I know that people will say that God has a purpose for everyone and that he loves us all. I agree that he loves us and I guess I can agree with the purpose thing. Is it possible though to mess up some much, so many times that you become worthless? I mean feel that I have so much wrong with me inside that I can never get myself together. I have tried hard, lied to myself, and tried new things and yet...I just can't get myself together. It feels that everything I do fails, all of my dreams are worthless, that I am totally empty, and nothing is ever going to chance.
I think about sucicde but I don't want to go to Hell, yet feel that due to my failure, I'm going anyway. I would just hate to do it and then he say to me, "If you had waited one more day, I would have been the day." I am really torn on what I should do and I am tired of being sick and tired...can anyone help?
2006-08-09 19:53:33 · 15 answers · asked by bloggerfiend 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think God's work in your life is more than evident and it is more or less common to all who those who love Him and seek His kingdom and righteousness
Don't lose heart. That is the way man is made. Our will power is never enough; sin will win, and we will do the evil that we swore not to do.
Paul said “So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God's law; but I see another law [another principle] at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law [or principle] of my mind [my agreement with the law of God] and making me a prisoner of the law [principle] of sin at work within my members.” (Romans 7:21-23)
Here is the same problem exactly. You want to do right and determine to do right, knowing what it is and swearing to do it, only to find that under certain circumstances all that determination melts away and you do not do what is right. You do exactly what you did not want to do. So you come away angry with yourself. "What's the matter with me? Why can't I do what is right? Why do I give way when I get into this situation? Why am I so weak?" This is right where we live, isn't it? This is what we all struggle with. The cry of the heart at that moment is (Verse 24):
What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? (Romans 7:24 NIV)
God has made that covenant with any who are ready to come to him, who have reached the end of themselves, who have stopped trying to do it themselves, and are resting on what he is ready to do. That is why the Sermon on the Mount begins with the bankruptcy of humanity: "Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven," (Matthew 5:3 RSV)
Because this is the point -- the only point -- where God's help is given.
This is what we need to learn. If we think that we have got something in ourselves that we can work out our problems with, if we think that our wills are strong enough, our desires motivated enough, that we can control evil in our lives by simply determining to do so, then we have not come to the end of ourselves yet. And the Spirit of God simply folds his arms to wait and lets us go ahead and try it on that basis. And we fail, and fail miserably -- until, at last, out of our failures, we cry, "O wretched man that I am!" Sin has deceived us, and the Law, as our friend, has come in and exposed sin for what it is. When we see how wretched it makes us, then we are ready for the answer, which comes immediately:
“Thanks be to God -- through Jesus Christ our Lord!” (Romans 7:25a)
Who will deliver me from this body of death? The Lord Jesus has already done it. We are to respond to the feelings of wretchedness and discouragement and failure, to which the Law has brought us because of sin in us, by reminding ourselves immediately of the facts that are true of us in Jesus Christ. Our feelings must be answered by facts.
2006-08-09 21:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Dimitris-Greece 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely seek help from a professional. Your hopes and dreams are very relative and you can make as much difference in other peoples lives as you want. "getting your head together" is kind of what you need to do i think. A physician will get you on the right track by maybe testing you for different ailments and go from there. Psychiatry is also doing wonders for people. All this will help you realize that what you think or do does matter and you can make the right decisions for yourself and others. Best advice i can give and just trying to stay positive no matter what the hardship. I've been homeless and had a nervous disorder and now I'm happy to say i own a home and have 2 children and a wonderful wife. Things can change and will, but it does take time and effort. Good luck. Bye the way I am an atheist and the thought of you being worthless to god really revolts me since all humanity is precious.
2006-08-09 20:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by brokolay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't look at you as worthless. You may feel it because you didn't accept Him yet. All what you do fails because He is not there to guide and work with you. Yes, He wants us to include Him in all that we do like a parent (because that's what He is to us).
Know these verses:
Nothing is impossible with God. Luke 1:37
I can do all things through God who gives me strenght. Phil. 4:13
Put God first and all you do will succed. (sorry forgot the verse)
But the point is that God is a personal God. He wants to get personally close with you as a friend, parent and God. He wants you to be more than conquerors and winners. The only thing you should do is ask Him. And you'll be a new being worthy of everything.
Hope I helped you and God bless.
2006-08-09 21:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kath 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
awww...reading that is makeing me tear up ='( nobody is worthless to be honest i know how you feel everybody has a second chance so far as they are honest to God that they are truly sorry and need his help and NEED his guidance in his life honestly there is nothin that God cannot do or fix! no problem is too big or too small he can do anything just at the right time it may not be when you want it but he knows if you are a believer you should pray to God for direction he will always help he's always by your side no matter what even in the most desperate times! :D
2006-08-09 21:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by Je t'aime ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about the worst thing that ever happened to you, then realize, there is no god hell or heaven, only this life now. No second chances, no replay, no punishment, no reward. The only afterlife is left in the memorys of those left behind. If you dont make your mark here, do what you can to live the best every day with honesty and integrity, then no one will notice your passing.
2006-08-09 20:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie-you can never screw up so much that God will not forgive you. This might help:
Q: What do I do if I sin?
A: First John 1:9 has the answer: "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." In other words, when you have caught yourself sinning, turn away from the sin, tell the sin to God asking Him to forgive you, and He will. This is known as "repenting."
Q: What if I keep sinning over and over? Won't God get mad at me?
A: Even though we can confess our sins from a humble heart and be cleansed of them, He doesn't condone sin. Romans 6:1-2 says, "What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? God forbid. How shall we, that are dead in sin, live any longer therein?"
However, if we sin again, we must repent again. Proverbs 24:16 says, "For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again." Therefore, when we have sinned the same sin, we need to humbly repent once again, and then we are cleansed again.
You really need to forgive yourself too. For how can you truly live on in happiness if you cannot forgive yourself. I know this because I had a really hard time forgiving myself when I had sex before marriage. I swore up and down to myself and God that I would never do it, but I did. And I was only able to forgive myself after a long time, but before I did that, I was unable to face God, and so I slipped in my faith. I still have some building up to do. But he does forgive you when you repent, even when it doesn't feel like it. It's hard to believe that your forgiven when it doesn't FEEL like your forgiven. God Bless, and know that he loves you Unconditionally. HE LOVES YOU!
P.S. Don't listen to anyone that says there is no God, Heaven or Hell. Just think what purpose do we have if there is no such thing as God?
2006-08-09 20:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by eaglefeather831 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No one is worthless to God and He will NEVER turn His back on you because He is loving and FORGIVING. Like you said you already know, you were created for a purpose. It might not be what you think. You could have been put here to save some other souls from hell. Did you ever think about that? Think of who all you help if you tried to get your life straight. Sometimes we think too much about our own problems and mistakes. Trust me, I have done that in the past. I've made mistakes that I never thought God could EVER forgive me for, but because I asked for forgiveness and knew that He had forgiven me and that my life was washed free from those mistakes, I was able to become closer to Him than I have ever been.
Talk to God, all of the time. Don't let a day go by when you don't ask Him for help. We NEED God to help us every day of our lives. Nothing is too small or too big for God to handle. I have realized these things and realized how blessed I am to have made some of the mistakes I have made in the past. Those mistakes have made me who I am today and have brought me closer and closer to my Lord!
I pray for you tonight and hope you find the courage to turn your life over to God and ask Him for forgiveness and for His help. We all need it and can go nowhere in life without it!
God bless you!
2006-08-09 20:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by ☼ lovethesun11 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can ALWAYS be forgiven if you repent. The thing with being human is that none of us have it all together, we all make unlimited mistakes, but God loves you and cares for you anyways, even when you have trouble loving and caring for yourself. You are not worthless. God created a world where you exist. Jesus died for you.
I know it's hard, years ago I considered suicide myself. But it isn't the answer. As long as you are alive, there is always hope. Please don't give up.
2006-08-09 20:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by DawnL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bloggerfiend,
Read your question and you can see that
you are not worthless. You are trying to improve.
We all fail, so many times. The key is to learn from
it and keep on going. I hear you when you say you're
sick and tired, but keep on going, a day at a time,
try to do one good deed at a time, and you'll begin
accumulating 'good' -- you will feel better, and God
will love you as he always loves you.
Don't give up my friend,
stay the course.
You are worth it!
One step at a time.
Give it a shot!
2006-08-09 20:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by vim 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to Jesus about your issues. The worthless feeling comes from the Devil. You need to know that you are a good person. Stop lying to yourself. Stop listening to negative comments. I was diagnosed with a terminal cancer in October last year. I was told I would be dead by January this year. I am 30 years old and haven't even been married yet. So you can imagine how I felt. I stood up against everyone's opinions over me and started to tell my body that in Jesus name and by His blood I am healed. I cursed the roots of the cancer countless times. Any way, it is obvious to me that I am doing better than just o.k. today. I believed I was healed and so I am. Start to talk positive affirmations over your own life. You owe yourself that much. Most people let others dictate to them what they feel about them. You need to stand up and fight for the truth. You are worth it. At least Jesus thought so as he died for you and me.
2006-08-09 20:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋