my bf broke up with me because he is dieing of cancer! I dont know how to handle this! Im slowly getting over him and at the same time im trying to be his friend because thats what he wants! But I find it very hard because I felt like he played with my emotions after he broke up with me he kept saying we were more then just friends but would never commit to more--I understand hes dieing! But that became the excuse for everything that was wrong! And now he insults me or says things that upsets me and his response is either he is sick and cant handle it or im too emotional! He never talks about whats really bothering him and I feel as if I want nothing to do with him! Though I remember that he is dieing and he wants a friend and that I love him and he loves me even though he is having a hard time in showing it--so my problem is do i try to be his friend? or give him space which might or might not make him happy? How do I even deal with the fact he broke up with me because hes dieing
2006-08-09 20:15:18 · 14 answers · asked by Kat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's doing it so you don't hold onto him. he needs you. even if he wants you as just a friend. be there for him. he needs all the emotional support he can get. this isn't about you anymore. be there for him.
2006-08-09 20:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by paoakalani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...my hat goes off to you. Its not easy what you or he is going through. For you to want to bring him comfort in such a time is quite an amazing thing to do. I am sorry he is causing you additional pain...
your best bet would be to be his friend...i know it maybe hard to just be friends but it seems thats what he wants for whatever reason. You need to smile and know that you have some very desireable traits...I think every guy truly wants a girl that would stand by him even in his darkest hours. So continue to be that friend and don't change or let this drag you down.
2006-08-09 20:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by lanceh13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is holding on to you beacuse he is scared todie alone. He loves you but he is timing the way he treats you with his dying. He needs you so much but he is timing it so to drive you away just before it happens. This way if your mad at him or moved on when the time comeshe feels you will feel less hurt and pain and then you will be able to move on with you live faster. He doesn't want to be the cause of alot of hurt and pain for you. You san stand by him and fight to stay there or you can give up on him. It's a hard choice but you have to make it not him!!!
2006-08-09 20:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to sit down down with you for lunch sometime next week. that way it must be considered casual if it should be. At this lunch i ought to confer jointly with her- tell her you nevertheless like her and ask her out back. her fears about ruining your friendship is more durable to take care of. whatever you're saying previously you commence going out once you split (in case you do) it perpetually lands up being diverse from what you stated wouldd take position and it turns into very complicated to proceed to be associates. To eleveate her concerns in spite of the undeniable fact that i ought to communicate about each and every of the great issues courting ought to convey into your courting (operating example you ought to be closer). desire this helps
2016-11-29 19:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, did you meet this guy on the internet? Yeah of course hes dying. its called "Delete Yahoo Account http://edit.yahoo.com and never talk to this girl again.
You said he played mind games before. Doesnt this seem odd that he's dying. Um yea. Loser boyfriend. Dump him first girl
Peace and im out
2006-08-09 20:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard for him to express how he feels , theres nothing worse then knowing youre going to die..be there for him no matter wht he says,,he needs you..he probably wants to push you away because in theend he thinks you wont suffer if he dies..so stand by him..as a friend or whatever but just stand by him..
2006-08-09 20:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be with him til his last breath. watever he doing now is just bcoz he got depression that everyone will hav after he know he going to die. His decision to be frens with u is just bcoz he care for u. Try to understand him and comfort him. lov can conquer everything. do believe tat.
2006-08-09 21:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by nicy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's self sabotaging because he doesn't want u 2 go thru the pain of his death but he can't seem 2 let u go. maybe it's better if u gave him some space and see what happens. hope i helped
2006-08-09 20:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by hellosexymoto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as u said ur bf is dying n u love him n she loves u,y can't u sacrifice little tym for him,stay with him give him d best days for his remaining life on earth...u r in a very tremendous situation now n u nid to kip holding on.....u can make it....
2006-08-09 20:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes just going through some stages, right know i think hes going through anger, or maybe depression either way, evetually he'll accept the fact that he's dying, and become calmer at that point.
2006-08-09 20:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋