My boyfriend told me yesterday that he sent a txt to his ex just to wish her happy birthday,he said she never replied back. I remember on two occasions a few months back he sent txt messages to my phone by mistake that were meant for her,the first txt he lied about but i found out. I cant trust him now,i feel like hurting him all the time,even though i would'nt. How can i control my anger?
2006-08-09 20:06:09 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't control your anger. He's either trying to make you jealous by "accidently" sending them to you or he is chasing her. Tell him if he text's her again it's over. Would he be happy if you text your ex? He'd be long gone...trust me.
2006-08-09 20:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do have a right to be angry but there is nothing you can do about it ! He obviously still has strong feelings for her and it would be interesting to know who actually finished the relationship in the first place if it was the ex then he is finding it hard to deal with the rejection and even harder to move on and you are a substitute. You dont deserve to be 2nd best to anyone kid so ditch him and find a fella that will love you treat you right and put you first my number is ##### ########. Sorry if this sounds harsh but I am talking from experience x good luck and god bless
2006-08-09 21:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mark P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't that much is obvious. Now you have a few options in this type of matter.
!0 You can ignore it but it would eat away at you inside.
2) You can sit him down and tell him that you are angry and hurt and that you can't trust him. If you choose this one do NOT sound whiney or condemning. State the facts as you see them and give him time to respond. If he lies he's not your boyfriend but hers.
3) You can scream at him and clobber him and act immature. If you choose this one you will never clear the air.
After you decide on how to act, do it. It may hurt you to walk away, but better now than after you've invested a lot of time and energy in some guy who can't make up his mind.
He may decide after a few days without you that he really does care and will contact you to talk.
Sometimes no matter how painful we have to take the higher road in these things.
2006-08-09 20:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do the txt messages say that's so bad?
To wish her happy birthday I think it's all right. Not all people end a relationship in a fight and some stay good friends. Be grateful that he tells you when he txt's her. If you find out he's lying more to you talk it over with him... Don't yell, keep your dignity. Your anger is jelousy.
2006-08-09 20:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Athena 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hurt him - i would.
besides why did he tell you he sent a happy birthday txt to his ex in the first place. he didn't have to say anything & you wouldn't have known.
i think he is playing mind games with you
also how do you know it WAS a happy bday txt it really could have said i miss you & want you back. he's lied to you before so he could easily be lying to you again.
like i said - hurt him. i would
2006-08-09 20:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by tjstarbe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with remaining friends with an ex. The bad thing is for him to actually lie to you. If he accidentally sent you a text that was meant for her and there was nothing suspicious about it, not that big of a deal. BUT for him to lie, that's the messed up part. But with the happy b-day text, he actually told you about it, right? So maybe he saw the error of his ways. I think that you two need to sit and talk about things. The more you keep in, the angrier you will get. Just both of you lay it all out. Maybe there's nothing to be upset about, but you must first discuss it, to figure out where you are.
2006-08-09 20:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by virtuouskelly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First if you only have anger towards him it's time to find some one else. second anger only makes you miserable. third the relationship is over you will never ever trust him again and with out trust you have nothing. This will not change for the better it will get worst. mistrust breed resentment and anger then hate.
2006-08-09 20:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there.....partner was texting for 3 months whilst I gatyhered evidence...then i confronted her.......she did it again...i confronted her ...a third time some months later i got a text by mistake.....i was leaving when begged to stay I have two girls...I should have left and got on with my life...that was 5 years ago...Now I still do not trust the physical side has gone......
Once trust has gone everything falls apart......trust and sex are the two components that cement a realtionship......BIG DECISION for you. Good Luck
2006-08-09 20:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by tezz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him!! sorry, but y is he sending his ex txt's then lying about it! U must be able to do better..let him try creeping back with his ex, she obviously isnt as interested as he is otherwise she would have replied, unless of course she had no credit!!
2006-08-09 21:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously still has some feelings for his ex if he lied about a text then he has something to hide, don't get angry just tell him how you feel and if he lies to you again then finish with him, being with someone you don't trust is no life!
2006-08-09 20:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by edwardgrove 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋