Should I ask out a close friend that I've known well for about a year or would that ruin the friendship?

Question

Should I ask out a close friend that I've known well for about a year or would that ruin the friendship? See the thing is though she always tells me about the guys she likes and all that. Am I stuck in the "friend zone" or is there a way out of that?

Answer 1

I think from the way you describe it, she sees you only as a friend. A good friend. She must trust you a lot to tell you about the guys she thinks are cute and stuff...
Build on the friendship. You've got a good level going right now, keep bringing it higher. Stick with her through thick and thin, show her how much you really care.
Don't tell her straight about your feelings, she might possibly freak out. Instead just keep bringing on your friendship (don't seem too desperate though, that would overwhelm her) and toss her subtle hints that say what your feelings really are. She'll come to accept you in time if things go right. If not, move on. There are always many other girls out there who might be just as perfect as she is.

Answer 2

I am currently in a relationship with my best friend of 4 years. And by best friend I mean seeing her almost every day for the last 4 years.
It really all depends on the messages shes sending, if she is telling you about alll the guys she likes, she is probably trying to make you jealous. Girls are evil bud, they do that. But seriously, if she isn't shy about hugging you or flirting with you, she could be feeling the same thing.
One thing you have to do is send very subtle messages to start out. Start doing small things for her. Be a gentleman. Open doors, throw away her trash at lunch. Don't be romantic about it, just be a good guy. Flirt with her a little, if you would hug her goodbye, hug her a little longer then everyone else.
If she likes you, the other boys will stop. Maybe she will start talking about you nonstop to her girlfriends, in which case, girl law states that that fact needs to be delivered to the appropriate boy. Finally start doing things with just her and you.

Your taking a dive here though. You dont want to make things awkward.

Your not stuck though, give it a try, if things dont work out, she will be friends with you again. You sound like a nice kid so keep it up.

Answer 3

The only real way to know is to ask her about how she feels. I would be careful though, because I know you don't want to lose her friendship. Maybe lightly bring it up, maybe even in a joking manner and see how she reacts. If she doesn't freak out about it, maybe you should tell her how you feel. Tell her is she doesn't feel the same, its fine and you can still be friends... that you were just curious or something. I've seen one of my friends talk to his best friend of many years and he ended up marrying her. Its worth a try... I mean, you never know what could happen unless you do something about it.

Answer 4

She may be telling you who she likes because she likes you and wants to make you jealous, but she also may be telling you so it is clear that she is not interested. Sometimes girls send mixed signals and it is difficult for guys to understand what they really mean. You should have some of your guy friends talk to her close girlfriends and ask about her liking you. If she does, you should go for it! If not, it would ruin the friendship if you told her how you felt and I suggest moving on and finding some other girl who is better for you. Good luck! =]

Answer 5

Yes,there is a way out but you need to do it the smart way not the pressure way.First,say something like wouldn't it be great if we started dating,see her reaction.If it is good ask her out,make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend.If she says no don't keep bugging her or ask her out agin cuz that will ruin your friendship and no ultimatums like unless you go out with me I won't be your friend anymore.

Answer 6

there is if you want out but keep in mind that jumping into the b/f zone does mean leaving the friend zone so if you really like her then jump but there is no going back life is a risk but it sounds like your really like her go for it love is always worth it

Answer 7

well you shouldnt just go straight up to her and say"i like u"bcuz it can ruin ur friendship and she might b a littl spooked and confused and u dont wana put a girl thru that so u should figure out if she likes u too..or u can find out what she likes in a guy and bcum that guy lol

Answer 8

Just cause she tells you bout guys she likes doesn't necessarily mean that she thinks of u as just her friend. My first boyfriend would always tell me bout girls he was dating or that he liked when we were friends before we started going out.
I think you should definitely ask her out because if you don't neither one of you might never find out how the other feels. Just go for it and good luck to you. :)

Answer 9

Well, you can get out of the friends zone. Give her secret admirer letters or something. However, dun tell her straightaway cos she might avoid you.Give her some time.

Answer 10

awww! you sound so cute! i have this guy friend named thomas and he is one of my best friends! i alwayz tell him who i like and stuff like that. thomas is my best friend and we have been like this for about 10 months and i would totally want to know if he liked me. i think you should tell her and hope for the best, but break it down to her and tell her that you never want to lose her, but you feel that she should know how you feel. i really like my guy buddy - gerald - so i know how you feel. im stuck in the friend zone too and im still looking for a way out. since you are goiin through the same thing i am, maybe you can help me? i am 14 and i really like this guy kyle but he doesnt know and we are kinda friends. should i tell him?IM me at - [e-mail].