On June 8th I finally was able to completely sever an incredibly unhealthy relationship with someone who used her status and power in the media to make my life a living hell. She was verbally abusive, as well as physically and then some and when I tried to leave, she would tell her friends these horrendous terrible lies about me. They of course, not knowing me from Adams corn hole, believed her. So I figured that by staying, the friends that did come around would see how she treated me and see who I REALLY was and the liar SHE REALLY IS, but she always put on her media face and pretended to care. Well, I finally cut ALL ties despite her constant attempts to attack me via mutual friends ect. But NOW, she is finding other means of hurting me and because I am a Christian and she claims to be, scripture says there should be no legal issues between us. I continue to forgive her but this is bringing me down and aside from prayer don't know what to do. Any suggestions? jmoon55784@iwon.com
2006-08-09 21:23:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Do you know who you are? Do you know who you are in Christ? Evil formed against you shall not prosper! Don't worry about what other people think, worry about what God thinks. Remind your friends that "gossip" isn't Christian and them telling you what she has said is not healthy for you. When they start to tell you something, stop them immediately and tell them that you don't want to hear it. Hearing her slander against you only brings grief. So, she is still getting to you! Remove yourself further away from the situation and if that means losing a couple friends, then so be it. True friends will honor your request and stick with you and hopefully cut ties with her also.
If you feel threatened physically...you need to take legal action to protect yourself. That is what God wants!
Honey, be at peace with yourself. You know your a good person. Remove yourself further from her and live a good life. Don't allow others to offend you! Don't allow others to take your joy. Turn your grief into faith and trust that God will take care of her. And...pray for her too. Scripture also says that too.
Give it to God! He'll be up all night anyway.
Be Blessed
2006-08-09 21:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Bug's Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry about your situation but what you really need to do is suck it up and just leave. If your friends don't understand what she's doing then they obviously don't know you or her well enough to tell the difference between a good and a bad person. Good people would not hurt someone and then act like a completely different person around other people. That's two faced evil at it's best. Your best bet is just to suck it up, get out, and try your best to get through everything that has happened.
2006-08-09 21:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lillith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Lord told us that as he suffered scorn, so would we. All you can do is constantly remind yourself, you are not alone, you don't have to prove your character as her lies will eventually tear hers down and she will have done it all on her own. If there is physical harm, you must take legal recourse, and then it is up to her to make amends before it goes to court, if you read the scripture accurately. The other course of action is as you have already done, allowed witnesses to to intercede with no avail, now take it to the church and if there is no amends on her part, then she is to be removed from the church. However, if you are neither one attending, then this option would be eliminated. Also, you say you continue to forgive her - but you must also ask the Lord to reveal any secret sins within your own heart regarding her, that you might forgive yourself and seek his forgiveness, and then her forgiveness - this may be the catalyst that throws her off her high horse and puts the liar at center stage for all to see, even though you should not deliberately set it up as such. Lord, this is not the easiest of situations we often find ourselves knowing how to deal with, but it is with your wisdom that we know an answer can be gained. Reach into this ones heart and mind and plant an answer that will glorify you and bring healing to one who has chosen a path of lies that she too may be renewed in her spirit with you Lord. Sometimes our hearts do not know how to or what to ask for and this is one of those times, so we ask the Holy Spirit to intercede on our behalf. In your precious name Lord, we pray. Amen.
2006-08-09 21:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by dph_40 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a chrsistian God sometimes cuts people out of your life for your good ! And sometimes people just dont understand that they have issues!( htat are hindering your peace) But what I would do is just stop picking up the phone and gaurd your own peace! They will eventually go away. God does this from time to time so we can get alone with him! And people are satans number one distractions in our life! Pulling this way and that way!
2006-08-09 21:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by bungyow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a "friend" like this myself. She was so ruthless that she'd send out emails and message to anyone who she knew, including to people she didn't know but who she knew knew me (does that makes sense?). Anyway, she TRIED to tarnish my reputation. Unfortunately, many did believe her (there are ALWASY two sides to every story, some just forget that) and so I lost a couple friends that I don't have regular contact with. But those that know me all dumped her as a "friend" because they knew how she was lying. Pretty soon her poison didn't just stop at me but started to bleed out to almost everyone she knew. I was hearing stuff about her everywhere. EVeryone started to hate her.
You know what? I never said bad things about her to anybody, just that she has some "problems" and "misconstrued ideas" and that I "feel sorry" for her. People figured out all the rest on their very own.
I just cut ALL ties to her. ANybody who wanted to remain a friend with her I became neutral towards. I didn't go out of my way to be friends with them nor did I dump them as friends. I acted like none of it was a big deal at all. They ALL respected me for this and now all of us are even closer friends than before.
I blocked her MSN, her email, her everything from me and I called and talked to family and friends who she'd sent these lying and horrible messages to and apologized for what she was saying and told them to not believe her, but that she's just gong through a hard time right now and is trying to find a way to vent it out. (through me, apparently).
It's been about two years since this happened. I'm not letting it affect me at all. I turned my emotions off towards this woman, and it DID work and she doesn't affect me at all anymore because I don't let it happen, and you know what's come of this? I learned that there are immature and petty and silly people out there that TRY to make other people look bad and feel worse, and also, that if you're the bigger person and ignore the silliness, they might come around to regret or feel bad for what they did. Don't take them back as a friend, but be prepared for future grovelling!!
Good luck, sweetie! So sorry this had to happen!!
2006-08-09 21:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thing is, humility is the key.... remember, blessed are the meek and mild, for they will inherit the earth... ponder on the eight beatitudes. this is the essence of traits, the values of humility. this separates us christians, catholics.... we give these messages our heart and follow it's messages....
dear, the essence of being humane brings joys to those who knows us by character. often we are humililiated but we never use these excuse to bring us more down. rather, it serves as an inspiration to stand up again. the fault of a person is due of his character and not of faith. never worry about how vile a person is, focus on other things which are more important to you and to the world.... forget the incident, you can never take it back. but focus on tomorrow. remember, there are many more with problems deeper and more serious than you, yet they continue on living by accepting whatever fate gives them. worry not of what others may say, but live the life that Christ expects you to live. live not on temptations but live on righteousness....
2006-08-09 21:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by VeRDuGo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The scripture to which you refer relates to unwarranted and harassing legal attacks; this woman defames your character, and she has been both physically and verbally abusive. You have grounds for suit and most likely a restraining order; I advise you seek both.
2006-08-09 22:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Babs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 06:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't care what scripture says, I would care what the law says. Get a restraining order. This way she cannot contact you even through her friends or yours. Put her abusive a$$ in jail.
2006-08-09 21:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by loreerocks 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if shes becomeing that bad, get a restraining order against her. If someone is that set out to make your life hell, then make it so she cant legally get near you.
2006-08-09 21:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by Kyle M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋