My sister (she's a year and a half older than me) beats me at everything in every way. She's smarter, my mom and dad love her more, she's really popular, etc. She over shadows me in every aspect of what I do. She know's she's better than me, and it's horrible. She hawks over her wisdom all the time, laughs when I can't do something or say something stupid, and she just rubs it in every day! What should I do?
2006-08-09 19:19:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Every younger child feels this way -- sometimes with justification, and sometimes without.
It's horrible, because there really is no way to compete with someone who has had more years than you in which to develop their skills and accomplish things.
I am the oldest in my family, and for years and years I did not realize that my younger sibling were very intimidated by my accomplishments. Your sister MIGHT not realize that she is being cruel to you.
You should talk with your parents about how you feel. They should get your sister to stop lording it over you.
Next, you need to learn to appreciate yourself and value your abilities. If your sister knows more and is more developed and accomplished, it is because she is OLDER -- not because there is anything wrong with you. You are fine, smart, and accomplished FOR YOUR AGE.
In addition, you are two different people. While your sister may be more popular, you might be more of something else. Who is to say which trait is more valuable?
2006-08-09 19:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find your own bliss. Don't hang around waiting for scraps, just do your own thing and they'll probably come to you. It's always hard for the person who feels less than a person. But don't depend on your family for all of your good feelings about yourself. Find your bliss (find the things that make you happy) and be a happy person despite the icky family situation your in.
They may wake up and they may always treat you like this. Be prepared for the worst and your family will never disappoint you. (I have some similar family dysfunction.)
Good luck!
2006-08-09 19:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by Polly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick up a damn guitar. Plug out your first four chords and run with it. Basically find something that defines you, and dont worry what the hell she does. If your not the musical type, try running, go out for cross country or track. There is something in the world that you will come to love, and that you will be really good at. Everyone has their niche, you just have to find yours.
2006-08-09 19:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Instead of finding what you think your sister is good at look at your self and find out what you are good at. LOOK at yourself and take note of what you are good at and make it your thing!
I am sure you parents are not more favorable to your sister then you and they love you both equally. Even though it dosnt seem like it at times.
As for you sister when she picks on you just ignore her and her nasty comments she seems she has a issue with you as well for the fact that she is quick to pick up on your mistakes Good luck with your situation and I wish you luck in the future.
2006-08-09 20:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry that you kids have received such awful parenting that failed to teach you to be best, loving, loyal friends instead of competitive enemies.
not much you can do about the terrible parenting but you could help your self by studying and practicing self-esteem training which might also help your sister realize that her overdone attitude about her self is not OK.
look here:
http://www.kidshealth.org/kid/feeling/home_family/sibling_rivalry.html
2006-08-09 20:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is actual is all i can inform you. Me and my sister strive against and compete for each thing, from who receives the lavatory first to who receives to eat the first piece of popcorn. She is 15 and that i'm 16, so we also strive against about who receives the motorized vehicle and we've diverse view on boys and are continually combating about it.
2016-11-29 19:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill her with kindness ...next time she laughs at you laugh with her her...If she corrects you ...Thank her/..Any thing she tries to make you look stupid , just say oh well...I am serious just act the opposite of how you would react and she will stop, because she knows it bothers you and you have to show her it doesn't
2006-08-09 19:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
pick a specialty and research it. be more knowledgable on a subject that interests you than she is, or pick something she likes and learn it better than her. that'll piss her off.
2006-08-09 19:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by flowgerg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait for that ONE FATEFUL DAY when she fails at something... AND SHE WILL!!!
Then you can be there to gloat or support her, and show just how infallible she is... ;)
That day will come, just be patient...
2006-08-09 19:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
DO GOOD DEEDS THEN MAYBE YOUR PARENTS WILL PAY MORE ATTENTION TO YOU THAN YOUR SISTER THAT IS IF SHE ALSO DOES GOOD DEEDS I CANT HELP YOU
2006-08-09 19:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋