Ok, she's three years younger than me. She's very weak physically and not that big. She's 11, but her personality is very strong. Physically hurting her is very easy, and gets the message across firmly, but I don't like doing it because she ends up hating me, and her will makes her even harder to control the next time we disagree. I'd say I am a very rational person, and I always try the most rational soulutions. I try to use the peaceful solutions, and those are usually just telling on her. I hate doing that, because usually we fight over ridiculously small things, most often the computer. Telling on her just makes her view me as weak and pathetic. She always provokes me, and I warn her a million times, before I choose one of the two solutions. What I want to know is, is there a third solution that is any better than these to keep her under control, and by control, I mean just following the rules so we don't argue?
2006-08-09 19:00:42 · 2 answers · asked by maya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
1) you can ignore her, because most of the time she's looking for a reaction and she's obviously getting it everytime.
2) oh you should never underestimate the power of a womens mind hahah, nah really you should talk to her and let her know that one day she's gonna need your help and you may not be around to give it to her. Having a close bond with your siblings is very important, my older sister and i hated eachother and use to argue 24/7, but when she moved away i realized how much i missed her and now that shes back i try hard to keep our close bond. Now we're tighter than ever =) hope i helped, but then i think it's different as yous are of the opposite sex.
2006-08-09 19:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry you've both received such bad parenting and were not taught to be good to each other.
the best defense against bad behavior of others is by you getting some self-esteem training to learn how to set and enforce your boundaries and other good relationship skills that your parents didn't give you both. when you have good self-esteem the behavior of others is not so troubling or difficult to cope with.
2006-08-09 20:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋