My daughters are first in my life, how do i teach them the girly things they need to know being a dad?

Answer 1

I have a friend help me with that. Makeup, hair and stuff always gets shuffled off to a weekend with her.

She wasn't available for the big emergency... The First Period. Grandma got hung with that one. Poor Mom. She got an extra special birthday present that year.

Answer 2

I think you really need to enlist the help of a woman to teach some of the girlie things. Do you have a sister that is close enough to spend quality time with your daughters? It would help to know how old your daughters are at present. There are some good books that can be gotten at the public library. I would be very careful about what influences she might come under, if you have Christian or other firm values on sexual behavior for men and women. You will yourself be role modelling how men should behave with her, in a general way, and you will influence her in what pleases you in her behavior and what does not. There are some organizations that have 'big brothers and sisters',, again be careful and screen the prospects so that the values will be similar.

Answer 3

Hey, I'm a single dad of a 10 year old daughter. Fortunately, my mom's around a lot to set a good example for my daughter. The women and older girls at my church are great, too. Always be open and honest with your daughters. I just had a talk with my daughter about her period and all the stuff that goes along with that because it's going to happen, sooner rather than later. I told her if she ever had any questions, to ask me and that if I didn't know the answers, I'd find them for her. She is all girl, too. She watches baseball with me, but more because I enjoy, I think, than because she does. We go shopping. She just got her ears pierced for her 10th birthday. Wow! Talk about a good way to make a girl happy! LOL I'd say the main thing, though, is to make sure your daughters know how much you love them and approve of them (a girl really needs to hear from her dad how wonderful and intelligent and beautiful she is) and don't be afraid to ask for help or advice from whatever women there are in your life, whether it's your mom, your sister, a friend, whatever.

Answer 4

Just be a daddy and love them to bits. Tell them what men can really be like and what you would like to see for them. Girls always want a man like their daddy (oh they may say they don't but they do) so just be that perfect loving dad and love and support them so that they will always have the self esteem to respect themselves and make good decisions about boys. As for all that other girly stuff there are some great books in stores like Chapters for young teens. Have a good browse at them yourself before selecting one. It might be easier to broach some subjects that way. Teachers/principals/someone you trust (women) can always help with talking to your kids but be careful not to violate your daughters' trust and reveal things they may not want you to. There is a delicate balance and fine line we must walk on with daughters! LOL Keep the lines of communication open...that is the most important thing. Don't embarrass them in front of their friends either...that is by far the worst...talk in private when you disapprove of something, ask them if talking to someone else would help them if they are having a hard time talking with you...they will love you for all that you do for their sake in the long run. Good luck.

Answer 5

Good question. Being a girl I guess they will learn most of it on there own. And I don't think there is anything wrong if they miss out a one or two girl things. Who knows maybe they can learn more from there dad rather then from there mother or a woman.

I would buy them girl toys like dolls , barbie house etc.... T.V , friends at school including there teachers and there instinct will teach them the rest. Good luck

Answer 6

My dad basically raised me all by himself. I learned most of the girly things from my female friends. When it came time to wear a bra he had the lady in the store help me and bought 5 of the same kind. Buying them books to read is a good suggestion. But knowing they can talk to you about anything will help the most.

Answer 7

As a Dad, your job is to be the sort of man you hope to see your daughters marry one day. There are plenty of folks in their world to teach them how to style their hair or shave their legs or use makeup. If you take care of your most important task, being a good man -- father -- husband (?) -- the rest is just stuff.

Oh, and it would be awesome if you taught them the things you know, maybe baseball or woodworking or auto mechanics or making a great spaghetti sauce. Guy stuff is important to know, too!

Answer 8

That's really great of you. A lot of dads would not even stop to think about these types of thngs.

Well I don't think that girls NEED to have a woman influence in their lives, but it can help sometimes - esp. if she doesn't have any sisters (not your case).

I would try REALLY hard to avoid them looking towards the media for help in this situation. Don't let your girls grow up watching MTV/E/VH1 to feel crappy about themselves. Oh god...if I see another girl/wannabe Paris Hilton, I'm going to move out of the country.
But anyway, back to your question - if you didn't want to go to a female relative to act as their mentor, you can always take them out to girly places, like shopping to help them find their own sense of style (BIG part of growing up). And do things a mother would do, like take them to get their hair cut regularly (let them choose which hairstlye they want), let them paint each other nails....stuff like that. Remember that girls also learn from other girls, so let them have as many sleepovers as possible! They're the best way for girls to learn social skills as well as have fun being girly. ^_^

Good luck! ^_^

Answer 9

You put them in dresses, fix their hair, buy them barbie dolls, girl things. I worried about this same thing when I had boys, I didn't even have brothers so I was scared but we did fine! My co workers taught me to catch with a glove on lunch breaks when my boys started playing ball LOL, I had never done it before, I grew up on a horse farm in the middle of nowhere! Know who they are and what they like to do and encourage them that way. Its awesome that you thought of this though! I know guys that just dress them like boys and treat them like boys. As far as more grown up monthly girl things get some help from a female friend if you aren't confident you know enough to get through them, when my son learned those things in health class he called me at work to check because he honestly thought they were lying and that it was just too horrible to be true! LMAO!

Answer 10

My dad raised me on his own from when I was 10. Just do your own research and when you do talk to them and teach them the things they need to know, make sure you don't act embarrased. If you do, they might be ashamed of themselves as women. Let them know that everything they go through and learn is normal.

And, just want to commend you on taking care of your daughters. You are a good father.