When I had my five year old, i was just glued to him. To this day i call him my baby.
I recently had another baby five months ago, and when I was pregnant, I was worried about replacing him.
Now that the baby is here, that's exactly what happened without me meaning for it to happen. How do I get back what I had with my little guy? I don't feel as close to him now that there is a new one in the house. I have five kids total, and smiley as I like to call him is my only blonde haired blue eyed boy. So why was I so quick to replace him? I don't love him any less. please help.
2006-08-09 18:52:14 · 6 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have 4 beautiful daughters and I love them all differently as they all have different qualities. I don't think you can love one more than the other,you just love something more about that child. With a new baby,they just require more of your attention. Have your other children help you with the new baby by doing small tasks like helping to feed the bottle,get diapers when needed,etc. Don't be so hard on yourself,this is just a natural process we all go through. I love all my children equally and would die for each and everyone of them. I think you would do the same.
2006-08-10 01:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by mrsreadalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax Mom, you have not replaced your beautiful smiley. You are just consumed with the needs of your new baby right now. Maybe you can spend some quality play time with your other children either together or one at a time while the baby is sleeping. When the family has a new baby in the house, everyone kind of takes a back seat including your husband. Make sure you make time for him too.Most of all, take a little time to pamper yourself, sometimes all a new mother needs is a quiet warm bath, and the rest of the day's problems melt away.
2006-08-10 02:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's natural for you to give the new one the attention as they require more being the new baby. Also the other kids as the get older need your direct help less for everything this give you the appearance that you replacing the kids but in fact they are kinda of replacing you ;-) Do not worry it all works out.
2006-08-10 02:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by College Student 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By asking question like this, you obviously still love him as much!
don't feel bad about being closer and spending more times with your new one. baby needs a little more attention and care from you than the 5 years old does.
the fact is, you can't get any close to your boy exactly as close as before, because you have another little one to take care of. you can't miss any one of them. You need to spend as much time to both of them fairly. you can include both of them in some activities. while the baby is asleep, you have times for the boy.
don't feel bad.. there is only one "YOU". the boy can't have you as much as before cos you ought to be shared by another new little baby in the house.
as long as you still care, spend enough time and pay as much attention to the boy and the baby.. then you can't call yourself favor one child over the other...
2006-08-10 02:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by #1 Girl -She's Bittersweet- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to try to include him in your time even if the baby is there! have him help you with the baby! if not he could possibly grow up resenting the baby and have lots of anger! it will be even harder than
2006-08-10 02:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by abcd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to try to include him in your time even if the baby is there! have him help you with the baby! if not he could possibly grow up resenting the baby and have lots of anger! it will be even harder than
2006-08-10 02:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by lil mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋