I've been seeing him for 5 months. I couldn't have sex with him cause I'm just not ready. We finally did it yesterday but I didn't reach the orgasm because he stopped midway and took a break. I thought he was tired from driving and walking in the mall. But when I asked him today while he stopped, he said "Ahh I just like to hug a lot. I'm weird." If he don't like having sex, why did he do it with me, especially to take my virginity away? I just felt pain and felt good only like a minute. I love him so much and I think he loves me too. He's nice and polite and gentle and good at being a boyfriend. But the way he said that, it really hurts my feelings. It was like I just gave away something I can never get back for a person who just wanna hug me. I'm so torn up and felt I made a mistake. I have no one to tell so I hope people here will help me feel better. No insults, please.
2006-08-09 20:47:44 · 14 answers · asked by heather 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is just afraid of having kids at an early age, or, he might have had a strong religious background. Either way, just accept it, so you would have something to look forward to - your wedding day. His stopping midway doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't love you - in fact, he just might be concerned with you (like, if u have kids, you will stop schooling, etc.), or that he respects you so much that he would like to have anorgasm on the day of your wedding.
2006-08-09 20:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok...you have to promise not to get weird with him when I decode what he said...lol...
There are a few reasons why he coulda stoped...either because he was coming close to orgasm and didn't want to go inside you, or he did orgasm and lots of guys have difficulties keeping it up beyond that, and three he lost his hard on.
There are reasons behind that...he prolly doesn't have a whole lot of experience...and us guys if we think about things to much we'll kind jimx ourselves...
so don't hold this against him or make a big deal about it...pretend like its all good...and it should get better the next time...just don't get weird on him about this...but I am almost 100% positive that is whats up...
2006-08-10 03:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by lanceh13 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
im sorry honey but this asshole just used you and yes you are right you can never get that back and i dont blame you for being upset if i were you i would just dump him and get it over with because hes holding back for some reason and its not something youve done either its him but talk to him first and tell him the way you feel and if hes sincere about it then try to work things out but if not ditch him
2006-08-10 06:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mija, I'm sorry but I think you got taken for. If you weren't ready, you really shouldn't have done it. I know you care about him, and that alters judgement. But, sounds to me like this guy doesn't care that much. Or if he did, he wouldn't be the way he's being now. Of course, I'm only hearing half the story. Be careful mija!
2006-08-10 03:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by Monique Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a loser ... no man in his right mind would have sex with someone, especially a virgin, and "take a break"!!
The first time should be rather more special than that ... I know it's too late now, but I would suggest finding another guy who is more considerate and when you feel right, make love with him - don't just "have sex" - and let him show you just how good it can be! (If you need it, my IM is on my 360 page ... my mobile number is ************** lol)
2006-08-10 03:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him that he hurt u by saying that. i never heard of a guy stopping in the middle because he wanted 2 hug. he may have let go of his load 2 quick and was embrassed
2006-08-10 03:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by hellosexymoto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That sucks. Maybe he really is wierd. If you really do love him, don't worry about losing your virginity to him unless you're like 14. Because if you are that was stupid. So lets hope you're a little older than that.
2006-08-10 03:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all let me say i am feeling for you right now. what he has done is wrong in everyway. I think the best thing for you to do is tell him how he made you feel & how he upset by doing what he had done.
2006-08-10 03:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by scarlet pimpernell 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2006-08-10 03:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
"I just gave away something I can never get back " That's not HIS fault. YOU made the choice, now you have to deal with it and blaming him isn't dealing with it..
2006-08-10 03:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋