My Father won't Treat Me My Age?

Question

I am almost 14 & my dad treats me like i'm nine!! I know it might have something to do with the fact that i don't see him very much, but I still see him enough that all the things i do (ex.; piercings, hair color, ect.) must be run by him before i can do any of it. I wanna get my belly botton pierced now,I have done all the reasearch, & i am ready to do it, the only thing stopping me is my dad says no & then wont give me a reason. Any suggestions on how to make him more aware of that I'm a teenager now & that he needs to be more open with me (by the way nothing too harsh I still have to get my new cell phone while I do this opening up thing!)

I didn't post this question because i want to get my belly botton pierced, I posted it to see how to make him treat me my age (so stop making it all about that)

Answer 1

Compromise. Make an agreement with him, that if you do something he wants you to do, you can do something you want to do.

Answer 2

Well Lindsay, little to say if my 12 year old daughter waanted to do the same, I would tell her no too. The reason behind why I would say no is that it is a passing fade thing and that is like throwing money away in the long run. you could use that on a boyfriend or going to the movies. Doing this also the belly button area will bleed and puss for about a week or more at tops and might be ok after that. I know a few friends who did that and they get a sore stomach after two or three days after wearing the insert. but your right you deserve a explation from your dad ask him when you can get it if he still saids no and ask why and stand on that one

Answer 3

Be thankful that your dad takes an interest in what you do. I know it may not feel the greatest at the moment but a lot of peoples dad's just don't care.

14 is a difficult age because you're in between being a child and an adult, what you have done is good though, if you've got some research on belly button piercing to show you're dad your demonstrating that you are approaching it in a mature way and he'll catch on after a while :)

Answer 4

You know who thinks that a 14 year old with a belly button ring is hot....12 year old boys.....Do YOU really think they have a good grasp on whats hot, whats pretty and whats appropriate?

1/2 of them are 4 years away from gowing a hair on their face. Your Dad is a man, and he knows what is "hot or not" and trust me...there is nothing cool about a chick thats 14 that has a belly button ring. Makes you look like a dirty. There I said it even if your Dad won't.

I know its tuff but your Dad really does know best, even if it seems to be completely unfair. I'm not gonna call you a brat cause I know that being a teenager is not easy, try something simple.....forget about the piercing for about 6 months and see how you feel about it then.


At lesat give your Dad that much, and approach him again about it then.

Answer 5

I'm sorry, but at 14, you're still a child and your father gets to make the rules. The "I'm a teenager" thing doesn't really work until you're at least 16 or 17.

Your dad has life experience that you don't have. He has the ability to think about youar needs past today, which children and teenagers just don't have. All they can think about is NOW and ME.

Good for you for doing the research and presenting him with facts... but the ultimate decision is his.

Oh, and you don't NEED a cellphone if you can't pay the bill yourself.

Do a few things to act like a responsible adult (get a job, pay for your own cell phone and clothing, etc.) and he might be more open.

Answer 6

LOOK you MUST DID NOT KNOW U R almost 14 see think 14 is a special age cause most of kids get pregnant at 11 12 i know someone who child is pregnant and is 10 but it means you are ready kinda but in a way you are not cause sometime they might not get it in you belly right and it will effect you just like it did my cousin and now you are ready cause you are the right age for it but just not reading all of it see i got on www.info.com not the old one i get on the real one they will tell you that they can put it on wrong and effect your belly and i can kill you if you are under age hope you take this as a lesson

Answer 7

Honestly, to a parent, no matter how old you are, you will always be a baby to him. I understand how you feel coz I've been thru. But your dad will always have his reasons for saying no. He's being concerned. Maybe he does not know how to get his message across just so you can understand. Have a good talk with him when he is in a good mood and let him know that you understand his concerns, but you need more space for yourself. Establish a constant communication with him and he will begin to trust you more.

Answer 8

U R 14 HE IS U FATHER U NEED TO LISTEN TO HIM....HE IS TREATING U YOUR AGE..HELLO..14 IS NOT 18 ...I JUST LOST MY FATHER AND HE WAS AN MY CASE ABOUT A LOT OF THINGS AN HE DIED JAN 05...WELL I AN 41...GET USE TO IT EXCEPT THAT U R HIS LITTLE GIRL AND U WILL ALWAYS BE HIS BABY..SORRY FACT...EMBRACE HIS LOVE AND U WILL BE THE BETTER 4 IT NOW IF THERE IS AN ISSUE THAT IS SO IMPORTANT IN U LIFE SIT DOWN WITH HIM AND EXPLAIN TO HIM U SIDE AND SHOW HIM U R GROWING UP AND THAT U HAVE TO START MAKING SOME OF U OWN CHOICES REMIND HIM THAT HE WON'T ALWAYS BE THERE TO MAKE (OR HELP U MAKE THEM)THOSE CHOICES

Answer 9

I've been asked not to respond to children (or trolls posing as children) because my brutal honesty in explaining the error in their thought process is apparently rather cruel and has been known to reduce at lest one teenage girl to sobbing tears.

Unfortunately, no one will ask the teenage girls to stop posting narcissistic question like the one you have posted. On behalf of all honest people, stop posting your egotistical, self-serving, attempt to elicit pity from complete strangers.

Or else someone is going to say something mean to you, and make you cry.

Answer 10

Well are you n only child? Well if you are then i can help.

You see, im pretty sure that you know that he just loves you very much and he also wants you to be his little baby girl. Considering that you will always be his little baby girl because no matter what happens, you will be the same number of age younger than him. I'm pretty sure he just doesn't want to see you grow up so/too fast. He still wants to spend time with you and do all the little kids stuff. If you are in fact his only child then your the only one that he has to play with as a father and daughter thing.

I think you should spend more time with him. Even if you grow up, to him you will always be that small little girl.

Holy sh*t im crying now lol.

Well my point is that your his only child and this may be a once in a life time event for him and you as well... you should think about it, nothing means more to me than my family.

And also, if you really want to be treated like a teen, then you must talk to him. No matter what the situation is, a parent who loves their child want their child to be open to them. They want to be able to build in trust in their all grown up kid. In this situation, you want your freedom as a teen, and you have to be open to him. Adults learned alreaddy that life has a hard turn, and "his" hard turn would be losing you to the teenage life (Meaning that you aren't the little girl he knows anymore)

I hope i helped. but remember, without your parents to guide you, you won't survive in the world.

Answer 11

He loves you and he wants to protect you for as long as he can. He doesn't want to keep you a little girl forever (I'm sure he would if he could though) but he just wants you to be prepared for any bad results that may occur. He probably can't give you a reason because he doesn't really know how to say "I want to keep you safe because I love you."

True feelings are really hard to express.