Me and this girl have been good friends for a while, say half a year, and just two weeks ago she just broke up with her boyfriend that she dated for two years. Well, we spent the weekend together, we flirted alot, but never kissed, and i came to relieze that I like her, and I told her my feelings. Her response was that it was a bad time (just breaking up with her x) and that she didnt want to take us past the 'friend level'. At first i thought it was just a weekend thing i had for her, but now i think i really like her.
Does she truly mean what she says, about just staying friends, or is that an excuse to keep things less complicated?
What should I do?
2006-08-09 18:17:56 · 40 answers · asked by henry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep her informed that you still like her but let her have her time and space. maybe later she'll come around and see she likes you, too. and she'll appreciate that you let her recover from her break up.
2006-08-09 18:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia Beeverhousen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that "just staying friends" thing can be really confusing. Do you believe it, or not?
No matter what, she needs space to figure this out. And if you're the rebound guy there's good change it won't last. Try not to underestimate how important friendship really is. Good friends are priceless. Love can grow if it's nurtured, especially at the right time. Patience is key.
Just don't sacrifice yourself for her happiness. Sacrificing your needs won't help either of you. Be true to your heart, apart from her. That's tougher than it sounds when you've fallen for someone.
Time will tell if she really just wants to be friends. Right now, that may be exactly what she's counting on; a good friend. But ulterior motives will complicate the outcome. Are you willing to lose her friendship is she doesn't fall for you?
Stay clear on what you want and need. Good luck!
2006-08-09 18:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not ready to get into another relationship. It would complicate things. She's right. I mean, what if you 2 were to
get together and you fell madly in love and then her ex-boyfriend
decided to get back in the picture. Her feelings would be in a
blender and I think you'd be the one who was hurt.
Stay friends. Respect that. If she should decide that she's ready to make if any more than that,she'll let you know. But, be there to
be a shouldber to cry on. That gives her a chance to open up to you and tell you her intensely personal feelings- even if it's just that she's hurting and missing her boyfriend. She'll start to trust you and it gets better from there.
2006-08-09 18:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just got out of a relationship with someone she dated for two whole years. it's going to take some time for her to get over her ex. give her a month or two for her to heal then bring up the subject. but till then just be her friend and be there for her. i know i would appreciate that. she might like you right now but is not quite ready for another relationship. i think you still have a chance. good luck.
2006-08-09 18:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Ashe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time! She is in no state to start another relationship now. Especially with someone who she needs as a friend. She may even need a rebound date before she is ready for anything real.
For now the way to her heart is be her friend. But dont wait around for her. Here is a secret- girls want the guy she cant have. Or we realize we want you after you started dating someone else.
2006-08-09 18:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends... Usually I would say she means what she says.. Cause I am a girl, you know, and if I can't be with a guy I would say so.. But in you case .. You said you flirted a lot - this change the whole situation. . . Think about the things she said/did/meant that weekend.
Don't worry about it, be friends and if it meant to be ( you know, the relationship between you & her) it will happen naturally..
2006-08-09 18:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She truly means what she meant. So don't force it and drive her away. But don't give up either! Stick around and keep up the good friends thing. She'll start looking at you in a different light when she starts to get over the ex. See, girls don't realize that guys are only "friends" with girls so that they can get/win them one day. You knew that's why you were friends with her all this time....deep down you did.
2006-08-09 18:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably being honest with you since it is so recent and she needs time. That is actually good because you don't want to be the rebound guy either. So just give her the time she needs and be her friend and let her get to know you more. If it's meant to be then it will happen. If it doesn't, at least you still have a good friendship.
2006-08-09 18:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by Trailscout 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Husband and I were at the same place you and your friend are, four years ago. we tried to date it lasted 2 weeks. we then decided to back off the dating and go back to being just friends. after about another year we decided that we were ready to try take it to the next level and now we have just celebrated our 1st Anniversary.
respect her feelings let her have her space be the good friend that you always have been. And ask yourself if she's worth the wait.
2006-08-09 18:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by bc_ca_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should wait awhile and find out if you truly like her or not. Then if you still do after awhile, you should ask her how she feels about you and if she makes an excuse then that was probably an excuse she gave earlier. If she says she likes you back, go for it! Good luck! =]
2006-08-09 18:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she does mean the 'just friends' thing to a certain point but she just doesn't want to be hurt and she has to have time to adjust....If you really like her just 'stay friends' and then when she is ready talk to her about it. I wish you all the luck and I hope this helped.
2006-08-09 18:24:20 · answer #11 · answered by sarah_live4christ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋