me and my ex have been on and off for a long time. Even after we broke up we still remained good friends and we still did "stuff" together. We have only been sleeping with eachother and we both agreed to keep it that way. Just today my friend calls me and tells me he has a date on friday with some girl he met at the bar. Shouldnt this be something i should have heard from him?
2006-08-09 17:52:53 · 29 answers · asked by andrea lynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, since you both seemed to agree that being eachothers sex buddys was the way to go, other stuff really shouldnt concern you. If you want him for something else, TELL HIM! tell him or loose him is what I say.
2006-08-09 17:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Roger N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world, you should have heard it from him. Unfortunately, post break-up nookie typically means there are no strings attached--at least on one person's part. I've found that when a former couple continues to hook up, one person still has feelings and is trying to hold on, while the other is simply hanging around for the action.
You need to ask him about this. But again--now that you aren't together, there's not much you can do about him seeing other people (or even about the fact that he didn't tell you.) It's just something that is going to happen in a friends with benefits (or, as my friends and I called it in college, "non-committal booty") situation.
My best advice? Kick him out of the way and find someone who is willing to be completely yours.
2006-08-09 18:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look sweetie your not together he has no obligation to tell you anything. just go on with life and enjoy being free.life is way too short to wonder about stupid things. guys will be guys and as long as you are giving it up just remember it is only sex . just go on with life and find a good guy never settle. and remember all men are pigs but their is always that one special guy that will always think your special and adore you always. So I guess what I'm saying is have fun and don't let him make you feel bad ,your friends and that's it go have a real life without him. good luck
2006-08-09 18:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by bonnie j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sure only with each other lol.Give ur head a shake / wake up .He is using u .How did ur friend hear about other date did he tell her knowing she would tell u?This letting him off hook.You need 2 get back in action yourself this relationship appears 2 be going no where.
2006-08-09 18:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you assume that because he has a date that they're going to do "stuff".
is that becuse YOU are so casual about stuff that you don't have to be BF/GF, just good friends. By stuff i quess you mean sex.
do you have sex with all your good friends, or just your boy friend.
what IS your relationship to each other, do you know.
exclusive sex with a good friend not a boy friend?
what is the difference, what does it matter to a friend if the other friend goes bowling with some one they met, no, they have to be doing "stuff".
Sound like you are jealous, how can you be jealous of a friend(not boy friend).
You created this with your loose rules/definitions(morals).
i assume the "friend" that called you is a different "friend" than the "friend" you are doing "stuff" with.
sounds confusing and stupid.
2006-08-09 18:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.y do u expect him to tel u sumthng thats personal.wen u urself hav decide to keep it till bed then y do u expect him to share his personal life wid u.i know u hav been into a relationship wid him earlier and thats the reason y u want him to tel u but now forget the past and continue ur so called relationship.sweetheart its not easy to b frenz with ur ex so its better to stop everythng and luk out 4 another guy b4 ull b surrounded by a feeling of jealousy and then it will not b easy 4 u to get over by it
2006-08-09 18:00:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL!!! if your your bf didnt tell you he didnt want you to now or maybe didnt want to hurt you by saying he was going to see another girl and if you ask him about hell most likely will say that you guys are broken up and r free 2 do whatever you guys want sooooooooooo, what i would do is get a date to and see if he likes it and if he dosent and starts bitching that means he like s you alot more then you thougt so you guys are better off being together..... :) good luck .: GrUmPy:.
2006-08-09 18:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have told you. Maybe he thinks you have an open relationship . You said you have an on and off relationship who knows what he does when the "off " part of the relationship. He may regularly date and sleep with other girls during that time period.
Talk to him and ask what up?
2006-08-09 18:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by divag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you had an agreement, so now you want more to the agreement? Are you jealous....did you think sleeping with him would hold him....did you think you could handle this arrangement? Women are always much more emotional (usually) than men, so I would think it is harder for you just to sleep with him. Have you been dating also, if so then it shouldn't be a problem for him to date either. Looks like it's time to reevaluate your feelings regarding your sleeping arrangement.
2006-08-09 18:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE your friends. my ex did the same thing your fault you shouldnt remain friends stop it you ll get hurt, i know she did even though we were "just friends" she got hurt when she found out i did it to another female. so typical, dont worry hes not thinking of you like that anymore and you should do the same.
2006-08-09 18:00:12 · answer #10 · answered by Adrian N. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋