First of all, I've always believed that friends should never date each others ex, but I'm having second thoughts about that now. I have a gurlfriend who's boyfriend is one of my good guy friends. They are dating right now, but they are having problems. Somehow, I could tell that he probably have feelings for me too. I'm unsure if it would be okay for me to date him if my friends break up. I would love to date him, but I don't know if this would be right. I wouldn't wanna miss this chance with him.
2006-08-09 21:55:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My gurlfriend and I arent that close. We just talk sometimes.
If I was to date my guyfriend, it would be because he asked me out. Anyways, I wouldn't rush things if they were to break up.
2006-08-09 22:09:59 · update #1
i would talk to your girlfriend frist if they break up and ask her how she would feel before you do because you dont want her mad at you and you dont want her to feel awckward about hanging out with you either. if she says she would not be mad and that it would not affect your friendship then go ahead but dont rush things with him and listen to your friend about reasons they broke up and be careful so that the same thing doesnt happen to you
2006-08-09 23:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said IF they break up...
Do your girlfriend a favor and show her you actually care about her by staying out of it. You should consider her feelings right now instead of just what you want.
Because even if you did date, there's no promise it would or wouldn't work. Then you would be out of both friends and there would be too many broken hearts.
There's this thing called the 'rebound effect'... your not even waiting for that to happen!! People need time to deal with the loss of a relationship before moving on to another one if they want to have a healthy dating life.
So the answer is NO - keep your hormones in check and just be a friend to both of them. Nothing more.
2006-08-10 05:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lady_Knight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are entering that danger area.
IF they break up, a couple of things need to be considered.
A.) If you throw yourself at him right after they break up, your friend is going to be pissed at you, because there was obviously an attraction before they broke up, and she may think that you were just waiting for the relationship to fail (which may not be innaccurate). You have to give that grace period.
B.) After the grace period has passed, talk to your friend about it, and see how she would feel about you dating him. She may be threatened by it, or she may have some insight about him you're not aware of that might be helpful for you to know ahead of time. In a rare scenario, she might even give you her blessing and be happy for you, but this would be an ideal situation.
Hope this helps some.
Cheers.
2006-08-10 05:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advice is something that people ask for when they know the answer but just aren't ready to deal with reality.
In your opening sentence, you stated that you have always believed that FRIENDS SHOULD NEVER DATE EACH OTHER'S EX. Nothing has changed. After your friend done shared saliva with this guy and smeared her discharge all over his penis why would you wanna go and replicate that?
Deep in your heart, you know that sitting around being the comforting ear while awaiting for your turn with him is DEAD WRONG-TRIFLING.
Continue to be a friend to both and remember the boundary is pre-set. I don't care how much you like him.
2006-08-10 05:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by nubianbx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u want to lose a girlfriend over some dude,what r u,say it was u,his not the only man or r u praying hard that there break up,get a life galfrend,everything about it sucks
2006-08-10 05:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear if you tell him about your feelings right now it might give him the nudge to break up with your friend and you will lose her and later when you break up with him you will end up with no boyfreind or gul friend. best hing is to leave it as friend ship you were right in believing friends should never date each others ex.
2006-08-10 05:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by KP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think it's OK, although my best friend married my ex wife despite my warnings, and I was glad for them both. If you insist, and aren't afraid to lose the friend, tell her your intentions (after the break up) and see if her feelings sway you.
2006-08-10 05:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your friend . NO
Its not right. Men come and go, friends are forever and if she is your BF , no.
Also, do don't even know if I'd work out with u and him?
2006-08-10 05:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by satckaren72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must think about your friend. They are not even broke up yet.
2006-08-10 05:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you can
2006-08-10 04:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋