I hear this from everybody, even myself. It's been going on for over 2 years now. how long do i have to wait. Will it never happen?
2006-08-09 22:04:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
check how you put your question: how long do i have to WAIT...
if you wait it wont happen.
when i finally started to only think about myself and desided what i want to do in my life and took responabilities to get there he did apear....
2006-08-09 22:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by 42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, the theory is that women have a radar or sonar or alien programming that requires them to hit on men who already have a GF or wife. Either that or guys who are with a woman have more confidence and women are attracted to confidence.
As for why you can't get a girlfriend, first how many people have you asked out in the past 2 years? Plan on a failure rate of 90%, so if you ask 10 girls out, expect that you will find one who will go out with you (the others will be not interested, seeing someone, gay, or insane).
You also might want to ask a girl you trust what might make you more attractive to the opposite sex. Some new clothes or a hairstyle or cologne, or maybe just working out a little bit..., or all of the above. Most important is to ask people out. If you're gonna win you gotta step up and play, nobody ever won a game by watching from the stands.
2006-08-10 05:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by 006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha well this question is contradictory. You obviously aren't done looking for a girl, or you wouldn't be waiting for it to happen.
The trick is, girls can smell desperation, and it's a huge turn off for them. If you are just comfortable with your position in life, and stop worrying about whether you are going to hook up or not, girls will be more comfortable around you, and if you play it cool and don't jump all over the first girl to show the slightest bit of interest, that attraction will hopefully grow.
Perfect example from my experience:
I'll have just broken up with a girl, and am looking to get into another relationship (after an appropriate recovery period). It takes months sometimes!!! The reason? Because I'm looking for someone to replace what I had, which is a form of desperation. Girls don't react to me on anything above a "he's a nice guy" level. I can make as many female friends as I want, but it's difficult to find another relationship. Then, finally, I do get into a relationship, and as a result, no longer give a **** about the other girls around me. I'll talk to them, but I'm not looking for anything, because I'm happy with what I have. All of a sudden, I'm irresistable, and it's the girls who are all of a sudden interested in me, leaving me in the awkward position of having to turn them down.
Make sense?
In Summary: Desperation = Rejection. If you want to get a girl, work on being comfortable with yourself and your situation first.
Cheers.
2006-08-10 05:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too sure. It's best if you make friends with them, etc. Getting to know a person is better than waiting for 2 years - like you said. Have confidence in yourself and approach people. If they have a boyfriend or whatever, don't feel bummed out about it. Being friends with them ain't bad. So give it a try!
2006-08-10 05:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by *a∙e∙r∙i∙t∙h* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they wont suddenly appear, its not even logical
but of coz they will appear sumday, i cant tell when tht day is, im not god, but u need to be active in meetin girls too, talk to them when u think shes ok, no one is perfect anyway, maybe shes juz right beside u, who knows
2006-08-10 05:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by mion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's part of patience, when you looking to hard for something you will never find it leave it alone and don't dwell on it and you will the perfect girl! (or she may find you)
2006-08-16 15:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!! Just go along in your daily routine.. be yourself.. enjoy life and you will come across the right girl for you.. when you least expect it.. you will meet her.. when the time is right.. and when you are ready.. take care
2006-08-17 17:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by Kiara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't wait, don't look, live your life, occupy your life and when you least expect it, you will find her.
this is sooooo true!
2006-08-10 05:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time it will happen
2006-08-17 03:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y e s dear
2006-08-10 05:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋