We moved here from England and she just cannot fit into school because she is very clever. I have tried a state school and now a private school but she is still verbally abused & insulted. She comes home from school gets her night clothes on and goes to bed and cries. She has changed so much and is becoming deeply depressed. I work full time and try and do things with her on my days off but she needs just one friend her own age. What can I do to help her to make friends?
2006-08-09 20:38:03 · 12 answers · asked by shirrose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Church.
Find out exactly what people are saying to her.
Change her school.
Find a websit for brits in OZ
Make sure shes fashinable( a sikly thing.. but if it helps)
Approach the school to see if thery know whats being said
Find a oz chat room, and get her chatting.
Maybe join a life savers for kids beach club.
Put an ad in the paper, for other mothers of english ppl in oz to contact you.
Maybe find an english bar, where u can make friends, then she can b friends with their kids.
Make sure her hair is trendy...
Find out if shes being bullied becauses shes english, or if shes eg fat.....
Ii got teased for having lived in germany...my mother made things worse.
Oz is prettey good racially, maybe the school can have a racism awareness week. Specially if you bring up that shes being harrassed, and read out newspaper type headlines youve made up.
2006-08-09 23:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by yeah well 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that your daughter has to go through this. No child should ever get verbally abused and insulted. Here is some advice. A parent shouldn't help her daughter make friends. She has to do it on her own. Most parents don't realize it, but when they think they are helping their child make a friend, they are actually forcing the two kids to start a relationship (which won't work out). The best thing you can do is to get your daughter a pet. Dog or cat (depending which one she like) is the best thing for your daughter. They are loyal, friendly, and its a pet that can always be there for your daughter whenever she is down or depress. I hope this helps and that your daughter situation gets better.
2006-08-09 20:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has a right to put her in this situation.
My son is the same way and so I enrolled him in Christa McCulliff - cmacademy.org and he's doing much better. His friends are on line and he has clubs and etc. He is responsive and has more time to do his work and the kids that are in this school are in the same boat as your daughter. Most have had a bullying issue. The school is wonderful and the mentors are the best. It is accreditated. Check it out, you will be surprised. She will learn more about herself and will be able to learn that she can teach herself with a mentors help and the learning center than any teacher or a bunch of deliquents can....check into it...they are the best!
My son has always been a loner, he does his own thing, she will need to learn to be her own best friend and this school will give her those tools, we all have to be alone at some time in our life and we need to learn to be our own best friends. Once she gains the confidence, the friends will come and they will be wonderful and she will learn to accept herself for her own downfalls.
For outside work I put him in the theater, that was the best experience. I put him in a recreation center and had him help out in the summer with the kiddos, he learned that he was able to handle anything with a little dicipline. He's made acquaintances, but keep her busy with work of some form and with projects that will help.
Remember Bullying is not a way of life, just a result of it at times.
She will be fine, just let her experience things, but you have to get her involved and keep her busy.
Good luck....I remember my days with my son, I don't regret the day I changed him and I'm thrilled I did. He will graduate this year and it is 1 year before his class...he is a 4.0 student and has learned so much and is proud of his achievement as he has done it himself.
2006-08-09 20:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by teddybearloverus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad that your 14-year-old daughter cannot make friends. It is also sad that because she is bright she is ostracised for that. Not her fault but hard to deal with. Do you have any youth clubs or church groups in your area? Maybe this is a place to start. Does she play sport of any kind or musical instrument? I wish you luck in finding a friend. Keep on trying, don't give up and don't let the bullies get you down. They are only expressing their own inadequacies and are jealous of your ability to learn.
2006-08-09 20:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by dolphus42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she in Brisbane? If so, I'd suggest joining clubs, hockey, art, dancing, anything of interest. 14 year old females tend to be pretty judgemental and hard to get along with at the best of times, so most girls I went to school with at that age struggled to fit in if they didn't already have a close knit group, so the quickest and easiest way would be for her to join some sort of club, something she's good at and enjoys and will then be able to meet girls with a similar interest. Hope this helps.
2006-08-11 11:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by Aussie Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really horrible. A family member went through the same thing and we solved the problem by putting her in some sport activity. Usually that helps a lot. You could also try to convince her to keep her head up ALWAYS whenever those "people" try to put her down. I think you could also ask her to read this page. Maybe it can boost up her self-esteem knowing that so many people she doesn't know actually care about helping her! I dunno...it's just an idea!
Good luck
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2016-09-29 02:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by shimp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im really sorry to hear that.
i think you should take her out and let her join activities that she likes to do..like dance, and sports, swimming, arts and crafts...etc. or maybe camp.
those are great types of things to do at outside school places because many other kids her age will be in the classes with her. if you do sign her up for a activity try and make it out of your hometown, so new people can meet her and get to know each other... other then that, the kids that treat her horribly need to get smacked in the face by me.
2006-08-09 20:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by love is everything. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am so, so sorry. Perhaps you can have her take extracurricular classes outside of school where she can meet new people and do what she likes? Like acting classes, etc.
2006-08-09 20:41:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cannot fit into school because she is very clever? if she's clever then she would be smart enough to find a way to get a friend. wut u could do is make her join afterschool program or clubs. i dont kno wut a popular sport or club in england. maybe fencing? and then she'll meet lots of people.
2006-08-09 20:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by supraman126 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋