb and risked everything to do the right thing.''
There's nothing to understand. Stop beating yourself up. You did right. I hope to God, if I'm ever in that situation, I have somebody around who loves me enough to be as strong as you were.
2006-08-10 05:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by scotsman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew the answer to that...then I wouldn't be in the EXACT SAME BOAT. On June 23 of this year, I was left with the same decision you were, and I did the same thing you did. I knew my reasons at the time were flawless...or at least they seemed so at the time. And now, of course, the doubts have crept in and I'm in hell! No one around me understood why I did what I did.
All I can tell you is this...be strong...God loves you...
2006-08-10 05:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by Jaded 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what you did and i probably would have done the same thing but what you did was lawfully wrong in the laws eyes it could be looked at as murder but as long as you and your family are the only ones who know i wouldnt worry about it. as far as the depression you are certainly entitled to that and the guilt too as time goes by though youll get better and youll feel better about what you did and if the feelings get overwhelming go to a mental facility and seek help so you dont do something to yourself to overcome the guilt you feel
2006-08-10 05:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss, but you shouldn't feel guilty for loving your dad enough to ease his suffering. My grandma died of cancer and I know how bad it can get at the end, I would have done anything not to see her suffer the way she did. Just remember your dad is at peace now, free of pain. Grieve your loss, but don't blame yourself in any way. I wish you the best of luck and God bless.
2006-08-10 14:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard. I lost my dad to cancer too. It will get better with time. Your dad would not have wanted to suffer that way. He was with his loving family and now he is out of pain. He is OK now. Work on making yourself OK. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-08-10 10:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you been in a terrible situation. Hopefully you will get over it because your dad will want you to be happy again.
2006-08-10 05:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋