I am 26 and dating a guy who is 30 (for about a month.) I really like him but am afraid of having sex, not because I am not ready but because I am afraid of coming across like a sl*t. I am a little conservative and want this guy to take me seriously. I think he is really into me because he sends me flowers to work, calls me all the time we go on fun dates and he just seems genuinely nice. He never pressures me into anything (he's somebody I really am interested in getting to know better) I know a month is not very long for dating someone, but hormones tend to run a little wild. In my 2 previous relationships I have normally waited a few months before sleeping with my boyfriends. If its the right time..it will be natural right? am I being paranoid? I just don't want to start things off the wrong way. I want him to respect me and take me seriously. Any suggestions?
2006-08-09 20:19:48 · 13 answers · asked by Cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its your choice, do the right thing.
2006-08-09 20:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let it happen naturally...but personally, if you think this is Mr. Right...I would wait. Having sex puts a whole new dimension on a relationship, and you're not kids. If you really feel you could build a serious relationship with him, tell him this and how you feel and why. It sounds like he is a great guy, and just ask for a little more time...I'm sure you can use that time to get romantic and build up to the moment when it will be just perfect!!!!
2006-08-10 03:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think you are ready for it then do it. He sounds like a really great guy. I mean, if he doesn't pressure you into anything then he already respects you. I'm sure he won't lose this respect if you guys have sex. It just shows that you trust him all the more. It's up to you.
2006-08-10 03:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by Cheese R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes , now you have taken very intelligent decision , take your time , before marriage do not indulge in sleeping adventure , go for outing spend quality time together , understand each other , hugging / kissing is OK for now not more then that , keep it ,till officially start living together for your own good happy future and life .
2006-08-10 03:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have sex with your boyfriend of a months then do it .the only way he is going to stop respecting you if you stop respecting yourself. If you doesn't take you seriously after sex then move on he is not one.
2006-08-10 03:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by Thear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a level headed women--so just do what feels right and that you are comfortable with and dont give up your standards to someone who is pressuring you but he doenst sound like he is doing that
2006-08-10 03:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to give it such a big deal let it happen in its natural and normal way and it would be just fine and if you would make it a big deal.....its going get on your nurves and ...............
so just dont think toooooooo much about it.
Take care and have fun!
2006-08-10 03:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i slept with my gal 2 wks after we were together n nw we r still together
2006-08-10 03:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by he 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
self-esteem training
2006-08-10 03:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it wouldnt be to soon for me
2006-08-10 03:31:56 · answer #10 · answered by Cris 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋