ok i really liked this guy Matt and he asked me out sooo now we are like toegether but now that i have him its different its like i dont like him anymore and im interested in other guys be truthfull i wanna knoe the honest to god truth am i being selfish is this normal or what?
2006-08-09 19:32:31 · 7 answers · asked by xsweetypiex 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How sweet.....you sound really young. You are FINE.
When you grow up, you'll come to understand that it's all about you right now. You have not been alive long enough to really have much experience with life. You don't yet know what defines you.......DON"T WORRY, YOU ARE ALL RIGHT.
We're all like that when we're young..We love the thrill of the chase. We get a rush from trying to get others to like/love us. Once we succeed, we lose interest, and wonder why we are with them....there was no true love at all. We were in love with the idea that they could love us.... Using the concept of love gave us the permission to do this.
As we grow as people, and encounter more people, we learn more about ourselves (both good and bad) and what we need from others. We begin to understand what the idea of love really means. If we truly love ourselves, we steele for nothing less than love....
You are normal and right on schedule. Keep going out there and gaining more experience in the world. Keep learning what works for you.
Eventuallu some day you will run into someone who does it for you, and all things are mutual. You will know confidently, like you know your own name, what he feels for you. It will show in his actions, not by what he says alone. You will not ever wonder or doubt his feelings. And they will be mutual.
You are supposed to be selfish. You are the only one you will ever be able to count on 100% forever until you die. You would be doing yourself a disservice to go against your nature out of guilt. You would not be loving yourself to give someone else your love without requiring it in return.
You are not that interested in there guys, so try to avoid hurting too many hearts with promises of an illusion of love. You do not love them. You love the idea that you have caught them, captivated them.......you love how you feel your inner power and beauty and so do others. It's like a narcotic rush....
Try to remember this thing called karma and don't break too many hearts. Don't use your superpowers for evil. Don't date exclusively right now, You're too young to promise that to anyone. Forever is a long time, and you don't yet know what you need. See lots of guys but not exclusively, and make them compete for your heart. And they will.....DOn't limit yourself from all the experience you have yet to gain. When you're in your late 20's or 30-something, you will know who you are and what you need, and be more able to spot it when it comes along. There is not "the one" or only one out there for you. There are many. What you are doing now is learning so later you will be able to spot one of 'them' later in your life......
2006-08-09 20:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, im the same way.
i find the fun in chasing and getting a guy to like me but once he does it's just not fun anymore. what's the point in chasing a guyy who already like you. im not mean bout it though.
im just not into committment yet.
it wont be like this forever once you find someoen special it'll stop. i have recently i think. i think i love someone and im pretty surre i do. so ive stopped chasing ppl.
it's totally normal and not selfish.
2006-08-10 02:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People sometimes can seem so great...until you get involved with them, or you start living with them, and then the magic is gone.
If you are not happy, do not force yourself to stay in something you do not want to, and what ever you do, don't lie to him, and cheat behind his back.
If you are not happy, be honest and upfront, and break up.
2006-08-10 02:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by tiravellian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal no ur not selfish thats how i am right now u just miss being single **** i alredy do and its only being like 4 days whith the guy
2006-08-10 02:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by maria_e126 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people desire most what they can't have. Once you have it, you don't want it no more. I think it is normal. However, be careful because you might end up hurting someone.
2006-08-10 02:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as though you're only interested in those things/people you cannot have....the more difficult it is to get, the more you want it.
IMO, you're spoiled.
2006-08-10 02:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are.
2006-08-10 02:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by The Chief 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋