I've asked out a lot of guys and they allways say no because of my weight who cares if I'm fat I have a good personality and I'm very sweet but it's like they don't care.
2006-08-09 17:49:55 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I always look inside , not outside ,,,
2006-08-09 17:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by Azul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unfortunately physical attraction is usually what initially attracts people to one another. This goes for both men and women. If they don't find the person attractive to look at, they figure why waste their time.
Beauty is only skin deep, with age it will fade and they better pray to God that he or she has a REALLY good personality to hold the relationship together. There are some very beautiful people on the outside that are very ugly on the inside. And then, there is always the fact that some people are just flat out SHALLOW. They don't want to take the time to get to know someone.
Don't let it get you down, honey. Not all men are about the figure. You just haven't found the right one yet, but you will. Be patient. I would rather have someone love me for me, then what I look like.
When you least expect it.....is when you will find that special person,
Good luck.
2006-08-09 17:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are comparing them to women, there is some
validity to your complaint: Evolutionarily, men instinctively look
for signs that indicate a potential mate is fertile. These signs
are shiny hair, white teeth and a certain magic hip to waist
ratio. These basically activiate libido. Period.
Women have a two pronged evolutionary goal: Get their
genes into as many different family trees as possible and
make sure that the current brood survives to the next
generation. Therefore, they are looking, at least somewhat,
for good providers - this tends up requiring at least some
knowledge of the guy's personality.
Of course, instincts are only part of our makeup - humanity
could perhaps even be outlined by our ability to act outside
of our instincts.
So, your statement is a generalization. Some men do look
at the inside - some women only look at butts.
As women have been doing for millenia, you end up making
friends with the guy and triggering his other mating behaviors
before libido.
2006-08-09 17:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...I think there is a good possibility that you are a very sweet person as you say. I'm sorry for the guys who said no because of your weight. I guess there are lot of qualities that people like in others and physical appearance is only one of them...that's the reason why so many people get such a shock after they get talking to someone who they went for based on appearance...and physical appearance does not have the power to sustain a relationship...only sensitiveness, consideration, friendliness etc have them...I guess you got to be yourself dear one and I hope in time someone intilligent will take note perhaps will wonder, 'will she say no if I ask her out' ...and above all, I really like your attitude to being fat...who cares!
2006-08-09 18:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by mu mu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, think about it, if you had to choose between someone hot and someone ugly right off the bat when you first met them, you'd most likely go with the hot one. No one wants ugly offspring. The personality comes later, and that's really the deciding factor for how long the relationship will last, wether it be for a lifetime, or a single night. Don't get me wrong, there are guys out there who'll go for the personality, but 9 times out of 10, its looks that hook a guy. That's the way it is, that's the way it's been, and that's the way it'll be.
2006-08-09 18:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by Samuel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about them, First thing is to get guy friends and just be friends for a while so they get to know the true you and once that happens he will fall madly in love with you. All good relationships start off as friends first, because most people do look on the outside however it is the personality that matter because with age nothing stays or looks the same. Good Luck Girl!
2006-08-09 17:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by rockwithelmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 11:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by starich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because they don't care. If they really did care, they would be able to look past your appearance. My suggestion is to just hold off a little and someday the right guy will come along. There's no sense in trying to go out with any old guy who doesn't really care. You'll just get hurt.
2006-08-09 17:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by angelsong_04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to look for the guys who arent shallow. A guy who is willing to accept a girl who isnt 100 pounds blonde and ditzy. Beautiful girls come in all shapes and sizes and some of us are lucky to find guys that appreciate us no matter what our inside and outside flaws may be.
2006-08-09 17:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual creatures. They react to good looks first. I would suggest online dating. Let the men get to know that great personality first. There are some out there that can look past the outside,but be warned there aren't many.Try to be patient.
2006-08-09 18:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by davidandmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not fat, but guys don't ask me out. Don't worry about it. There are plenty of men out there who do care more about who you are inside, you just have to go to the right places to meet them. Many men are shallow and stupid, but the right one is out there for you. Don't give up.
2006-08-09 17:53:58 · answer #11 · answered by Scarlet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋